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Thank you note question

We are having a debate, and hopefully you girls can help! We are getting married in a month, and FIL's friends gave them a gift to give to us (they are coming to the wedding but didn't want to bring it along). We of course opened it right away :) ...but I didn't know if we should sort of pretend like we didn't and send a thank you note after the wedding, or just go ahead and send one now (I'd rather just send it out now). Any advice? TIA!

Re: Thank you note question

  • edited December 2011
    To keep myself organized, I saved cards/reciepts until after the reception to send all TYs out at the same time. That way I could also thank them for coming to celebrate with us. If it was an actual gift, I just wrote what it was in the card so I could remember. I think its fine if you send it now, but it was easier for me to just wait and then do them all at once.
  • edited December 2011
    We sent ours asap, so safe myself from doing work after the wedding, and to let the person know we've received the item.
  • kryrosekryrose member
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    edited December 2011
    I have been having my showers lately and i think by all etiqudette you are suppose to have a thank you card within 2 wks of receiving a gift.  
  • edited December 2011
    Gifts before the wedding I sent thank you's immediately (b/c I knew I would forget something/someone).  For the wedding gifts, we went through everything and on the envelope of every card I wrote what the gift was so I can just go through all the cards to write thank-you's (which I've been very successfully putting off . . . blah)
  • kryrosekryrose member
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    edited December 2011
    I am doing the same thing if the gift came with a card I write what the item was on the card makes keeping track much easier!!!
  • edited December 2011
    Up until the week before the wedding, I went ahead and mailed them out, for 2 reasons, #1 I didn't want to look ungrateful, and #2 to let the person know I did receive the gift. The rest I wrote a few days after I got home from the honeymoon.
  • kerrkerr member
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    edited December 2011
    Send a thank-you now! I got gifts 3 months in advance and sent thank yous right away. You dont want to forget and you also want to let them know you got the gift! Etiquette is pretty lax on this issue, they say do whatever.
  • Laura NLaura N member
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    edited December 2011
    I would say to send the thank you not asap. You could mention that you "can't wait to share the day with them" since you know they are planning to come to the wedding.
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