Children at the reception

overloaded · April 2011

Would it be rude to only invite the children thats in the wedding party to the reception. I know there are a few that has siblings that will not be invited. I mentioned this to on of the one parents and they said it would not be fair to her other children who could not attend. She said that if one attended they all had to attend. Or could I do just close family members children. Or If I invite one child do I have to invite all of them? If I invited every child there would be about 25 of them running around. I really dont want to pay $75 a plate for them to olny eat a few bites. Thats an extra $1875 and the reception hall only holds about 75 people.

TheDuckis · April 2011

It's fine to only invite the children in the wedding. There's a big difference between having 2 children at your wedding and 25 children, and if people don't get that, F them. They'll choose whether or not to come, and that's their right.

My flower girl was one of 4 children, and my ring bearer was one of 3. Neither of their parents blinked an eye at the fact that we didn't include the rest of their children in the invite.

blush64 · April 2011

I see your point but I can see her point too. It really wouldn't be fair to her children if one got to go but not the others. I have kids and this wouldn't work for me. She could always just send the child home after the ceremony but that causes different issues.

Hopefully the parents come up with something to make this work.

EDIT: I am inviting only the children of my siblings and the children of my FI's siblings. They are very close to me and actually lived with me for several years. I cut it off at the nieces and nephews because it gets crazy after that. (and I also accept children who are under 2 if the parents want them there)

baconsmom · April 2011

Life isn't fair. They'll get over it. As the host of the party, you get to set the guest list.

I'm betting this woman brings uninvited siblings to birthday parties, too.

DG1 · April 2011

eh. I personally do think it's rude. If you're close enough to these people to have their children in your WP, then you're close enough to invite all of their children, IMO.

If you wanted a "no kids" wedding and reception, I'd be all for it. But I don't see how you can draw arbitrary lines without causing a lot of hurt feelings.

MinM · April 2011

I couldn't imagine my nephew being invited to the reception and not inviting my niece (or vice a versa). It seems like a great way to hurt feelings.

baconsmom · April 2011

See, the one family wedding that happened when I was young, I was invited to the ceremony. My brothers were not. (None of us were invited to the reception.) Nobody cried about how unfair it was. I was old enough to behave myself, and they weren't, and in any case, it was the host's choice.

I see nothing wrong with it, and if I had more than one kid, I wouldn't be bitching about the invite, either. It's not a summons; if I feel like it's horrible, I can just decline.

AuntFlo · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_children-reception-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:ba486487-8ad1-4a29-b69d-e08a8810662ePost:2d7dbf05-470f-4a34-b157-51f0da879435">Re: Children at the reception</a>:
[QUOTE]eh. I personally do think it's rude. If you're close enough to these people to have their children in your WP, then you're close enough to invite all of their children, IMO. If you wanted a "no kids" wedding and reception, I'd be all for it. But I don't see how you can draw arbitrary lines without causing a lot of hurt feelings.
Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

agreed

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