Stamp drama vent!!!

Re: Stamp drama vent!!!

• jeremy.teresa

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  Hun, I feel your pain.  My mom and sister have been doing the same thing to FI and I the whole time we have been engaged.  She didn't like that we booked our vendors so early.  She doesn't think that we did this right, or that isn't proper.  The list just goes on and on.  Although it hurts every single time I hear her say something, I just realize that there is no pleasing her.  Or most people when it comes to the decisions we decide on for the wedding.Just remember that its about you and your FI.  If she doesn't like the stamps, then oh well.  She should could have bought them.

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• centrefrenchie

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  I'm really sorry your mom didn't like them! Tell her to suck it up and deal with the fact that you aren't as traditional as her, and neither is anyone else anymore! My family would've loved those stamps, so I hope you get a call/comment from someone saying how great they are :-)

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• HolliWould member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  It's hard to be yourself when people can't resist telling you what you should or shouldn't be- Focus on the important things, and pity people who think that a difference of opinion on whether stamps are cute (you're right, of course- they are!!) is worth creating a fuss over and ruining a loved one's day over. If you haven't told her that her negative comments are hurtful- maybe you should.  If you HAVE told her, and it's had no effect, maybe you should tell her that you refuse to be hurt by them anymore, and you'll be forced to ignore them. If we can learn form our parents' mistakes..... then we'll just make different ones  n_n

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• jh2010 member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  Ah, yes, my mother is someone who feels she's needs to speak her peace. You're mom thinks they're innapropriate, but she's a squeaky wheel with direct access to you--it's no fun planning what's supposed to be a fun event with all that screeching in your ear.They are just stamps, but if you'd like to re-inforce the theme, I'm sure you could find a baker to put the Simpson's picture on a cookie... or perhaps just donuts as the favor? The possibilities are endless. (sorry, that's the vindictive part of me speaking)I agree with pp, you'll do a much better job of being a supportinve and guiding force in your own children's weddings (if they decide not to elope). A phrase I use (often), to keep it more polite, "that's just not the right choice for us." It helped diffuse the we're-not-getting-married-in-the-church decision. It may not work for stamos, but perhaps it could help in some other area.

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• KJ42008

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  Well I'm glad someone else is feeling like they should have eloped. Or at least a destination wedding with just family and if they want to come great if not great.... I have been so stressed lately. My twin who is also my maid of honor, I love her to death and I know her personality but it's just like this whole time of planning this wedding she has not been helpful at all. I know a lot of it has to do with I'm getting married and moving away from her and yes, it's sad but If she was in my position she knows for a fact I'd be so supportive and excited and helpful. She never helps with any decisions and every time I do ask for her opinion she just acts like "whatever". It's hurt my feelings a lot and I've expressed concern with my mom and I feel like I should say something I just didn't want any drama right before the big day... ugh. Anyways, I am sorry about your mom, just ignore it. I have realized that there will be family members that say and do things you didn't expect especially at a time like this when your trying to plan your wedding. I also have another sister who I am worried about because I think she may have a small drinking problem and she is unhappy with her life right now and I just have this feeling that she will end up saying something at the wedding (it already happened at my bridal shower)...... Anyways... I KNOW how you feel.

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• katieoverbey

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  I was just saying yesterday I should have eloped...over stamps and invitations too. I was so mad at my FI for not helping me so to make it up he put all the stamps on the envelopes and sealed them and it was so sweet....except he put all the invites in backwards. At that point all I could do was laugh. P>S who pays attention to the stamps? I got like 10 different kinds!

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• stosha1 member

  

  August 2009 edited December 2011

  Tell your mom to take a step back and realize that she is upset over A STAMP. Ridiculous.I wanted to elope but FI wanted a wedding. So even if you plan on telling your kids to elope, it might not work out that way! The best you can do is be a better mom-during-the-wedding.

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