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Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Hi, I have sort of a personal question...if you don't want to answer, that's perfectly fine. I'll totally understand :)I think I remember you saying that you take anxiety medication?What got you to the point that you decided you needed medication for it? Just curious...I've been anxious for the last few weeks (not sleeping, grinding my teeth, fidgeting, etc.) and I'm sure it's wedding related, but I've always been a high strung person. I've never talked to a doctor about it (probably because I don't have a regular doctor), but I'm not sure I can deal with this for the next 2 months (or longer if it's not wedding related). And I'm tired of biting peoples' heads off for things that aren't really their fault just because I'm so stressed. Thanks for your help, lovely!!

danieliza1127 · August 2009

Vogt - I'm totally butting in here and I apologize, but I'm going to do it anyway.

I really encourage you to try counseling before you go straight to medication. It could be that talk therapy would be great for you and you could learn ways to manage your stress and anxiety without drugs. At least try it for a while before deciding whether you need medication or not. Not all anxiety issues need drugs. General/family doctors are so quick to prescribe medication for mental related issues when they really shouldn't and probably aren't even qualified to do so. So I just had to say that.

crfische · August 2009

You should go talk to your doc. Tell him/her what's happening. It sucks to not feel like yourself. Talking to a therapist about finding ways to regulate your anxiety in conjunction with a little medication to help a little bit might make a world of difference. But using the two together are pretty important.

crfische · August 2009

Yeah, what Dani said. Only more eloquently.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Oh, I'm with ya Dani

I'm actually petrified of drugs, and I tend to think I can handle things on my own. That's kind of why I wanted to know what point it got to.My mom suffered from depression and eventually the dependence on drugs got out of hand with her. She didn't remember a lot of my years in HS because she was so medicated. It makes me sad to think about.I'm going to see if I can work with my company's EAP (something not covered by insurance isn't an option right now) to see if they can give me some help at the very least.

ac_in_dc · August 2009

I went on meds when I got depressed in 2000...but the reason I went straight to meds was that I was having suicidal ideation, which means they nuke you with all the treatment options available. Dani's advice to consider medication carefully is sound, though. FWIW, my psychiatrist has told me that 3 things are clinically proven to be effective when treating depression and anxiety: meds, exercise, and cognitive behavioral therapy.Hope you feel better.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

I'm with you too Fische

I think what's stalling me is the thought of adding just one more thing I have to do to my plate. Not sure if I can handle another commitment right now. And my brain keeps telling me if I can just get through these last few weeks, everything will go back to normal (at least normal for me.)

anna.oskar · August 2009

I hear kittens are the cure for stress

ac_in_dc · August 2009

Meds aren't always a bad thing, though. I have a family history of depression (my grandma was in a mental hospital for 2 years in the 1950s for "melancholia") and so I just treat it like a chronic illness that I need to manage with a variety of interventions. And generally I do fine. I've been on the same medication since 2002 and it's worked very well for me, no problem with it changing my cognition or personality or anything like that.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Awww, Anna, I'm cured :)That is the cutest kitteh I've ever seen.

anna.oskar · August 2009

I thought that might help

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

That's really good to hear ac. I'm not a medication person at all, unless I'm in pretty bad shape. Taking tylenol usually makes me feel drugged, so I try to get through most things on my own. I also have the experience with my mom that's holding me back, but I think that maybe if she'd asked for help earlier, then things wouldn't have gotten as bad as they did.

danieliza1127 · August 2009

I definitely agree that meds aren't always a bad thing. I just think that when the depression or anxiety appears to be situational, like Vogt is describing and like I've experienced in the past, talk therapy should be the first course of action. Someone trained in mental health issues should be the one helping you decide if you need meds, not a general practice/family doctor who just has a pad at the ready to prescribe whatever you come in and list symptoms for. It's just one of my soapbox issues I guess.

salt78 · August 2009

Hey dearness! That's not too personal at all. Basically I went and talked to someone about it because of some of the reasons you described. I am also naturally high strung and irrational (although not as much so anymore) and I've always had kind of a short fuse. I used to flip out and panic on people for no reason all the time. My mom had been trying to get me to go talk to someone for years, but I was kind of in denial about it. I didn't start to recognize that I was the problem and not everyone else until I got into a deep conversation about all of it with FI. He also has really bad anxiety that manifested itself the same way that mine does and he told me about the drugs he was taking and how it worked. We had been dating for about 6 months at that time and I really loved him and didn't want to scare him away with my behavior. So I made an appointment to go talk to someone, first a psychologist and then a general doctor. I did sessions with the psychologist for awhile, but this was right before I moved. She diagnosed me with GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), but I wasn't getting the results I needed by just talking out my issues. So I made the other appointment with the regular doc and was rediagnosed by him and given the lexapro scrip. At first I was on too high of a dosage, so I was a zombie for a few weeks, but once I cut it back a little bit, it made a huge difference. I think in your case it wouldn't hurt to go talk to a professional about your issues. There might be other things that you can try, such as therapy. There are also other drug options...personally I'd love to get off the lexapro, but the withdrawl sucks so I haven't been able to stop taking it entirely yet. I hope I helped at all. Let me know if you ever have any questions!

