wedding dress, too many people? Avoiding it completely?

elishanb · August 2009

I have finally found a time to get three out of my 5 MBs together to go with me to try on some dresses.. and it's today at 4. My mom is also coming in town next week (not as excited as most people would be) so we'll be looking at dresses at least one day next weekend too. My mom doesn't know that I'm shopping today but I feel like I have to get a look around before I go with her, that way hopefully it will be a shorter trip. Is that terrible of me? I'm so not convinvced that I am going to find "the one" but I'm hoping I find something!! Anyway my question is how many people do you think is too many people to take when trying on dresses? Cause I have a whole bunch of people that keep saying "OOh it'll be fun I'll come with you and you'll find something great" I feel like I'm going to snap and just tell everyone to stay home. I want this to be fun I really do, but I feel this mystery dress and the hunt for it is taking a life of it's own.

EmilyBerdell · August 2009

I went once and only had my Mom with me. It was a special trip for us, and I love that we had that experience just for us to share. I think too many opinions will be difficult to navigate and for me, I think your number is probably the max that I would take. There were six of us picking out BM dresses and that worked out OK, but that was BM dresses. For the bride's dress...less might be more, you know? JMHO & HTH.

frognjessi · August 2009

Personally. I think you should take one or two people tops! The more people you take the more opinions, the more disagreements, the sooner you're likely to freak out! Trying on dresses is supposed to be a memorable time, but it's also very stressful! Good Luck!

jlryan1 · August 2009

I had 4 people with me and it worked out well, but I really think any more would have been overwhelming. Do what feels right for you, but try not to overwhelm yourself. HTH.

skybluejen · August 2009

I had 3 people with me (my step mom and 2 BMs) and it was the perfect amount. I think trying on dresses can be a little overwhelming, so I only brought a few people that I knew would give me straight, honest opinions.

king26 · August 2009

I made two trips. The first was just me and my mom which was really nice. We narrowed it down to 2. The next day I went back with my dad and my cousin (MOH) and they looked at them both with me. I think this was a nice way to include the most important people, but not have it be too overwhelming!

dicer2 · August 2009

My first trip was a bit overwhelming because there was so much to take in. I either went only with my mom, only with my sister, and the last trip I had my mom, her friend, and one of my BMs to help with my final decision.

AMK2009 · August 2009

I went 3 times total, the first time by myself, second time with my mom, and the last time was just to decide between two dresses, and I was by myself. I personally didn't want people's opinions, so I was more comfortable going myself.

d78 · August 2009

At most, I had 2 people. For me, my mom's tastes are so different, she was kinda the most difficult to take with me. That sounds terrible, but she kept encouraging me to try on things I hated. I did it, but then found things I liked to try on. Luckily, she wasn't offended that I didn't like her style, so it was fine. When I found "the one" I had one friend with me who has similar tastes. Good luck & have fun! Remember, it's what YOU like, not what others like! :-)

elishanb · August 2009

I think I'm just getting nervous. And my mother and I don't really see eye to eye on anything. so I am more nervous to take her with me than taking 100 people. I have a hard enough time buying jeans.. and this is a big purchase..

morainemom · August 2009

I'm kinda of sheepishly *lol'ing* at Dori's post.I suspect I was like her Mom. I figured out at the first shop that what I like is not what my daughter liked and was fine with that. (Although it didn't stop me from caressing all of the poufy princess gowns in the shops.)My daughter and her maid of honor went to look at gowns soon after she got engaged.Then she and I went to 3 other shops by ourselves. She found her gown at the last shop, Catan's in Strongsville, Ohio.It is YOUR gown - so don't let the opinions of others sway you. My daughter found some very $$$$ gowns that she loved that were out of our budget. She came home and researched other designers and found her dream dress (an Allure that is actually lovelier than the $$$$ Jim Hjelm gown) at a very affordable cost.

AMK2009 · August 2009

Elisha, it was MUCH easier for me to find a wedding dress then it usually is to find a pair of jeans!!!! LOL!

KimWard · August 2009

First time I went it was just my parents and I (yes, different, but I didn't want to leave my dad out), and the second time (where I found my dress) I had 4- my parents and 2 BMs. Some people think that's a lot, but I really enjoyed having them all there. But maybe my situation is different, b/c I went in there knowing what dress I wanted, and trying it on just confirmed that. Also, my parents/BMs are not the type to push strong opinions. They commented, then let it go. So I think it really depends on the personalities of the people going with you. HTH little, and have fun most importantly!!

colleenmclaughlin1 · August 2009

I went twice. The first time by myself and I tried on about 6 dresses, including "the one." I narrowed it down to 3 of those and then went with my mom, my sister (MOH) and my grandma. I tried them on least to most favorite and they confirmed "the one." I loved going by myself because I had no concept of what I liked (clearly because the dress I bought was a mermaid style and none of the pictures of dresses I'd found online were mermaid). It was such a relief to not have to listen to anyone. I let them have all the opinions they wanted about the final contestants, though.

pinksonya · August 2009

It's nice to limit the number of people, but you'll be shopping several times I'm sure! You may go alone to some shops and take friends or family to others. It's nice to have a few different experiences. When I had my mom and two sisters there, they all liked something different. One hated everything, one loved everything, and my mom loved everything traditional! Just have in mind what it is that you like, and don't worry too much about what everyone thinks!

JMele · August 2009

i had 2, FMIL and MOH. like previous posters said "the more ppl the more opinions. That's why i didn't take more than that, also I didn't want too many ppl seeing my dress. I'm really going for the element of surprise

kbielak17 · August 2009

I took just my mom, didn't want too many opinions. It worked out really well and we had a lot of fun

Have fun and GL!

elishanb · August 2009

Thanks for all the opinions.. we're leaving here in about 20 minutes.. should be fun!I'll have an update later

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