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Invitation Etiquette question

jaramlerjaramler member
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in Minnesota-Minneapolis and St. Paul
I created a wedding website for the guests mainly to include much more detailed information than what could fit on the invitation regarding directions and parking as well as hotel information.  I included other things on the site as well (it's the one from The Knot) so things like "about us", things to do in the area, etc.  It also already had a registry page on it which I haven't yet filled out.  I didn't include the website address on the STD because I hadn't created it yet.  Now I am hoping to include it on the wedding invitation on bottom of the Accomodations pocketfold insert.  I wrote out something like "For more details, please visit www dot etc. etc. etc."  My question is - do I fill out the registry page on the website, or should I delete it?  I don't know if that is bad etiquette since I am indirectly providing it to people.  Or is it a dumb idea to put the website address within the invitation?  I don't know a better way to let people know about it without emailing it to everybody.  The main reason I want to do the website is because parking could be confusing for people unfamiliar with the campus/chapel - there's no parking directly at the church (additionally the address for the chapel isn't really where the chapel is located - it's complicated) and there isn't parking directly at the reception.  I want to make sure people know where to go since it will be the middle of winter and I don't want to make them walk around to figure it out.  Sorry so long - any thoughts?   Thanks!
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Re: Invitation Etiquette question

  • periippaperiippa member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you could include the web address on one of the inserts -- not on the "main" part of the invitation though.And YES, leave up the registry information on the website! As a guest of weddings, I ALWAYS look at their Knot website to see where they're registered. It's bad form to put the registry info on an invitation, but it's helpful to include it on your website with all the other helpful information :)
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  • rkroerrkroer member
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    edited December 2011
    I had all the same concerns as you (and the same confusion on location sites/directions, etc) but I filled out those pages on my wedding website just because this is the ONLY place that etiquette queens seem to agree is okay to mention registry.  You aren't advertising it in your invite like "for registry info go to our wedding website" so I think it's the perfect way to communicate that info!  The main focus you said yourself is to provide more precise directions, and this is just an added bonus.  I vote to leave the website and include the registry info!  And I think that putting the website on the Accomodations card is a perfect spot --- it's a card they'll look at and it's not on the main invitation.  HTH!
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  • jaramlerjaramler member
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    edited December 2011
    Okay, thanks.  I am interested to see what people say.  The only reason I'm questioning it now is because I just read some replies to a post on the P&E board and someone was totally ripping on the idea of listing the website on the invitation where the site has the registry information on it. It never really crossed my mind before that it would be a bad thing to do.  But I hadn't really given it that much thought yet. Thanks for your input!  :)
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  • gala0068gala0068 member
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    edited December 2011
    For my inivitations I couldn't go indepth about Hotels so at the bottom of my hotel insert I put "for more detailed information visit our webpage"I think this really helped people out and I think they had fun looking over the webpage.  We also had registry information on there too.
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  • hkieslinghkiesling member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't take the P&E board too seriously.  A lot of etiquette is very regional (for instance cash bars).  P&E actually scares me a little. We printed up some business cards with our website info on it.  That way, guests can just keep that by the computer. They don't have to have the whole invite out.  And we have a section for registries on the website.  I think that is where guests expect to see registry info, not on the invite itself.  Although, I had to fight FI on this one.  He's very practical-minded and says as a guest he would rather just have everything in one place (i.e. the invite).  I won!
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  • Maria92609Maria92609 member
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    edited December 2011
    We included our website on our map/hotel insert (PIB).  I think that is pretty well accepted in this area (good point PP on the regional aspects etiquette).  We also included the website on our STD.  I would most definitely leave the registry info on the website.  It's poor form to include that info in the actual invite, but people expect to find it on the website.  We have our registries linked on our website and we added the following note on that page:  "It means the world to us that you will be a part of our wedding day. Of course all we ask is for your presence and your prayers and support, but we also realize that you may wish to give a gift and so we have created three gift registries for your convenience."
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  • slcwslcw member
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    edited December 2011
    Put it on! I did....P&E probably would eat me alive! lol...I put my registry information on the website...(kinda off the subject) I even put "Complimentary sodas and fully stocked cash bar." or something like that on the website by dinner choices...Want people to know ahead of time...I hate going to weddings and not sure if it's open bar or not...Just like I hate NOT knowing what to get people for a gift...
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  • huwehotalinghuwehotaling
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    edited December 2011
    I put a link to our website on our STDs and put registry info there.  I don't think there's anything wrong with that, especially if there's other info (parking, accomodations).
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  • beka0404beka0404
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    edited December 2011
    I'm an etiquette stickler, and I have a registry tab on my guest website - those P&E peeps have their undies in a bundle sometimes.Technically, according to old-school etiquette, a registry is never supposed to be mentioned. Guests are supposed to ask the MOH or MOB. But it's not 1950 anymore!I am adamant about including our website on a card in the invite. Because we have some wonky parking situations too, and with hotels, downtown parking, etc... people need that info, so I think you should include the website on your accommodations card.
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