Brad I see your bubble

USER876 · August 2009

I think some of the responses I am reading are being spiteful. Brad was truthful of his reasons whether people agree with it or not. I guess I just don't see the big deal of not knowing who someone booked. No one asked me who I booked on a lot of things after asking many questions way back when. To say, fine, I'm not going to help you anymore publicly is just being spiteful for silly reasons......JMHO

brad1431 · August 2009

KLE, maybe, maybe not, but if my FI doesnt want to take that chance, then I respect her wishes, would you go against your FI/DH's wishes to please someone over the internet that you dont know? Seriously.....

kle0113 · August 2009

User...very good point, but girls can be spiteful!!! You are also right it does not impact me at all. I just think that like I said earlier their are a lot of girls on her that might want to know because of the package that he got (which I am assuming) based on what he stated he wanted would like to know because of their budgets.I for one paid a lot for my photographer so when someone says on here that they do not want to spend more then 2500 - 4000 I really do not even post who it was.

USER876 · August 2009

My bro-in-law asks my sister not to post pics of the kids on facebook or give status feeds telling people where the kids are or when the house will be empty. Call it paranoid, but she obeys his wishes.

kathymarie · August 2009

I read an article once that a guy got robbed bc someone got clued in that he would be in Hawaii for 2 weeks through his Twitter feed.

USER876 · August 2009

I see people asking for budget photographers all the time and there are usually like 23434545656567678 follow-up replies of many different options. Also, Brad probably got the leads he investigated from others on here so the same leads would be presented to someone else asking the same question from the same people. Did he find this outfit himself???? I don't know.

brad1431 · August 2009

exactly user, whoever my photographer is, I got from somewhere, so you would hope that the kind knotties that suggested that person, would be as kind to someone else.

erikag23 · August 2009

so you post on the board to get rec's....does that mean you are going to recipricate the favor to others after you get married?

brad1431 · August 2009

sure, as long as it isnt disrespectful to my FI.

jen629 · August 2009

ok I have really heard it all a vendor review is going to be disrespectful to your FI?

brad1431 · August 2009

seabass, as long as they have a good reason for not wanting to help. Not cause they are being spiteful, cause I didnt say who I booked. That would be childish, and I would hope someone getting married would be more mature than that. If someone actually thinks along the lines of if he doesnt tell me who he picked, then I am not going to help him. They arent mature enough to be getting married

erikag23 · August 2009

this whole 'disrespectful' thing is getting a little old. face it, you and your fi are turds. it's just that simple.

caketime · August 2009

But you are mature enough??You have said numerous times "if someone says something mean about me I'm going to give back worse to them". Now of course that REEKS of maturity.

brad1431 · August 2009

no cake it means I am not gonna take any crap if I didnt deserve it.

cvl105 · August 2009

DIT freaking TO caketime

mscutieri · August 2009

Brad, are you an AE? I really am suspicious...

I <3 Seabass · August 2009

No one gets paid to answer questions here so people can choose to help or not help whoever they want for whatever reason the want. And just like you don't think we have a good reason for not helping you. We don't think you have a good reason for not saying who your photographer is. So looks like we're even.

brad1431 · August 2009

seabass, it isnt even, my reason is privacy, yours is childish spite, how is that even. that is how girls act in high school, not mature adults who want to get married.

I <3 Seabass · August 2009

Just to add. In general people don't get up in arms and need to know who everyone booked. But, it's not like brad made one post asking for recs. He made a post asking for recs, then made another one asking for more recs, and then another one bitching_about how expensive they are, and then another one about how he met with a photographer but he's just too good to be true.... People responded to all of those posts and invested their time in helping him find a photographer that fit his budget. And it's kind of a smack in the face for him to come back when it's is all said and done and say that he's not going to tell us who it is. And at first wouldn't even say the reason why.We get that you don't want to disrespect your FI but if you just attempt to look at if from someone else's point of view maybe you'd understand where some of us are coming from.

wpsmall · August 2009

Amen Seabass!

I <3 Seabass · August 2009

That's the thing brad from your POV your reason is good and my POV it's a bad reason. I don't think privacy is a good reason because the pictures you're so private about haven't even been taken and wont be taken for over a year. But it really is subjective and we don't have to agree.

brad1431 · August 2009

seabass, what difference does it make to you who I booked? I thanked everyone for their help. I appreciate it and that is why I am here. If my FI wants some privacy you should respect that. You act like it is extortion, if you dont tell us who you booked we wont help you. Or when I first joined, if you dont put a pic up, this that and the other thing. Who are you to tell me what to do?The whole if you dont tell me who you booked I wont help you, is so immature. we arent in high school here.... If you really think like that, you shouldnt be getting married.

cvl105 · August 2009

very well said seabass

kle0113 · August 2009

Get off the not mature enough to be married...my god. your excuse is one of the most immature excuses and to answer your question to me if I came on here and was like...I need recs and everyone gave me recs I would fell obligated to let them know who I picked so YES I would say it even if MH did not want me to.

brad1431 · August 2009

seabass like I said, my reason is privacy, what is yours? it cant be the whole give and take, that is comlete crap, and it cant be the childish if you dont tell me I am not gonna help, so what is your "legitimate" reason?

USER876 · August 2009

Brad...your not gonna winSeabass....you sure are investing a lot of time on this postKleo.....whats your husbands email address

DMLJ · August 2009

Why is the give and take thing crap???

dnldjtt · August 2009

then just don't ask people who they recommend. peruse the board, because more than likely the question you are asking has been asked before, do your research based on what you see already posted, make a decision, and and keep it moving.enough already.

I <3 Seabass · August 2009

I've already told you it doesn't make a difference to me who you booked and I'm not trying to pressure you into telling me. At this point I couldn't care less if you took this secret to your grave. But just like you want us to respect that you're not going to tell us who your photographer is. Respect that some of us have decided we don't want to help you. And trust me it's not just because you wont name your photographer. I think that was just the final straw that broke the camel's back.

kle0113 · August 2009

User...I'm not that stupid!!! :)I am just saying that if I came on here asking for all kinds of recs (which I did not) and everyone was nice enough to give them to me and then people inquired about who I picked I would just think it was right to let people know regardless. BTW his email address has our last name in it.

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