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Opinions? Kinda long.

We have a friend that is going to be helping us out with a lot of misc. items for the wedding.  She wasn't asked to be a bm b/c at the time we asked people I didn't feel like her and I were as close.  We have been friends for years but our communications were fairly sparatic up until the past year or so.  I love her to death and wanted her to be a part of the big day, so we asked her if she would want to do things (such as handing out programs/bubbles to the guests as they arrive for the ceremony) and she was really excited to help out anyway she could.  We also have her doing a handful of misc. items at the reception.I'm starting to work on the design for our programs and I don't know what to call her, if that makes sense.  I obviously can't call her a bm b/c she really isn't one, but I don't want to just label her as the person who hands out the programs.  It feels restricting and wrong to me for some weird reason.  I did some research and it seems like most people in the same situation call this person an honorary bm, personal attendant, or something of the like.I want to give her recognition for all of the hard work she will be doing.  I feel like honorary bm sounds as if she can't be with us for whatever reason.  I feel like personal attendant sounds like she is my slave.  FI thinks I should ask her which one she would prefer, but I know she will tell me not to worry about it b/c she is so selfless.  What do you think we should list her "position" as?  Any ideas are welcome!  Thanks girls!

Re: Opinions? Kinda long.

  • kelklumpkelklump member
    Ninth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I am not sure if this would fit for you but I'm calling mine hostesses. They are good friends but are not close enough to me for bridesmaids. They seem to like the term and it gets the point across!
  • edited December 2011
    Oooh... I like "hostesses."   I liked "attendant" also, but now I'm hearing something like "Hospitality Hostess" or "Hospitality Coordinator" for your friend. 
  • edited December 2011
    I have 3 friends who are not BM, but we are calling them "honor attendants" and giving them corsages and listing them in the program
  • tia0314tia0314 member
    Eighth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I like hostess!
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  • edited December 2011
    hostess sounds great! I think that she would love that you honored her in that way. I also like that it would be a surprise to her!
  • doubledockdoubledock member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We are callling my friend :wedding hostess....she is invited to the rehearsal dinner, giving her a corsage and listed in our program. hope that helps!
  • edited December 2011
    I think that I like the wedding hostess idea.  That's great!doubledock:  we are doing the same thing; listing her in the program, giving her a corsage, and including her in the rehearsal and rd.Thanks so much ladies!  I think that might be the winner!!
  • HolliWouldHolliWould member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Call her a gaffer, or a key grip!  People will wonder.
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