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Paying vendors

SCbrideinTXSCbrideinTX
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in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
Okay, so some my vendor payments that my Dad agreed to cover are coming due - I sent him an update this morning and he told me to send him the names and addresses...It seems like it would be much simplier if he just sent me a check and then I paid everyone from there, so that I knew that everything was taken care of (plus some things like my alterations and flowers won't take checks).So here's my question - would it be rude to ask my Dad if we could do things that way? Or should I just send him the names and addresses of the people that will take checks and explain to him that some of the vendors will need to be paid by cash or a credit card?
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Re: Paying vendors

  • SCbrideinTXSCbrideinTX
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    edited December 2011
    BTW - I know this sounds like kind of a silly question - but I just don't want to seem unappreciative by being demanding about how my Dad gives us money...
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  • SarahandAlex2010SarahandAlex2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I dont think it would be rude to do that. It depends on your approach to him. I would just ask him and say "dad would you rather send me a check to take care of paying the vendors? I can give you the receipts.I dont mind." If he's like my parents, they would rather give me the money than have to worry about sending checks, etc.
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  • BalletBride620BalletBride620
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    edited December 2011
    It seems like it would be much simplier if he just sent me a check and then I paid everyone from there, so that I knew that everything was taken care of (plus some things like my alterations and flowers won't take checks).So true! For a while, FMIL made us ask her every time we needed money, even though she gave us a credit card. (I do understand her need to know around how much we're spending, but I couldn't even go buy a sample piece of paper!)If it were me, (and since it's your dad, not FMIL like in my case) I would explain exactly as you did on here..."Dad, I'm really appreciative that you're helping us out by giving money for the wedding. I think it would be easier for everyone if you could write me one check. I'll even write you a list of how the payments are broken up that way you're not left in the dark." You can even emphasize that in this way it will be easier for him. HTH!
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  • SCbrideinTXSCbrideinTX
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    edited December 2011
    Yea, he already has the budget breakdown in an exel spreadsheet, so it's not like he doesn't know where the money is going... I kind feel like he doesn't trust me to spend the money where I'm telling him I'm going to spend it or something. Kind of strange.I think I'll send him a list of which things can be paid by check and which can't and then see if that changes his mind.
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  • TerriniskiTerriniski
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe you could suggest that you'll keep him updated on the payments if he gives you a single check.  So as you pay people, you can update the spreadsheet with how much the final amount was and when you made the payment, and if there's any expense remaining to be paid on the day-of, etc.  That's what I did for my own purposes so I could keep track.
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  • SCbrideinTXSCbrideinTX
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    edited December 2011
    Ok - he said to just let him know how much we need for the things that are due now and he'll mail it out to me - glad that I asked!
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  • BalletBride620BalletBride620
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    edited December 2011
    Yay! :)
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  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think it's rude.  I would pay for some things that my parents were re-imbursing me for too.  I was just told, "How much do we need to transfer?"  Sometimes, it pays to be at the same little credit union.  :-)
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