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This is my wedding. Right?

mrsjamalwaliscottmrsjamalwaliscott
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Then why do peoplethink that they can tell you how your wedding should look, that you need to have more people in your bridal party, that you need to send so and so a save the date (whom by the way you don't even know), what type of food you need to serve, and anything else that they can think of. I just don't get people sometime. This is my day! I'm starting to become a BRIDEZILLA and shut people out. I should have eloped. And wait until I tell them that the only kids invited are those in the wedding. Folk really goin be acting crazy then. And here is the thing they ain't helping you pay for none of it.
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Re: This is my wedding. Right?

  • alfdallas21alfdallas21
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    edited December 2011
    PREACH!!! That's why I've learned not to even mention anything about it any more...it's hard because you do wanna share your joy but people just don't get it -- I'm sharing this with you but I'm not asking for your advice or your "well if I was you..." comment!...BTW -- have you checked out Pier 1 to see if they have those candle screens we were talking about earlier??... I think I saw some there as well as Target's...let me know what you find...and yes $500 to rent that screen is re-damn-diculous!!...LOL!  :)
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  • miss2mrscjmiss2mrscj
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    edited December 2011
    Whooosa suga! Don't let people get to you. Let it go! I know how you feel I'm going through the same thing. I can just imagine what's going to be said when I say no kids. Just remeber it's not about them it's about you and your FI! Good luck!
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  • clross01clross01
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    edited December 2011
    Take deep breathes its going to be okay.. My DOC get a little offended when I told there will be no kids attending the reception.. She couldn't believe I wasn't having kids at the wedding... I have a lot of nieces and nephews the majority of them are grown.. Literally...
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  • MrClintonsFirstLady09MrClintonsFirstLady09
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    edited December 2011
    Girl you spoke the Gospel when you said all this. That's is why I keep my wedding planning to myself. If I don't share it here then it's in my head or one of the many piece of paper I have. It was already hard enough having to explain why the date changed. Then I have the task of sending out the date change cards. But to ask me all these questions and give me suggestions when you aren't shelling out one red nickle makes me mad. So I feel where you are coming from.and yes folks gon' be hot as fire when they find out they have to keep them bay bay's at the house lol.
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  • mrsjamalwaliscottmrsjamalwaliscott
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Ladies! I just can't stand it sometimes. It's like dang this is our wedding not the family's wedding. So from here on I will just have to keep alot of things to myself which can be hard because I love talking about our wedding. Thanks.
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  • Panda16Panda16 member
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    edited December 2011
    This is exactly why we decided to have a DW. It's our way or no way. And when I do watch Bridezilla... I sometimes wish I could be bold like them so I could tell people f*&$ off and not care what others think. The problem is because we're soo close to family, they feel like they can manipulate you and it works. I guess the DW was my passive aggressive way of being a Bridezilla, LOL!
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  • tamishae77tamishae77
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    edited December 2011
    mrsjamalwaliscott, I got my choir robe on because you are preaching to the choir.  I am having the same problem.  I'm finding that people who have never had a wedding or didn't have the wedding that they want are trying to live vicariously through my wedding.  And I'm totally with you on the whole, why do I need to send a save to date to someone I don't know.
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  • mrsjamalwaliscottmrsjamalwaliscott
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    edited December 2011
    Exactly, sending a save the date to someone who you don't know is weird because I wouldn't want to be invited to someone's wedding that I didn't know. It just doesn't make any sense. They didn't know you when you sent the save the date and they aren't going to know you at the wedding so you are still going to be strangers. Plus me and DF made a pact to only invite those that we feel close enough to, to share this special say with us. I don't want to get to know someone new at my wedding!
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  • KimRhoneKimRhone
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    edited December 2011
    Can you say everything you just said again? I think that we have an identical life if that's what you are going through. It is about you and your FI not anyone else
    Lovin Kimmie
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  • Lovie 129Lovie 129
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    edited December 2011
    ROFLMAO! I read this board and shook my head. Just yesterday I had to resend my offer to have my FI great-nephews be ring bearers....they are over stimulated, under exposed boys (3, 5) that sit under their mom and grandmother all day. My FI totally understood and agreed with me but his sister said I was disrespectful, ignorant, and well that's not important. The problem is we are having a very small wedding, no more than 90 people (I'll take it to 100 for budget purposes). My FI lost his parents when he was 12 yrs. old and he has 3 older sisters. I really wanted to have as many of his family in the wedding but not at the expense of my mental health. We are also only having the kids that are in the wedding, no more...period.When it's not their money, people have much to say but nothing to give.
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  • Reid101Reid101
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    edited December 2011
    I just posted a similar question earlier this week. Omg, I am sooo tired of people doing the same thing to me. I can totally understand being a bridezilla to a certain extent!
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