2 nd wedding dress?'s

veneeta23 · September 2010

If you had to take pic before the wedding because of time restraints would you buy another wedding dress?

veneeta23 · September 2010

i meant if you had to take pics before the wedding which means he has to see you before the ceremony? would you buy another wedding dress?

mkrupar · September 2010

I don't understand why you would. Is it because he's seen you before walking down the aisle? If it's that big of a deal, then don't do pics before the wedding. I've never seen a bride & groom do pics before the ceremony and then the bride change dresses. That just seems a little silly to me. (and expensive!)

veneeta23 · September 2010

well we wont have time to do pics after the ceremony, so are only option is to do pics before the ceremony. and i believe in that thing he should not see you in your wedding dress before the ceremony. I really don't want to get another dress but i don't want to get divorcee.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Hell no. I have never heard of this before.

RoxysMama · September 2010

It will be fine. Our photographer (also a close family friend) explained to us that she and her husband did pictures before the wedding, they also didn't have time to do it after. They have been married for 20 years, have a beautiful 15 year old daughter and are two of the happiest married people that I know.

Unless you have the money to get two dresses I don't think you should worry about taking pictures before. You will still have that exciting moment of the first time he sees you. And it might even be a good idea to help calm nerves before the big walk!

GL

megk8oz · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_2-nd-wedding-dresss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05f0ca76-6dac-4bb6-ad34-ae779d41e0e7Post:28ab36b7-d9ca-47f6-abb7-4b6b05514487">Re: 2 nd wedding dress?'s</a>:
[QUOTE]well we wont have time to do pics after the ceremony, so are only option is to do pics before the ceremony. and i believe in that thing he should not see you in your wedding dress before the ceremony. <strong>I really don't want to get another dress but i don't want to get divorcee.</strong>
Posted by veneeta23[/QUOTE]

A second dress that will <strong>only</strong> be worn for pictures is a complete waste of money.

I'm pretty sure if he sees the real dress pre-ceremony and you for some reason <strong>do</strong> get divorced later on, it won't be because "he saw the real dress before you walked down the aisle". And if for some reason you do, and that is the actual reason sited on the court documents, I will personally pay your legal fees.

There is not a divorced couple on the planet that called it quits solely because some silly wedding day tradition was violated.

christinelyn0131 · September 2010

Dittos PPs, but if you're really worried there's places where you can get dresses for $100 bucks. You could get one that looks really similar to your dress, but not the same.

Personally, I wouldn't do it but I'm also hoping and praying that I'm not in your situation where I HAVE to

trix1223 · September 2010

So what's the point of even taking the pictures if you're not going to be in the ceremony dress anyway? Why bother?

Sorry, but I think buying a second dress is goofy for any reason. But this is really goofy, IMO.

mkrupar · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_2-nd-wedding-dresss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05f0ca76-6dac-4bb6-ad34-ae779d41e0e7Post:0178bb80-4418-481a-af31-6a857a67756d">Re: 2 nd wedding dress?'s</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: 2 nd wedding dress?'s : A second dress that will only be worn for pictures is a complete waste of money. I'm pretty sure if he sees the real dress pre-ceremony and you for some reason do get divorced later on, it won't be because "he saw the real dress before you walked down the aisle". <strong>And if for some reason you do, and that is the actual reason sited on the court documents, I will personally pay your legal fees.</strong> There is not a divorced couple on the planet that called it quits solely because some silly wedding day tradition was violated.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

Ditto this...I'll pitch in if this becomes the actual reason you would get divorced. This kind of sounds like MUD. But at the risk that it isn't unless you want to go to the expense of paying for/altering two dresses, I would not get a second one. The whole thought seems ridiculous to me.

NillaWafer10 · September 2010

What if you skip buying a second dress and use the money for an awesome day after shoot? Your photog might give you a discount since you are using them for the wedding day pics. Pay for an extra day of tux rental ($20) and do your own hair and makeup.

You can still take photos with your families and wedding party before hand without seeing each other. The photographer should be able to coordinate this. Make sure to take 15 minutes to shoot a few shots together with family after the ceremony.

Hope that helps!

ajnovak2 · September 2010

I wouldn't buy another dress if I were you. The dress in the pictures wouldn't mean as much as the dress you get married in... it'd be like posing as a marreid couple in a dress that wasn't really "the dress". If you really don't want him to see you before the wedding, then just try your best to get as many pictures as you can after the wedding.

redheadfsu · September 2010

If you buy another dress your wedding pictures are pointless because you won't be in your wedding dress. If he sees you it will NOT cause a divorce. Promise.

If it bothers you this much, reschedule stuff so you can do the pictures either after the ceremony or after the reception. Just don't buy another dress.

nnoble4 · September 2010

Have you tried a timeline where you and your bridesmaids take your formal shots, your FI and his groomsmen take formal shots before the wedding, and then have the shots of everyone after the wedding? This would likely cut down the amount of time you need for the formal shots after the wedding, since a lot of pictures are separate. Work on your timeline and see if this is something that would work. Ask your photog if this would help the timeline.

However, a lot of people are now doing pictures beforehand. Part of the reason is it removes some of the stress of a strict timeline. I always thought that I'd want to have him wait until I was walking down the aisle to see me, but it seems like it will work best to have most of our formal pictures taken prior to the ceremony.

IMO: You should not get a separate dress for pictures and for the ceremony. That kind of defeats the purpose of having pictures of you and your FI on your wedding day since you aren't even wearing the important dress. Good luck in making your decision.

quotequeen · September 2010

Why would you want a bunch of pictures of yourself in a dress that's not actually your wedding dress?

lexandfab · September 2010

I wouldn't worry about it. Your pictures should reflect your style and the beautfiul dress you have chosen, not a backup you are in a rush for or over budget or that is bought because of an old superstition

prusgirl · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_2-nd-wedding-dresss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:05f0ca76-6dac-4bb6-ad34-ae779d41e0e7Post:ef9def83-b97d-4f2e-87a8-d6eae47d9066">Re: 2 nd wedding dress?'s</a>:
[QUOTE]i meant if you had to take pics before the wedding which means he has to see you before the ceremony? would you buy another wedding dress?
Posted by veneeta23[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>TONS of couples see one another before the wedding just to take the photos. So don't buy an extra dress just because of that.</div>

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

If anything, I think such extravagant and wasteful spending is far, far more likely to lead to a divorce than some ridiculous superstition. There was a chick on an episode of Bridezillas who bought a second, nearly identical dress to wear for the pre-ceremony pictures, but was trying to cut out appetizers for the guests because they couldn't afford it. The show took great delight in reaming her for that.

If you honestly believe that this is ACTUALLY why people get divorced, then sorry, but I highly doubt your grasp on reality.

AKSGRL · September 2010

If you have the budget for another dress or dresses go for it. You can even rent the extra dresses just to save money. In Asian custom, it's not unusual for someone to wear up to 5 dresses for the wedding day. It's whatever you feel for that day. If you just want to wear one dress then that's fine too. As long as he sees you the day of the wedding, I think it's fine.

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