S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?

Sloane99 · July 2010

I once got a wedding invitation that requested cash as a gift, something like: The bride and groom would prefer monetary gifts. That actually wasn't the worst part, they also requested a check, in the amount of $82.53 or some random exact number to cover the cost of your meal per person if you were planning on attending the reception. There was not even a stamped envelope in which to mail the groom his meal check.

AlmostSt.Laurent · July 2010

Seriously? I'd pass on that wedding.

akhensley81 · July 2010

WOW Sloane. That's pretty bad! Did you end up even going to that wedding??

The worst I've seen personally specifically asked for Home Depot gift cards because they're renovating their home.

A friend of mine actually got one that said something like, "a $$ donation will be requested at the door" of the reception.

Sloane99 · July 2010

Oh I passed, especially since it was going to cost me a plane ticket and hotel room to even be there.

crissyg81 · July 2010

I would too that has to be one of the tackiest things Ive ever heard

Liberty27 · July 2010

That is terrible. I once got one that said "beer and wine provided- bring your own liquor." My mom and dad said that was common in their day, but I can't believe an invite to a formal event would mention drinks.

quotequeen · July 2010

I haven't received any terrible invitations. Just a website that requested "monetary gifts only" on the front page, complete with paypal account.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

They charged you to eat at their reception? Unreal. No way I'd go, or even send a gift for that matter.

All the invitations I've received have been fine. I'm kind of bummed that I have no fun stories to share about them.

andyandhillary · July 2010

That is wretched! I've haven't received anything horrible. The worst, I guess, was an invite from Andy's cousin who butchered my first and last name. Dude. We're fb friends. You can look it up!

waltzingmatilda13 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-invites-whats-worst-ones-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ccb1c7a7-a25f-49b4-908d-12f6f0ada678Post:81679022-b1d3-49dc-8c89-a96d9c5904cd">Re: S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?</a>:
[QUOTE]WOW Sloane. That's pretty bad! Did you end up even going to that wedding?? The worst I've seen personally specifically asked for Home Depot gift cards because they're renovating their home. <strong>A friend of mine actually got one that said something like, "a $$ donation will be requested at the door" of the reception.</strong>
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

For real? That's by far the worst I've ever heard. Did they go? Because I would like to know how that went over.

nhelene · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-invites-whats-worst-ones-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ccb1c7a7-a25f-49b4-908d-12f6f0ada678Post:9aab16e6-9b53-4fe3-9854-3415bef6d5cd">S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?</a>:
[QUOTE]I once got a wedding invitation that requested cash as a gift, something like: The bride and groom would prefer monetary gifts. That actually wasn't the worst part, they also requested a check, in the amount of $82.53 or some random exact number to cover the cost of your meal per person if you were planning on attending the reception. There was not even a stamped envelope in which to mail the groom his meal check.
Posted by Sloane99[/QUOTE]

I hope you RSVP'd no by email

Kristin&eric · July 2010

man thats awful! i dont think i have received a bad invite.

MissLeahM · July 2010

The worst I got was our names written on Fi's parents invitation.. Nothing too bad.

Sloane99 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-invites-whats-worst-ones-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ccb1c7a7-a25f-49b4-908d-12f6f0ada678Post:70066b2d-449d-4570-8cb1-abc6ee488923">Re: S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received? : I hope you RSVP'd no by email
Posted by nhelene[/QUOTE]

Crap. That is a much better idea, I totally should have. No, I took the RSVP card, wrote something nice on there and checked the no box and then got a stamp for it.
When I found out they were getting married I was really excited about going too, it was in a really pretty part of the country and I hadn't seen his family in years but the request left such a bad taste in my mouth I just couldn't do it, and financially the trip itself was a bit of a stretch.

I did creep online for photos though and only found a few of a very nice, typical outdoor ceremony - I was disappointed.

SassyBrass · July 2010

Wow... that's super tacky. If you REALLY can't afford it, don't have a wedding with food or a formal reception.
I've gotten a few that mention a "money tree" which I always thought was odd, but actually asking your guests to pay for the meal? You've gotta be kidding. That's one of those times you go out to eat somewhere else after the ceremony.

nhelene · July 2010

<div align="left">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-invites-whats-worst-ones-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ccb1c7a7-a25f-49b4-908d-12f6f0ada678Post:845d5ace-d6e8-44b6-a17f-ec0d96e5dad8">Re: S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow... that's super tacky. If you REALLY can't afford it, don't have a wedding with food or a formal reception. I've gotten a few that mention a "money tree" which I always thought was odd,<strong> </strong>but actually asking your guests to pay for the meal? You've gotta be kidding. That's one of those times you go out to eat somewhere else after the ceremony.
Posted by SassyBrass[/QUOTE]

And then come back for the cake, right? You didn't eat the meal so it's cool.

