Confession

NicoleSahara · July 2009

Inspired by Mandy, who is also smiling and pretending to be happy to be a good wifey...My birthday was last week (7/22), and because it's so close to the wedding, it was the lamest birthday ever. FI works a lot, so he didn't have time to get me a present, which I understand. But still, nothing? Not even a card? On the one hand, I feel like a spoiled, entitled brat. But birthdays are always big for us, so on the other hand this stings a little.Anyone else have a confession?

ndzenowski · July 2009

I confess that FI's parents orginally offered to help us pay for the wedding before we were engaged and now that we're engaged they haven't even said anything suggesting that they'd like to help pay for it. I'm a big girl and having the wedding that FI and I can afford (W/O CCs, screw that) but it sucks quite a bit and I've cried a bit over it. FI's parents are very very very well off and could pay for us to have the wedding of my dreams w/o blinking or thinking twice about it but they dislike me severly and while we're fixing all that and getting along now, I think they're secretly pissed we're engaged. They went 4 years hoping our relationship would end and now they might be stuck with me.

sunflower1998 · July 2009

I'm (selfishly) worried that I won't get much for my birthday in August. Since we were just married and I still haven't found a full-time job, money is tight. In the past, DH has always taken me to a nice dinner and given me a really nice gift, so I'm hoping he continues the tradition.I know.. I'm such a selfish brat!

anna.oskar · July 2009

Happy late Birthday! Confession: I think I'm going to have the same sort of birthday you had and I will pout about it.

georgia_bride09 · July 2009

Confession: There's an older bitter lady (a la pumpkin's accountant) that is getting on my last nerve here at work. It takes a lot to rile me up, but yesterday she was asking our other co-worker what sort of hours "do Georgia and Virginia keep" (Georgia- me, obviously and Virginia, my other co-worker whio works about my same hours and is currently on vacation). She (bitter old hag) works 7:00-3:30; I work 9:00-5:30 or 9:30-6:00. We're allowed due to flex time. I'm thisclose to going over there and telling her if she has a problem with me, say it to my face and it is none of her damn business when I leave work. I'm riled up just typing this.

CubsGirl05 · July 2009

My birthday is on Wednesday, and everytime someone asks H what he is getting me (in front of me) or ask what I want for my birthday, H always says "I got you a Wii 4 months ago" (Granted, I told him if we bought one, it could be birthday present and Valentines present, etc...but I wasn't completley serious! Something small would be nice!)

mandysmear · July 2009

i had a couple friends not give us gifts or cards for the wedding. i didn't want gifts but cards are a big deal to me. i spend a lot of time looking for cards for people.

NicoleSahara · July 2009

I so want to say something to him about it, but what could I even say? "Hey, where's my presents?" Probably not. I joked about it with him and he said, "Well it's already past your birthday now." Smartazz.

betrothed123 · July 2009

My birthday was earlier this week and for the first time since we got together my H planned something special for me. I was super stoked about it. The morning of the plans the vast majority of the invitees called and told H they couldn't make it. We still went out and had a great time, but one of my friends ended up calling a few of his friends to come join so we'd have enough people. I'm quite pissed at my friends for agreeing to a time and event, backing out at the last minute, and not even calling to say happy b-day.

NicoleSahara · July 2009

Me too Mandy! I've kept every card I've ever received. Have some from my 12th birthday still. It's not that difficult, and it means a lot to people. I'd be bitter about that.

MissIntentional · July 2009

ndz--i'm in the same boat as your. fi's mom is NOT happy we are engaged. her reaction was WHAT?! & then excused herself to the restroom. i haven't seen or talked to her since. she makes great money & doesn't plan to contribute, which is fine since we can still have a great wedding without a penny from her. it's kind of nice to be able to tell her she can't invite people.

