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Family Dramz--Walk down the Aisle

stephm77stephm77 member
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Part 1) So I am not super close to my dad. My mom died when I was eight, and he remarried my step-mom who was physically and emotionally abusive to me and my sister. I moved out at 17, but then he left my step-mom for about 2 months and tried to start a life without her with just me and my sister. I am lucky though, because I have great grandparents who have treated me like their child and let me live with them when they got back together. I still haven't forgiven him for choosing her over me and my sister (maybe sounds silly, but thats what it has always felt like.) For almost a year of my engagement, I said that my stepmom couldn't come because I didn't want a negative abusive person I haven't talked to in 5 years to be at my wedding. THEN my dad said he wouldn't come if she didn't. So I let him bring her.

Part 2) I am really close to my grandparents, so I decided to have both my dad and grandpa walk me down the aisle.

Part 3) When I tell my dad this, he says, "I don't really like those kinds of things, so you can just have grandpa do it."


HE IS MY DAD. I don't know whether to force him to do it out of spite, or say screw you and just have my awesome grandpa do it by myself. Any advice? Sorry for the long family dramz post, but sometimes I need a non-family perspective.
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  • AlbireoAlbireo member
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    WHY do you want your dad to be there? He doesn't want to be there. He's a neglectful heel. His wife is abusive and negative. He abandoned you and your family.

    All your father did for you was donate a little squirt of genetic material, it sounds like. I say screw him and be surrounded by family who loves you.
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  • uberclaireuberclaire member
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    It's YOUR day, and he has to stop whining about what HE wants. YOU were kind enough to let him bring the wench. I say you only let him have ONE thing he wants - He can either bring the wench and walk you down the aisle, or leave the wench at home and not walk you down the aisle.

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  • girl2bewedgirl2bewed
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    edited May 2010

    If I were you there would be absolutely no way I would allow my step mom to come with how you described her physcially and emotionally abusing you. You didn't want anything to do with her then and still don't. Why would you want her at your wedding..your dad is selfish for not understanding that. I get that he is your dad and you want him there, but that would be a tough call to have him there only if you invited his horrible wife who you have every reason to hate.

    As far as the question at hand, your dad is showing no interest in any part of his duties as your father. He doesn't want to walk you down the aisle, then fine, dont let him par take in that honorable experience, your grandpa can walk you down instead.

    You are a stronger person then me, because I would tell my dad that the step mom doesn't get to come, so he can decide how important his daughter is to him to come alone or not at all. Good luck

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  • AmoroAgainAmoroAgain member
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    You guys are ridiculous.  We gave her better advice on Etiquette.  Perhaps you should all take your heads out of your butt and think it over a bit.

    I really hate the "it's YOUR day" crap.  Makes me think of little 6 year olds who are waiting for their pony on their birthday.
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  • ndnikki06ndnikki06
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    If you really want your dad to do it then I would sit down and tell him why it's important to you.  Otherwise, I think it's totally cool that you just have your grandpa.
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  • MarinoRabenoMarinoRabeno
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_family-dramz-walk-down-aisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:3f4b4c80-e7eb-4b2d-b4eb-23d32c995d1fPost:52ad20dd-0a10-4058-a249-fc7a4b25eb5d">Re: Family Dramz--Walk down the Aisle</a>:
    [QUOTE]You guys are ridiculous.  We gave her better advice on Etiquette.  Perhaps you should all take your heads out of your butt and think it over a bit. I really hate the "it's YOUR day" crap.  Makes me think of little 6 year olds who are waiting for their pony on their birthday.
    Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

    I'm sorry, did you say that YOU were on the ETIQUETTE board? Interesting...
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