POLL: Last name

cinthia122 · August 2009

Hi ladies. Are you keeping your last name, changing it, or hyphenating it?This is a big debate for me, because I just want to keep my last name, and my FI is having a COW about this.

YHFoxtrot · August 2009

Ahhh... this one... Same here honey. I don't want to give up my last name in the WORST way, but FI would be really offended. I mean, he says FINE do what you want but I know it means a lot to him. And when we have kids they will take his name so I thought about hypenating but since my last name is like a first name, it doesn't sound right and so I don't know what to do.I don't want to give up my middle name but I may have to and then turn my current last into my middle but I don't want his name. I don't.

jcalixtro · August 2009

i am hyphenating. my father's name is very unique (calixtro) and is dying off on his side. plus, i'd like to keep my name professionally. my FI kinda threw a mini-COW about it in the beginning, lol, but has learned to accept it because he respects me as an individual. our children will have only his last name

girllennon · August 2009

I'm changing my last name (mine maiden name is very common)...my family member have done all 3, so I'm of no help.

jcalixtro · August 2009

i'm right there with you foxtrot.. i would bump it into my middle name but i don't want his name to take over, and it happens because no one really cares what your middle name is, just your middle initial is asked fori think it all depends on how you word it when you're explaining it to FI too

goldie3474 · August 2009

if both of our names were on the short side I would def hyphenate but we have insane last names so to hyphen would be the whole darn alphabet. Since he is veryyy traditional he wants me to take his name. I get uncomfortable when I think about it but ultimately I want my last name to be the same as my children so that's what pushed me over the edge and made me decide to change it. Doesnt mean I like it lol

FutureMrsFezz · August 2009

Changing.

tshura · August 2009

adding his last name on...(without the hyphen)

JillianLL · August 2009

I cant wait to get rid of my last name. FI's is very short and easy to spell and pronounce. Jaim, I think you oculd hyphenate bc your last name is only one syllable. I love your last name and kind of like the fact that its sort of a first name.

alexisrouse00 · August 2009

I totally want a hyphen, but FI just wants me to get rid of my last maiden name. So since he hasn't had any say so's in any wedding related decision, I've decided to allow him to make this life altering decision.

YHFoxtrot · August 2009

Jill, I want to hyphenate but I want that for the kids too... but if I do that with the kinds then I wouldn't give them middle names but then everyone would just assume my last name was their middle name which would be tricky if it were a boy, you know?But to hyphenate AND do middle names seems a bit much no?

millenia98 · August 2009

I'm hyphenating BUT check me out...My last name is Rodriguez-Caceres - AND this is compound - it is legally bound together. That's my father's name, it's not a combo of both sides, just one name.With that said, I don't want to get rid of my hispanic name for an American one. Think canned soup :)I cannot be Christina "canned soup" - it will rid me of my latin roots by nature. Living a New York with a name like that...they'll really think I'm Greek or Italian or something!So, I'm hyphenating the first part my long last name with his long name

arlete · August 2009

wow, everyone has good points for their circumstances.From the beginning, even before we got engaged, I told him I wanted to keep my last name. My dad is the only child and has only 3 kids, me being the oldest, plus for professional reasons.So I'm hyphenating, my kids are having his last name.

aitirone · August 2009

Im so changing it and im SO excited!

vannessa&eddie · August 2009

I'm changing mine. My maiden name is SUPER commom (Garcia) so I don't think it'll be missed. I also LOVE the idea of having DH's last name. I would also like to have the same last name as my kids.

citytoshore09 · August 2009

My husband doesn't care if I change it or not, we've agreed our kids will have his name. (Maybe mine as middle/first, not sure). I haven't yet, I'm thinking about doing it before I renew my license this year. But I love my name... we'll see what happens.

sford75 · August 2009

LOL, I guess I'm in the minority on this one. FI doesn't want me to change my name. He loves my name and my name with his last, just doesn't go. Although, I may change it when we have kids.

EliNick · August 2009

Keeping my last name. And I told FI that I want our kids to have hyphenated last names.

Ha ha

ccrews16 · August 2009

Changing it. It's tradition and makes us feel like a true family.

JillianLL · August 2009

Jaim, good point. It can be kind of overkill. You could always hyphenate your last name now and then drop yours when you have kids. Also, I think it would be so sweet if you had a girl and her first or middle name was your last name.

jennej24 · August 2009

I think I am very reluctantly changing my last name. I don't want to, my first name, Jennifer is like the most common name, but currently my last name is very unique and I am fairly certain I am the only one with my full name. FI's name is very common, which I guess doesn't matter much but my name just seems like it will be so boring. My FI doesn't get it at all, he basically says his name is better. He doesn't get that this is my whole identity changing. In the end I am sure I will change it because I want to have the same last name as my kids.

**Octoberbride09** · August 2009

I love how you can get very creative with this. Keeping my middle name (which is my moms maiden name) bumping my last and taking Fiance's name.

Anagloria83 · August 2009

Not changing, not hyphenating, I'm keeping my entire name.

TheJennius · August 2009

Well ... I always say it's lucky my name is Jennifer and not Maria Lupita de los Pilares, because otherwise it wouldn't sound as good as Jennifer Enser, eh?I thought aout hyphenating it, but my last name is super "Can you spell that for me?" prone $:\$ saves time!My dad likes to joke that Craig (FI) has to take our name when we get married. Oy.

tazdvl3 · August 2009

I'm pretty traditional and have always known I'd change my last name. I understand why people don't. In regards to hyphenating, I never really liked that.

vigi76 · August 2009

I have always known I would change my last name. It is not really an issue for me. It is funny because my friends (specially my law school friends) are always very surprised to learn that I am taking FI's last name. I come from a line of very strong and vrey independent woman, but, as I have explained to others before, my last name does not define me so it is not really an issue for me. Besides, once we have children, I will like to share their last name and, regardless of whether I change my name, I know I will be called Mrs. Weber (his last name). My FI was also surprised to learn that I would not hyphenate my name, and he is trying to convince me to keep my last name as my middle name (I don't have a middle name). I am starting to consider that. My office mate dropped her middle name when she got married and adopted her maiden name as her middle name. She told me it is a tradition in her family to do so, and I think it is a nice tradition, but I have not yet decided.

DRemA3 · August 2009

I am changing it. I am just waiting to get our marriage license back in the mail and off I go to get my new name official

However, my BIL, told me that since it is changed on Facebook, that in his opinion, it is already official LOL

tiffanyc0922 · August 2009

wow must be in the air... Fi and I had this discussion again last night.. i like my last name and don't want to change but he is still throwing a MAJOR COW about it!!!!! I will end up changing my name but it will take some time to get used to

Bebekah · August 2009

My current last name is hyphenated and I don't have a middle name. I going to take his last name (it's a wonderful adjective!) and initial mine and leave it in the middle.

muddilicious · August 2009

I kept mine, but DH knew that would be the case for years now.IF we ever have a kid, I don't know what we will do.

Nydia82 · August 2009

Vanessa&Eddie, I'm a Garcia too! I can't wait to change my last name. I've always thought there was something very romantic about taking my husbands last name for my own.

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