I may be wrong, but I need to vent.

tangie73 · August 2009

So a colleague of mine sent me a text message asking if I got engaged. I replied yes. Through the conversation she tells me she's preparing her invitations. So I got my invitation to her wedding in the mail today. On the RSVP she filled in 1! I have decided I will save her the cost of my plate as well. I will not be attending if he cannot attend. Blast me if you must.

jen629 · August 2009

she filled it in? ok thats very odd to me

melissa721 · August 2009

How nice of her to ask you first if you are engaged and then completely ignore the fact when she sends your invitation.

adam_dana · August 2009

I wouldn't go either. I totally understand budgets and keeping guest lists under control. However, if a couple is married or engaged, I feel you should invite both or neither. Just half of the pair is rude to me

Rosie24 · August 2009

Some nerve. I don't think you are arong at all. I wouldn't go either. If you plan on inviting her to your wedding you should do the same on her invite...haha.

kathymarie · August 2009

What a weirdo. I wouldnt go. Just reply "no" and if she asks, tell her that you have a family commitment that day. If her and her fiance are on your list, I would still invite them so she can learn what an invitation should look like.

DiorAndKisses · August 2009

I know I may be totally off here...but is there even a TEENY possibility that your coworker is just clueless and honestly thought the 1 she filled in meant your "and one"??? I can't see how anyone would intentionally omit one half of an engaged couple, especially after asking! However, if it was intentional??? I totally wouldn't go. That's just messed up of her!

cherylanddan0706 · August 2009

I totally agree with Kathy, that is so weird for her to call and ask then not invite, and I mean I don't want to make the "sorry no kids/guest" phone calls either but I wouldn't spend my time writing in the number of invited!

jaimelody · August 2009

yea I was thinking the same thing... I wonder if she meant plus 1. But I wouldn't go if it was intentional. I mean why would she have even asked?

USER876 · August 2009

Cross it out with a two and send it back

cherylanddan0706 · August 2009

Augh User no! RSVP nightmare!

kathymarie · August 2009

Was the envelope addressed to just you, or you plus guest? Inner envelope?

ddelo23 · August 2009

I would totally do what user suggested!

brad1431 · August 2009

instead of all the games, I would just call and ask her what is up with it and go from there. Could be an honest mistake, better off asking then assuming

kewltif · August 2009

For once in my life, I completely agree with Brad.

cherylanddan0706 · August 2009

Ill never admit what tiff said, so after reading everyones opinions, and seeing other sides, I agree with Tiff!

velveena · August 2009

Huh? It's got to be a mistake. Call her. If it wasn't a mistake, you can vent again

brad1431 · August 2009

thanks Tif

tangie73 · August 2009

Before leaving school for summer we were discussing her wedding. She had stated then that she wasn't sure if she was inviting plus ones. I would have believed that it is possibly a mistake if she hadn't sent another colleague a message of apology for not inviting her husband to the wedding. Yet her FI wants my friends husband to serve as the DJ for free. I really don't understand the logic.

CM1206 · August 2009

I agree with Brad and Tiff. Cross out 1 and write 2.

tangie73 · August 2009

Thank you all for your suggestions and your understanding.

kewltif · August 2009

Ok- This is the type of girl who is inviting someone to her wedding and then expecting them to DJ for free... I highly doubt she's on top of etiquette. If you really want to go I'd call her and ask. If you don't really care either way, then just decline.

mbcdefg · August 2009

When was the text? I'm wondering if she mailed you the invite, then said, "Oh sh*t, maybe she's engaged, I'd better check!" (Although then she probably would've said, "I sent you an invite, but please bring your FI, I didn't know you were engaged otherwise I would've included him.) Ditto Brad, call and see what's up. If you want.

justkris10 · August 2009

ditto user...cross it out or just don't care to spare the annoyace of having to do anything at all

melissa721 · August 2009

I'm curious for an update...

tangie73 · August 2009

Well I spoke to a few other colleagues and she basically sent all of us invitations with 1 on the RSVP. Basically, she will end up with a lot of us not attending because of this. I would just go to the church but they are doing the ceremony at the reception hall. I am sure we will discuss it sooner or later. Once I made the decision and vented with you guys, I'm over it.

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