SwedishChick2011 · July 2009

I have a really great boss, but it drives me up a wall when he walks through my office every time to get to his office when he has his own entrance. Also, my FIL is here this weekend (who I really like), but he and my DH are going to be doing projects around the house and I'll probably have to help. I don't wanna!

babbles270 · July 2009

My birthday is today, my FI moved 7 1/2 hours away from me on Sunday, so i won't see him today. This is the worst birthday I've ever had. Luckily my friends are stepping up and trying to make it the best birthday ever, and I am so appreciative of their effort!

ndzenowski · July 2009

MissIntentional, it's very stressful! It's awesome that you can have a great wedding though without help from her. I'm considering getting eloped on the beach and coming home and having a cookout with the fam - or having a wedding in the park here. My family is very huge on weddings and I think they'd lynch me if I eloped though.

mwhitson14 · July 2009

betrothed, my 21st was that way, huge FAIL. We had planned quite a large party, reserved a section at a club, etc, then everyone bailed at the very last minute. Think, all dressed up, sitting in the parking lot of the club, crying, because everyone is calling canceling. My confession is that I did 30 minutes on the Wii Fit yesterday and I'm sore today. I haven't been working out in weeks, because I don't like to dish out money to the gym when there's wedding stuff to pay for, and also because I really cherish my nights when I have nothing to do.

MissIntentional · July 2009

yea that's the problem with eloping, you can't tell people you're engaged before you do it. then you're guilted into have a wedding.

kissybee · July 2009

FI's mom keeps hinting about wedding presents she's going to get us. First she was thinking a freezer (we have way too small a place for an extra freezer), then she asked if I planned to get china (um... no, sorry.) Anyway, obviously it's lovely that they're going to give us a gift (and by the sounds of it, a big one). BUT, they haven't offered to help with the wedding. Seriously - please just give us the money and we'll put it towards the wedding. That's what we want, that's what's practical and sensible. Why is it so difficult?

Lyss5782 · July 2009

Thank you guys for not making me feel alone! I am also (secretly) pissed at FILs for not offering to contribute to the wedding. My FI is an only child, and one-third of the guestlist is theirs...grrr....

Pirata13 · July 2009

FI & I rarely have days off together--he is off Wed & Thurs and I am off Sundays. We've talked about him trying to get one of the other people to take some Sundays, alternate, so that maybe we could have a couple days a month off together. I wish FI was more aggressive and would approach the boss and ask if they could start scheduling people to alternate. The one guy said "Well, I don't want to have to work EVERY Sunday" and FI said "Well how do you think I feel?" So anyway I guess my confession is that I wish FI would take charge of this before I really start to resent it all.

Lyss5782 · July 2009

Kissy...my FIs stepmom wants to make me a Barbie wearing a replica of my wedding dress. Not cash. A Barbie. I win.

bjporter88 · July 2009

Wedding gifts related... I work with two nurses that I invited to my wedding. They told me I should invite all of them because they make good money and give good gifts. Blah Blah. They gave $15 each. Seriously? I hate to judge, but don't freakin brag to me about how much money you make and the kicka$$ gifts you give and then bring $15. A $30 check, actually.

betrothed123 · July 2009

Thanks, Whit. That does make me feel a bit better. The big thing was that this is the first time I've celebrated my birthday in my entire life. All of my friends know this so they were all really excited to be getting together with us to celebrate..... and then they all bailed. It was quite a downer, but the people that my buddy called up ended up being awesome so we had a great time without my friends.

NicoleSahara · July 2009

bahaha Lyss!!

alisonz · July 2009

confession: my budget is 5-10k more than my fiance thinks it is.do I have to 'fess up?

SwedishChick2011 · July 2009

Happy Birthday, babbles! Sorry your FI can't be there.

NicoleSahara · July 2009

oh boy alison, here we go again. Probably not the best way to start a marriage, by lying to your FI, don't you think?

Lyss5782 · July 2009

BJPorter: I totally think NO gift would be classier than a cheap one.

georgia_bride09 · July 2009

mandy, I'm a card lover too. We're going to a wedding next weekend and I'll probably spend 20 minutes picking out the perfect card for a cousin who I haven't seen in 10 years, just because I hope she feels the same way.

NicoleSahara · July 2009

My goal when I'm writing cards is to make the person I'm giving it to cry. I guess it's not a goal, but I make sure they're really heartfelt.

betrothed123 · July 2009

Yes, Alison, you need to tell your FI.

scoetto · July 2009

I was just told by the owner of the company that I need to control my temper. Huh. I'm having temper tantrums at work? Interesting. I was also told I'm being too emotional and I shouldn't cuss. This doesn't sound like the way a boss treats adults. It sounds like the way parents treat their kids. After 8 years, I'm being treated like a 5 year old. Maybe it's time to move on.

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