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Thanks Salt

zippityb · August 2009

Salt, your description of yourself is very similar to how I am.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Yeah, it sort of sounds like you're describing me too :)What's good for me, I guess, is that when FI and I first started dating and up through the last 6 months or so, I was more relaxed than I've ever been. He is the most laid-back person I've ever met, and it's an awesome influence on me.My aunt who lives OOT came back for a family reunion and took one look at me and could tell I was calmer and happier for it. It was a really nice feeling.So, that leads me to believe that I'm just experiencing all of this from the wedding planning (and I"m sure I'm not the first person to be nervous about their wedding). But I don't want to be looking forward to getting the wedding over with just so I can feel normal again - I want to enjoy it. I guess that's what spurred this on. Everyone has been asking me if I'm getting excited or whatever and my immediate response is, "No, I just want to be done." That's a terrible thing to think about your wedding.

Pirata13 · August 2009

Gonna butt in also! Hi guys!!! Yay so many of my favorite people in the same thread! I miss you guys. At the library for some "face" time so here goes... Vogt, I take a very low dose of Xanax as needed for anxiety. I also see my therapist still at least once a month. And I definitely vouch for exercise too! FI helps keep me way more mellow than I used to be, but sometimes all the other things don't bring me down enough to sleep or to stop making me crazy, so a little Xanax goes a long way for that. Def see a doctor, and he or she will know what to give you. Anyone who has stress/anxiety or depression doesn't ever LIKE to "rely" on medicine, but in all honesty, sometimes it is exactly what you need to even things out and make you feel yourself again. Hang in there!!

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

It's my Pirata! Now I'm happy again

jadebaby · August 2009

I would like to butt in also... I just posted something like this on my local board a few days ago and salt's advice is very similar to theirs. I made an appt to see my PCP and I am nervous to talk to her about it. I dont like drs in general so I think that is adding to the intensity. Hopefully she will be able to help me and I can feel like myself again. Oh and like the other girls told me, it is a huge step just to admit that you need help and to ask for it. Good for you!

danieliza1127 · August 2009

Everyone has been asking me if I'm getting excited or whatever and my immediate response is, "No, I just want to be done." That's a terrible thing to think about your wedding.I'm not trying to minimize your feelings AT ALL, and I know that statement is only a small part of what you're going through, but I have to say that I know a LOT of people in real life and have seen a lot of people on the boards say that exact thing. It's not abnormal to feel that way. Some people just aren't obsessive planners like wedding planning tends to make a person! It's okay to feel like you're just ready for it be over with. For some girls they just love the planning so very much, but not everyone does and there's nothing wrong with feeling that way about it.

anna.oskar · August 2009

And if medical help doesn't help, try cute [img]<a href="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v164/combathapkido/toocute.jpg" rel='nofollow'>http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v164/combathapkido/toocute.jpg</a>[/img]

vallyhoo · August 2009

That picture made me giggle, and I hate giggling. Damn you.Vogt- I just noticed your pug in the picture with the cows. That is just too funny.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Dani, I know what you mean. That's what I keep trying to tell myself, but other than on here, no one really talks about it. Of course, the friends I have whose weddings were also this year are much more laid back and their weddings were very simple. Hindsight is 20/20, of course, so I would have done that too if I'd known better, but it's too late for that now! Maybe I'm just really excited and I can't tell the difference. Does anyone else ever do that? Like, my feelings of anxiety/nervousness and excitement feel exactly the same to me. I never know which I am. I'm weird

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Anna, I should pay you for kitteh therapy :)Vally - I know, isn't that hilarious? She hopped up there one day and ate corn with them. Now she does it all the time and they just move for her (and there's 18 of them now instead of 3)

salt78 · August 2009

I definitely agree with everything that Miss Pirata (YAY HI!) said. I also have Xanax as my spot drug, but I barely ever take it. FI had a panic attack the other day so I gave him one and it knocked him out haha. Exercise and yoga have helped me as well. You might be fine after the wedding stuff is all done. I told my doctor a couple weeks ago that I wanted to continue on with my meds at least until after I get married just to prevent any unnecessary flip-outtage.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

Flip-outtage eh? Is that the official medical term? :)This probably isn't something I should be thinking about right now, but I also want to learn to deal with it on my own because we are planning on TTC within the next year, and I don't want to go on something to turn around and go off it again.

Pirata13 · August 2009

Woo-hoo! And I just got 30 extra minutes on the computer! Yay! I feel like I am in jail or something. Like "you can only walk 4 blocks from your apartment" or "you only have one hour on the computer." Stupid foot.

salt78 · August 2009

Oooo yeah if you are going to TTC, try to not take anything. I know I'm going to run into a problem with that because I'm not allowed to take the meds if I get pregnant and as I said, the withdrawl is no fun. And "flip-outtage" is the official salt term. :-) Pirata, my lovely, how is the foot doing?

Pirata13 · August 2009

It's ok. Still good and bad days. Today not so bad but yesterday was wiped out and sore from walking just a few blocks. Definitely getting better. Doc is pleased how it is healing and I get the stitches out next Friday the 4th!

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · August 2009

I remember my friend going through the transition from meds to not when she was TTC and it wasn't pleasant for her. I'd prefer not to go there, but I would like to get this under control before I introduce kids into the mix

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