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MIL to shower

Emeraldeyed315Emeraldeyed315
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Hello! My FMIL is throwing a couples showerfor my FI and I. They live in texas and that is where the shower is. They invited my parents. My mom and MOH asked me for a guest list for my shower in NY. Do I invite FMIL?FMIL is rude, loud, makes me feel bad about myself, is rude to my mom, etc. You know, all the things a MIL should be:-P Let me know what you think! My gut tells me I just should.
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  • ggmaeggmae member
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    Well, if she lives in TX and the shower is in NY, what are the chances of her coming? I'd just invite her to keep the peace. I left step-mother-in-law off my shower guest list because of MIL's beef with her and I still feel bad about that.
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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    While she may not deserve it, yes, you should invite her.
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  • Vancity GirlVancity Girl
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    Invite her, and hope she can't make it! :)
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Yeah you should.  Moms get invitations to showers regardless of where they are.
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  • C WC W
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    I left step-mother-in-law off my shower guest list because of MIL's beef with her and I still feel bad about that. Me too. We scheduled my shower on a weekend that she would be away to avoid drama. I feel awful.
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  • ggmaeggmae member
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    CM - SMIL is a nice woman, but FIL cheated on MIL with SMIL, so that's where the beef comes in. It sucks, but I wanted a drama-free day and MIL doesn't know how to be civil at times.
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  • lauralaurlauralaur member
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    Yes, you should invite her out of courtesy.Fingers crossed that she just can't make the trip.
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  • pumpkinpumpkinpumpkinpumpkin
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    FMIL is rude, loud, makes me feel bad about myselfIf this is truly the case, then why are you letting her throw you a shower? Of course your mother should invite her.
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  • TKOlsenTKOlsen
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    Sorry about that... you should invite her and hope she wont fly from Texas to New York! Also, Your fiance should talk to his mom about the way she treats his soon to be wife and potential mother of her grandchildren!
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  • C WC W
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    Hmm, ggmae that sounds similar but FIL didn't cheat with SMIL. I actually realllly like SMIL, but MIL is still so bitter about their divorce (they were married 35 years!) that I thought she would enjoy herself more if SMIL wasn't there. MIL didn't come to our engagement party because SMIL would be there and I really wanted her to come to my shower. I shouldn't have catered to her bitterness.
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  • charlsie26charlsie26
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    be the good person and invite her
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  • Emeraldeyed315Emeraldeyed315
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    Thanks for all the posts! I posted before about the drama surrounding the shower she is throwing me in texas. Its in one of my old posts. Since things are escalating and she is now making my own mother feel bad, FI said he will talk to her and his dad to try and make things better. Thanks for all the tips and advice:)
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