Thanks FI.... Sort of a vent....

jessimaphone · August 2009

I know the boards tend to be slow on weekends, but I just got back from Dallas and had to express this embarassment!I came home to a STACK of RSVPS - yay! And as I'm going into the Excel sheet and marking off who is/isn't coming, entering in guest names and such... I notice at least four seperate occasions where FI has either a) spelled a guest's name wrong or b) Given me the wrong name entirely! Example: We invited Jeff and Katie from Chicago (a couple I don't know).... but when the RSVP came back, I find out her name is actually CARRIE. How embarassing! And unfortunately, I don't know every person he invited, so there is no way I could double check it apart from asking him to make sure it was all right.I feel awful - naturally those people are probably like "WTF? They couldn't even get our name right?" - and I know that whenever people think of things about a wedding, they think the bride is behind it. So now I'm just the insensitive bride who couldn't get someone's name right on an invite. Nothing we can do to change it now, so no point in really telling FI he was super sloppy/lazy on his guest list, but I feel like I should send a card to these people and tell them I'm sorry!

LovesPink927 · August 2009

Ugh, FI did that to me too!! It sucks because like you said, it always comes back on the bride! But, hopefully she was understanding with the fact that you don't know her and it was FI that does, so it would look bad on him

Men just don't get it! haha

ejay · August 2009

I know it's embarassing but I've gotten an invite before where my name was misspelled and they messed up FI's name entirely... I looked at it as just an oversight. I figured, oh well at least we are being invited in the first place. Try not to stress too much.

aprillm730 · August 2009

Oh jeez! I would be embarassed too. I think if it was me, I would tell FI he really F'd things up and make him call them to apologize!! haha

RachelCheetah · August 2009

:-S that would embarrass me too, even though it's not your fault at all. If you remember which ones he did that too - mis-spellings are one thing - shrug it off - but complete wrong names maybe try to put aside in your brain somewhere and mention it to them on your wedding day. If it were me, I would place full blame on the FI and apologize for the incorrection, but do it in a completely lighthearted manner. If your FI is not the kind who is able to take jokes like that then all you can do is shrug it off. They'll get over it :-)I think people kind of understand that things and names get mixed up and they probably realize that the bride does not know them yet to be able to correct what she was given (bum names!) and she was probably the one doing the invitations.

mink492 · August 2009

My FI did the same thing. We've had a lot of names come back different, mostly last names. But my favorite was a guy RSVP'd 2 last week when we only gave him 1 seat, so I asked why. FI says "well he is married but he was debating whether or not he wanted to bring his wife" wtf. how pissed would I be if FI got an invite without me on it, if we're married?! stoopid boys.

ms nobody · August 2009

poor carrie... she was probably thinking, "who the eff is KATIE, jeff?!?!?!?" now i'm definitely only going to trust FMIL to help when we compile the guest list- and i'll DEFINITELY be making fi "check" on spellings of last names just to make sure we're getting (at least the first) name right. I expect to get some misspellings, but i'll choke him out if he gives me the wrong name! hahaha

minca83 · August 2009

I feel your pain 100%!!! But my mortifying moment was a mistaken GENDER. My MIL gave me the list for their side of the family (I had actually never met any of my DH's cousins since they live in northern WI.) So, I sent an invite to DH's cousin, his wife and their two teenage children, one of whom my MIL listed as Erin....come to find out the name is AARON. Thanks mom

Kinda happy that they couldn't come and I never had to face the mistake on my wedding day!

stebbe81 · August 2009

My FI is terrible with names. He would do the same thing for sure. He doesn't even know some people's names lol. I am with PP I might have made him call and apologize lol.

jleigh1902 · August 2009

Why don't boys understand things like this! Lol. When we were making up a tentative guest list FI was like, "Yeah we have to invite Aunt X and Uncle Y and their kids...ummm...kid 1 and kid 2." Haha he actually called them kid 1 and kid 2 because he doesn't remember their names!

cinday · August 2009

When we got the printed envelopes there were spellings we missed on our spreadsheet that we gave to Plush Paper. We had to have a few reprinted because we felt bad sending them with the names spelled wrong. I would say something to your FI and let him know that it is important to you to get people's names right. I also think he should apologize to them, even a friendly message via e-mail or Facebook would be ok.

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