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Dj question/concern

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In order to cut cost, my mom suggestes that her friend who Dj's at the local pub on the weekends Dj our wedding. This was all fine and dandy with me until I spoke to him the other day, he says that he would have to leave my reception an hour before it's over in order to get to the pub to Dj there..I don't really feel comfortable with that since he will be breaking down equipment in front of my guest, my mom says it's not a big deal. But I think it's tacky to A) have him stop playing music before people leave and B) to be breaking down and moving speakers and stuff while people are still there.What do you think? Would this bother you?
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  • crfischecrfische member
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  • *BeachBride0410**BeachBride0410* member
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    Honestly to me it would depened on how much $$ it would be saving me.
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    I'm just going to answer the same as everyone else, so I'll just let them answer and me NOT answer so that you don't get annoyed.
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  • samissahsamissah member
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    Honestly to me it would depened on how much $$ it would be saving me. I know! it's saving ALOT, like 450, which is great, but sheesh.
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    Yes.

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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    No, it's one thing to stop playing music early to actually break everything down, no way.  Your guests will think the reception is over and they will leave.  Usually a typical DJ stops playing about 30 minutes before the reception is over and that's the signal for guests to wrap it up and say their goodbyes.  He shouldn't actually start breaking things down until the party is actually over.  I would say no thanks on the offer.
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  • zippitybzippityb member
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    If cutting costs is going to cause that much of a disturbance, I'd go ahead and hire a dj that can devote the entire night to your event.
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    If the DJ is breaking down his equipment, the party's over.  You may still have the hall for an hour, but it's going to be a signal to all of the guests that it's time to go.What about going the iPod route for the music, and your mom's DJ friend could just MC?  That way he won't have any equipment to break down, and since there's usually not a whole lot to announce in the last hour, his absence won't be nearly as noticeable.
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  • samissahsamissah member
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    Yes, it would bother me, and I'd just prepare for your guests to leave before that final hour is up (i.e., when the music stops). If you want to have that last hour, I'd find another DJ. My thoughts exactly, but my mom doesn't see it this way. but then again she's not paying for it.
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  • clseale13clseale13 member
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    To me? No...it's not worth it. Not even w/the $450 savings. I would plan on your wedding to end when the DJ leaves. The music will stop...people will see him packing up...and they will be confused.
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  • sarah0725sarah0725
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    When the DJ packs up and leaves, your guests will feel that the party is over, and they will leave too. Are you ok with that?Myself, I wouldn't do it. We're toying with the idea of giving the DJ job to one of FI's friends, but before we do it we are going to talk to him and make sure he is compatible with what we want for our wedding. If it's not going to work out, we don't want to stress the friendship.
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  • *BeachBride0410**BeachBride0410* member
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    You have some time....I would still search around. Professionally he should not take your wedding as a job unless he will be fully commited to it....
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  • samissahsamissah member
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    What about going the iPod route for the music, and your mom's DJ friend could just MC? That way he won't have any equipment to break down, and since there's usually not a whole lot to announce in the last hour, his absence won't be nearly as noticeable.Good idea, but he doesn't even want to MC. Lol. I think I will just find another.
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  • samissahsamissah member
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    When the DJ packs up and leaves, your guests will feel that the party is over, and they will leave too. Are you ok with that?Myself, I wouldn't do it. We're toying with the idea of giving the DJ job to one of FI's friends, but before we do it we are going to talk to him and make sure he is compatible with what we want for our wedding. If it's not going to work out, we don't want to stress the friendship.I agree with you 100%. I don't feel comfy with this. I'm already having wedding nightmares about the music not working  properly.
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  • pinkiemopinkiemo
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    i would agree with the ipod route, especially if he's not even going to MC.  not worth it.
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  • pumpkinpumpkinpumpkinpumpkin
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    yes it would bother me. Besides, if you're not going to have a DJ for the last hour of the reception, that seems a little strange.
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  • bombtonesbombtones
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    Is it possible to start things earlier so that you still have him there for the whole party?Otherwise, I would start looking elsewhere.
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  • tidetraveltidetravel member
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    #1 - don't mix friends w/ business.  This goes double for family friends. #2 - what he is saying is that your event isn't as important as his "real" job.  If he's taking your money, then your event should be his priority. 
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  • samissahsamissah member
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    Thanks guys, I am just going to nix the whole idea.
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