priest to the rehersal dinner

Re: priest to the rehersal dinner

• trix1223 member

  

  September 2009

  Yes.  He may decline to attend, but anyone who has to be at the rehearsal should be invited to dinner, IMO.FWIW:  I'm a church organist, and I often get invited to RD's.  I always decline unless it's a very close friend or family member.

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• duckie1905 member

  

  September 2009

  Yes, anyone that participates in the rehearsal should be invited to the dinner and that includes the officiant and any musicans, servers, etc. They may very well decline, especially if they don't know you that well but it is always polite to extend the invitation.

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• rmfriedman

  

  September 2009

  Yes, absolutely.

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• whits900

  

  September 2009

  Ok so follow up question to this? We are using a minister we don't know and will probably only have spoken to once before the wedding  - do we need to send an "official" invitation like the one we will be sending to guests, or can we just invite them while at the rehearsal?

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• duckie1905 member

  

  September 2009

  I would send him a formal one.  Otherwise he'll probably assume either you don't really want him there or he was an afterthought, both of which would make you seem pretty rude. He will more than likely decline if he doesn't know you, but it is still polite to ask.

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