name change poll

TeaForMe · August 2009

Not my own poll..My local TV station has a poll every other day or so on their website. Today's is "Should a woman change her name once she is married?" The possible responses annoy me.www.kare11.comI apologize that I don't know how to make it clicky

So I shan't be offended if you don't look at it. I are teh suck.

ring_pop · August 2009

Yeah, how come "It's up to her" isn't a response?

Carebear517 · August 2009

I just went through the name change process this week and it was a PITA. At the SS office they let me change it and have my maiden name as my middle name, but when I got to the DMV I was told that it's not legal to do that here without a court order. I was already sick of paperwork and waiting in lines so I just did first name and new married name.

I think it's an individual choice and no one should be pressured into it by their husband/family/whoever if they are not comfortable with it.

J&K10910 · August 2009

Tea, did I know you're in MSP?

TeaForMe · August 2009

RP- I know! Ugh. J&K - I don't post too much, so probably not I think Fische is the only one who's "outed" me as MN

lyndausvi · August 2009

carebear - I had the same issue. So now I'm a 2 last name person. My sister changed her middle name without issue. But she did her change in DE.

J&K10910 · August 2009

FIshy has a 6th sense for all things MN. Now that I think about it though, I feel like I realized it a while ago, and then you disappeared for awhile.I could be totally making that up though

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

I think one of the options should be "Why the fluck am I taking a poll about something in which I have no say?"

emilykathleen511 · August 2009

I just sent them an e-mail indicating how appalled I am at the possible responoses. *shakes head* This is my hometown station as well. Boo.

zippityb · August 2009

So what does the DMV want your middle name to be? Your regular middle name?

TeaForMe · August 2009

Emily - I sent them an email too. I mean, it's not exactly a scientific poll or anything, but come on! J&K - I like to keep things on the DL usually.

gkb0910 · August 2009

I just heard on my radio station that there was a poll done in American (done every year) about this. 70% of Americans feel a woman should take the man's name.

*BeachBride0410* · August 2009

I am def. included in that 70%

marinabreeze · August 2009

I think that the TV station poll should have included the man changing his name, as well as it's up to the woman. Personally, I know a couple in which the husband took his wife's last name.BTW, I heard about the same poll that gkb0910 mentioned on my local radio station. They also said in addition that over half of all respondents said that there should be a law requiring a woman to take her husband's last name. I don't think I agree with either, really. It should be up to the woman. It reminds me of my cousin's wedding, where the pastor expounded at length during the ceremony about how the bride was doing the right, "proper" thing by taking my cousin's last name...*cringe.*I plan on taking my FI's last name legally, but using maiden and married together professionally (because I'm in academia and your reputation follows your name). But I don't think there is a right way or that every woman should take her husband's last name. It should be up to the woman.

fangsiting · August 2009

half thought there should be a law?!?! wow. I really hope that poll is flawed. Stuff like this makes me so angry.

mocha beans · August 2009

MN and the Dakotas are taking over, muah hahaha! Huh, there's a pretty big percentage that says the woman takes her husband's name. I would have thought it wouldn't be quite that much, but at least there's a decent percentage that have no opnion on it.

mocha beans · August 2009

There should never be a law dictating what either person has to do. That would infuriate me, and one law I'd be happy to break.

TeaForMe · August 2009

What annoys me is that my friend who isn't changing her last name has to defend her decision to half the population (or more than half)And then I, having decided to take my fiance's last name, have to justify my reasons for that too (Yes, I'm still a feminist. No, I'm not doing it just because I'm "supposed to" or because male-dominant society tells me to).It's kind of a no-win situation. I think we should just combine our last names and make up a totally new one.

lyndausvi · August 2009

I'm not surprised by the poll's results. We have a passenger manifest on the boat. Our guests come from across the country, educated and pretty well off. I notice that about 75-80% of the woman take their husband's names. I am surprised that people actually think it should be a law, let alone 70%. I hate when people make stupid has nothing to do with anything type laws.

Audrey_03 · August 2009

The "it should be a law" thing makes me sick to my stomach. If there were a law like that, I would not ever consider marriage.

As a side note, I know there was a law in Indiana (in 1995) that said if a married woman wants to give her baby a last name other than that of her husband -- even if it is her own last name or a hyphenated last name -- her husband has to sign a permission form. An unmarried woman, however, can give her baby whatever last name she likes. Not sure if that law is still on the books, but it wouldn't surprise me.

diva1397 · August 2009

I suspect that the number of "yes" votes might be artificially inflated by people who didn't read the question carefully and answered it based on personal experience.Along with PPs, I agree that your name is your choice. I wanted to change my name, so I did.

jasmineh7777 · August 2009

I doubt I will take my FI's last name. However, it would be a definite NO if people were pressuring me too; Yes, I am that bullheaded.Maybe I'm crazy, but I thought that in some countries hyphenated last names were common? I want to say that this was mentioned in a Spanish class of mine..maybe?

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