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Bridemaid Dress Dilemma
My wedding is in one month and one week. And one of my bridemaids doesnt fit into her dress. It is a size 14 and there is no way she can fit into it.
My maid of honor (my sister) has a size 16 that she needs to ge altered down because it is too big on her.
In a perfect world my maid of honor could switch to wear the 14 and the other bridemaid could wear the 16.
The dresses are the exact same dress. My MOH refuses to switch dresses and screamed at me and told her it is not her problem. Even my mom is taking her side saying its not her problem and we need to find another soultion.
I understand it is not her problem but I dont know what else to do at this moment. We dont have enough time to order another dress before the wedding.
My MOH has a size 16 thats to big on her. I just dont get why she would get the size 16 altered down to a size 14 when we have a size 14!
My maid of honor (my sister) has a size 16 that she needs to ge altered down because it is too big on her.
In a perfect world my maid of honor could switch to wear the 14 and the other bridemaid could wear the 16.
The dresses are the exact same dress. My MOH refuses to switch dresses and screamed at me and told her it is not her problem. Even my mom is taking her side saying its not her problem and we need to find another soultion.
I understand it is not her problem but I dont know what else to do at this moment. We dont have enough time to order another dress before the wedding.
My MOH has a size 16 thats to big on her. I just dont get why she would get the size 16 altered down to a size 14 when we have a size 14!
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Re: Bridemaid Dress Dilemma
5 weeks is plenty of time to rush order a dress, or find one on Ebay. While it would be nice for your MOH to cooperate, she doesn't have to. Unless you purchased the dresses, you have no control over what they do with them. Its THEIR dress. If you did purchase the dresses for them, then you have a leg to stand on in this argument.
Is it possible to get the size 14 altered bigger, maybe with the addition of side panels in the same fabric? I don't know if you could order extra fabric faster than you could get a new dress (either from a retailer or on ebay). You might suggest that to the BM, but then stay out of it. It's her mess, and it's her responsability to fix it by your wedding day. If it's not going to happen, and you'd be ok with her wearing a different dress, you could also offer that option.
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MOH is being a pill, but you can't force her into exchanging dresses.
Ditto PPs in that this isn't your problem. The BM can find a new dress on her own, or figure out a way to get the smaller one to fit. Of course you can help her if you wish, but it's not your responsibility to do it FOR her.
She can find a matching shawl and a seamstress might be able to add some fabric from it to the dress. Or she can check eBay for a dress in her size (or one in the same color/fabric that she can use for scrap material to re-build the original dress).
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Anyway, it's not your problem. Tell her the options some of the other posters listed, and let it go.
With my MOH I think its more than just a dress problem. She has a control problem. When we picked out the cake she kept arguing with me about why I didnt want pillars on the cake. I finally comprimised so she would stop making a fool of that. My mom also threw a fit. because I wanted to trade cake books with her because I had already looked at the one in front of me and she hadnt looked through it yet. She folded her arms and sat back and pouted. I feel like they are both big babies sometimes who are completely against me.
We are going to the seamstress tonight to see if she can add any panels to the dress. I just cant get over why my MOH is going to alter a size 16 down to a size 14 when we have a size 14!
As much as I would love to leave my BM to do this on her own, I dont just want to desert her. She is the one BM who is constantly helping and asking what she can do for me. I feel when need to stick together as a wedding party since my MOH and my mother have turned on us.
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MOH sounds just lovely. If you aren't able to stand up to her on wedding stuff, then keep her out of any planning that's left! I'd give the same advice for mom, but that's a more complicated situation. Good luck with the dress tonight!
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[QUOTE]Even worse. She's my sister.
Posted by specky9[/QUOTE]
Just saw this. Ugh to your female relatives.
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[QUOTE]She can find a matching shawl and a seamstress might be able to add some fabric from it to the dress.
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<div>This is exactly what my BM did when she realized ONE WEEK before my wedding that she'd gained weight and her dress no longer fit. So breathe, you've got time, it's just a dress, it'll work out. Actually, that's exactly what I told my BM when SHE freaked out. LOL</div><div>
</div><div>Sorry about your sis & mom, btw. If they were doing this to me, they'd be gone from my wedding planning in about 3 seconds flat.</div>
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I can see why youre upset, but if the one girl wont switch, there really isnt anything you can do. Its a total bummer that the dress doesnt fit the one girl, but why didnt she order a size that fit her? If she ordered it too small, then its her own fault, and you shouldnt stress too much about it. If it fits her on the day, great, if not Im sure she would be happy to attend as a guest.