I haven't personally seen anything worse than the preprinted registry cards... which I don't get too pissy about because some people honestly don't know better.</div>

Trishes · July 2010

What?! That's ridiculous!!!

NuggetBrain · July 2010

Preprinted registry cards are about the worst I've seen.

GussieZ · July 2010

I received an invite for a family friend who is getting married again (no biggie- I'm very happy for her), and her parent's are paying for the reception (awesome that they offered), but here is the thing: She kept her 1st husbands name (once again, no big deal), but the way the invite was worded seriously confused me.

The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of
Ms. Bride's FirstName MiddleName
and Mr. Groom's FirstName LastName.......

Ok, if I had not ran into a family member of hers a few weeks before, I would have never known this girl was getting married. Not to mention that I did not know her middle name!

To top it off the response cards didn't even have a name on them, just the couple's address, apparently (I did not know where they lived). I would have at least been able to piece it together if her parent's address was on the response cards!

Nowhere on the invite is her parent's name, their last name, or her current last name. I do not know her fiance.

Maybe she didn't want people to know what her current last name is? (for one thing, who cares...and for another, she could have used her maiden name and no one would have known the difference!) I would have never known who this invitation was from if not for running into that family member!

Maybe not the worst thing in the world, but very irritating none the less.

Trifury2007 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_throwback-thursday-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:13b99059-e078-4ea1-8bc5-1e8433ff06a7Post:dbb51846-3c93-43ca-8a0a-c941a626a051">Re: Throwback Thursday Poll</a>:
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Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]

Thanks! Course I feel super old compared to everyone else who was born in the 1980s.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · July 2010

Ditto Sheshat. I've only been invited to about 7 weddings in my life. I've never even seen registry information in an invitation.

Goodspeed · July 2010

Just found out we sent an invite to fiance's friend (who I've only met once in passing, she lives out of state) and messed it up by:

-putting her ex-boyfriend's name on the invite instead of her husband's name

-putting the last name as ex-boyfriend's last name

-spelling ex-boyfriend's first name wrong

FI WENT TO THEIR WEDDING. HER HUSBAND'S NAME IS ON HER FB PAGE! Luckily she laughed it off, friended me on fb and sent a really sweet message essentially saying, "men, huh!"

So embarrassed. I knew I should have checked FI's list myself!

Meaghann17 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-invites-whats-worst-ones-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ccb1c7a7-a25f-49b4-908d-12f6f0ada678Post:3a3dfd0b-6c66-47ce-8e1e-9ffbed5498d3">Re: S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?</a>:
[QUOTE]Just found out we sent an invite to fiance's friend (who I've only met once in passing, she lives out of state) and messed it up by: -putting her ex-boyfriend's name on the invite instead of her husband's name -putting the last name as ex-boyfriend's last name -spelling ex-boyfriend's first name wrong FI WENT TO THEIR WEDDING. HER HUSBAND'S NAME IS ON HER FB PAGE! Luckily she laughed it off, friended me on fb and sent a really sweet message essentially saying, "men, huh!" So embarrassed. I knew I should have checked FI's list myself!
Posted by Goodspeed[/QUOTE]

LOL this is exactly what I envision with my FI's invites.. we will be checking them together for all of our friends and family. thats awesome that she was cool about it!

what are the registry cards everyone is talking about? i am assuming an insert with registry info on it?

pulga131 · July 2010

I received an invitation that said there would be a "recession reception" It was a shotgun wedding, but the reception was at a restaurant and you were expected to buy your own dinner if you wanted to eat. Personally, I would have just skipped the dinner and had cake and punch.

mica178 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-invites-whats-worst-ones-youve-received?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:ccb1c7a7-a25f-49b4-908d-12f6f0ada678Post:3a3dfd0b-6c66-47ce-8e1e-9ffbed5498d3">Re: S/O Wedding Invites - what's the worst ones you've received?</a>:
[QUOTE]Just found out we sent an invite to fiance's friend (who I've only met once in passing, she lives out of state) and messed it up by: -putting her ex-boyfriend's name on the invite instead of her husband's name -putting the last name as ex-boyfriend's last name -spelling ex-boyfriend's first name wrong FI WENT TO THEIR WEDDING. HER HUSBAND'S NAME IS ON HER FB PAGE! Luckily she laughed it off, friended me on fb and sent a really sweet message essentially saying, "men, huh!" So embarrassed. I knew I should have checked FI's list myself!
Posted by Goodspeed[/QUOTE]

My FI is useless like that too. When we were putting together his guest list, he'd name his friend, not know what nicknames stood for what (Ed is Edward? Edmund?). And the name of his friend's wife? Mrs. Friend. Thank goodness for formal invitations. I'm going to cross my fingers that these people RSVP with everyone's full name.

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