I have a friend that offered to plan the bachelorette party and bridal shower for me back when I got engaged. We picked a date and told the parties flying in from out of town so that they had plenty of notice to get flights booked. Fast forward a few months- friend keeps coming to me asking what I want to do. I say "No silly bridal games like the collecting of pins if you say 'bride', nothing too fancy or elaborate, just want to have a great time." She brings NO ideas to the table other than the typical "dancing at a bar". Other friends keep asking if they can help- they have tried e-mailing my friend with no response. Other bridal party members are not being included in the plans despite me voicing to my friend that they wanted to be included. Fast forward to about 2 weeks before. No set plans, no invitations have gone out, no real "plan" at all other than the bridal shower starts at 3, bachelorette party to follow. I have to ask her to send out the invitations, offer to help with postage, addressing, etc. 10 days before- no one has invitations yet. Finally they start trickling in a few days later- post marked about 5 days AFTER she told me she had sent them. At this point- STILL no other bridal party members have been involved. Friend dropped out of "bridal party" due to money issues (wedding is in vegas). Shortly after, she gets fired from her job. I politely asked her to step down as the party planner at this point. She is no longer in my bridal party (at her choice), just got fired from her job, and is down on money. Thinking this would help her money-wise, planning wise, and still salvage the event to where the people coming from out of town don't feel like they flew in for nothing, I let my other friends step in 10 days prior to the event (this weekend) to let them have a shot at planning something they wanted in on from the beginning. My other friend is TICKED. She thinks I rolled over her, dictated what I wanted, that I am ungrateful and acting "entitled". That I should have been happy with what I got and what she was planning for me was a lot nicer than she ever got, etc. WDYT? Should I have let her continue to plan when there were no "set" plans? 10 days before when you have people flying in from out of town and the invitation only says "3pm bridal shower, bachelorette party to follow" is that enough of a reason to be suspicious of what the party would have turned out to be? FURTHERMORE- if she wasn't in the bridal party anymore and short on money, should I still have let her plan it regardless?