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Is it necessary to buy a gift for the shower if I'm hosting it?

MissLnz1204MissLnz1204 member
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Although I'm not the MOH, yet I'm still a maid, I'm co-hosting a shower for the bride. I'm the one that stepped up and made the arrangements and even delegated some of the work out to the other 5 maids. My question is...Should I buy the bride a shower gift? Please consider that I'm on a tight budget as a graduate student, my fiance' has been laid off for 6 weeks this past summer, we are booking our own wedding to Jamaica in September (which we have been saving for since April), and to top it off, the bride and groom decided back in July that they would marry in early October! The shower is Labor Day wknd.Please help!
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Re: Is it necessary to buy a gift for the shower if I'm hosting it?

  • Leah&Christian09Leah&Christian09 member
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    A gift is never required, but I wouldn't go to a shower without one.  If your budget is tight, something small and affordable is fine.  Even a $10 bottle of wine.
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  • CTGirl30CTGirl30
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    True, yes, but she is already co-hosting the shower...which I'm sure means spending money on food, favors, etc. I think by organizing the shower (which is not a maid requirement, it's a nicety) that is gift enough right there. But that's my thought...if you still want her to have something to unwrap from her at the shower, how about something you make her? Maybe a nice collection of some of your favorite recipes or have the other maids all write her a letter / favorite memories and make it into a scrapbook or something for her? It doesn't have to cost alot of money to be a nice gift, if you decide you want her to have one on top of your gift of hosting the shower.
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  • uta10uta10
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    I got the best gift at my shower from the group recently - you could do this yourself for not that much money if she likes to cook.  They bought a small recipe box kit (came with a notepad, some magnets, and pencils), and then wrote a bunch of recipes on the card.  You could get the recipes online for free and buy a few spatulas and wooden spoons to wrap with it.  If you have a Christmas Tree shop or Homegoods near you, they have really nice paper products (you have to pick through and find a nice one - but they're there for sure).
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  • dieselsmommadieselsmomma
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    ALL of my bridesmaids bought me gifts. Some of them were under $12. Something (even a quirky key chain or a bottle of wine as someone said) is better than nothing.
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  • dianenjnjdianenjnj member
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    yes.  buy something you can afford.
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  • JuliaGoolia719JuliaGoolia719
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    my bridesmaids hosted a shower for me and they all brought gifts.Do what you can, your friend will understand if you cant afford a gift, but like pp said I wouldnt go to a shower w out a gift its just a personal thing though.
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  • StessFreeBrideStessFreeBride member
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    The hosts for my shower did give gifts, although I wouldn't have thought twice about it if they hadn't. Your friend/bride should understand the cost of throwing the shower and wouldn't have a problem with you not giving a gift from the registry. If you choose to give a gift, I was going to suggest a couple of wine glasses or a bottle of ten dollar wine, like a pp suggested.
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