Changing Name Scew Disco.

emilykathleen511 · August 2009

So, I read the other post about changing names, and I have been seriously struggling with this decision, so I just thought I would see what some other opinions are on it.I really keep going back and forth on this. I want to keep my name because I am a feminist and I like my name, but at the same time, I want to have the same name as my family/children. I thought about not changing my name until I have children (then the name change would be connected to my children and not just because I'm getting married), but I was told by my sister that it would be much more difficult to get it changed later, and she thinks if I'm going to change it, I should just do it when I get married and not "mess around."I also have considered adding a second middle name, but that just seems to get long and complicated. I don't want to hyphenate. I am too attached to my middle name to change that part of my name.At this point, I am pretty sure I will be taking my darling FI's name, but I feel like no matter what I do I will not be happy with my decision.Any other options out there that I haven't thought of? Anybody else feel this way?

MissSarah786 · August 2009

Firstly, I'm in CA and I was told that if you're going to change your name, you have x-amount of time to do so and if you wait even just a couple of years after the wedding, you can be denied the name change because there isn't a "good reason" for it. You could always hyphenate the kids names, so you have your name and your husband has his, the kids are a combo. I made my last name my middle name, but you can have two middle names. You says that's a bit much, but it might be a good compromise.

temerityjane · August 2009

I think two middle names is a fine compromise. It may seem long and complicated, but you can use them however you want. When you write it, you can write Firstname A. B. Lastname, or Firstname A. Maidenname Lastname, or ... however you want.

louisvillebride21 · August 2009

I already have two middle name. I actually like it, its a little different. Just tack your maiden on to your middle.

mocha beans · August 2009

I like TJ's idea.Though my one piece of advice, my middle name is hyphenated, and the whole thing is long. Which wouldn't bother me except my legal first name is long, and FI's last name is long. So I'll be dropping my last name, dropping my mom's maiden from my middle, and just being first middle FI's last.

fangsiting · August 2009

Why is it such a big deal to have the same name as a family? I guess I just don't get that. You aren't less of a family with your maiden name.

sarahmk5 · August 2009

I'm going to have two last names, so I'll be Sarah Mylast Hislast. I was important to me, as well, to have the same last name as my children, whose last names will be hyphenated. My FI is considering doing the same thing that I am for similar reason, so he'll be Man Mylast Hislast.

mandysmear · August 2009

Didn't I just answer this question an hour or so ago?

[Deleted User] · August 2009

why wouldn't your children have the same last name as you?

emilykathleen511 · August 2009

Why is it such a big deal to have the same name as a family? I guess I just don't get that. You aren't less of a family with your maiden name.I know we wouldn't be less of a family with different names; it's just something that I want and is important to me (I guess the things that I want and are important to me are at odds with one another...that seems to be the problem).

emilykathleen511 · August 2009

why wouldn't your children have the same last name as you?Yeah, I guess my FI could also be the odd one out (I have considered this as well), but I don't like that idea any more than me being the odd one out...I guess I'll just do the whole Emily Kathleen MaidenLast HisLast. I just haven't been able to shake the feeling that I'm settling...but on the other hand, I know I would regret it if I didn't change my name. Anyway, I guess I'll just have to suck it up.

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