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attending your coctail hour

burrungaburrunga member
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i've read about people attending their coctail hour on different posts, but the post is not directed at the cocktail hour attendance.

i'm looking to rent a hall which has a beautiful hall for the coctail hour.  i almost feel like i want to be a guest so i can experience how beautiful it is.  i am having my ceremony and reception at same venue. is the bridal party not allowed to attend?  i'd like to go and of course leave before its over, but is that tacky?   I mean by then we'll already be husband n wife.
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Re: attending your coctail hour

  • skippylouwhoskippylouwho member
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    Of course you can attend. A lot of couples have their pictures taken directly after the ceremony, they provide a cocktail hour so that guests have something to do while the pictures are gonig on. If you aren't having pictures and can go to the cocktail hours, by all means go!
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  • megk8ozmegk8oz member
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    Ditto Stage. Do not have a gap just so you can have your pictures and the full cocktail hour, it's pretty sucky to be a guest that's stuck during that time with no food, in their dress clothes, possibly in a strange town.

    We had the ceremony and the reception at the same place. Cocktail hour began immediately after the ceremony, which is when we took pictures. Our photog was pretty efficient (And we really didn't need to bother taking 500 pics of us lounging on a couch or walking through a park. We had formals, and they were nice, we just didn't "go nuts"), so while I didn't get the full hour, I did get to attend the second half of it, which was nice.

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  • burrungaburrunga member
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    my mom is making it seem like its taboo to attend...the venue i'm looking at doesn't have beautiful gardens so i'm thinking of pics at the nearby cloisters, nyc, for some daytime pics. i'm sure everyone in my bridal party, including my mom, wud luv to attend even if for just 20 minutes.  yeaaaa
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Definitely attend.  The only reason people really don't is because they are doing pictures.  But you can do all of your pics before the ceremony and then attend.  
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    We didn't attend our cocktail hour because we were finishing pictures.  If we hadn't had to do that, we definitely would have attended.
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  • LisaTyler1984LisaTyler1984
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    I'm from NY too and I know that, besides pictures, it's customary for the bride and groom not to attend so they can be announced as husband and wife when everyone goes into the dining room. I guess people feel it ruins their entrance. I think that's dumb though. The best part of the wedding, in my opinion, is the cocktail hour. I wouldn't want to miss it for a stupid intro! In a traditional NY wedding, the cocktail hour is the most elaborate part of the wedding- with not only passed hors d'oeuvres but carving stations, sushi bars, pasta stations, a grill station, etc. etc. why would you want to miss that? You don't want to be shelling out 40-60k for a party and miss the best part!
    I love cocktail hours so much that I decided to make my whole wedding like one so I won't feel like I missed a thing.
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  • kristinanddankristinanddan member
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    We attended the second half of ours. We had alreay taken our photos, it was just nice to have some quiet time before getting out and mingling.

    PS - We did our engagement pictures at the cloisters - it's a beautiful place!
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