Since we decided to switch to The Breakers, the general agreement was that unnecessary +1's were not going to be included in our master list. If the guest had been dating their significant other for so long that it's almost common law marriage, the +1 was of course, granted. But the main guideline was:NO RING = NO INVITE.At ($$$) per head, I really don't fancy the idea to get introduced to cousin Vicky's new totally hot bf at my own wedding. Bridezilla? Stomp stomp stomp.Now. I got the scoop from FI that his brother had been talking and talking about bringing a date to the wedding. FI stopped him and told him our situation. FI and I had talked about it, and we decided (pardon the nerve of making the decision, it's our freaking wedding) that if FI's brother is steadily dating somebody by the time our invites are supposed to go out, he gets his +1.If not. NO.I get a call from momma in law today and in her master list (FI's side), she put FI's brother as "Pepito and guest" (that's not his name, but you get it).Pepito just came out of a troublesome relationship.It doesn't look good (though I wish him good!).What defines a steady relationship time-wise?A month? 2, 3, 6? A week?If he gets back with Pepita by the time my invitations are going out, well darn me, here's your +1. If he gets another girlfriend by the same time, here's your doggone +1. If he decides to ask somebody out two weeks before the invites are out ...I will swallow her mailbox./ vent.I'm sorry, I'm hormonal. Imma delete this tomorrow - possibility of lurkers. Of course I haven't said anything I haven't said to FI's family's face, but w/e.