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Kris0314
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Bridesmaid Problem
Help! I need to know what to do about one of my bridesmaids.
I'm having dresses made for my 5 bridesmaids. We all met up about 3 weeks ago to get their measurements taken, but one girl was sick and couldn't make it. Turns out she needed to have minor surgery (minor meaning it takes about 2-3 days to recover). She told me she would go on Wednesday of last week and then she changed it to Friday, but she still hasn't been to the seamstress to get her measurements taken. They have their first actual fitting this coming Thursday and she has stopped returning my messages.
Should I take this as a sign that maybe she can't be relied on or am I just having bridal brain and worrying too much about things? I love her to death, but I really need her to take care of this!
I'm having dresses made for my 5 bridesmaids. We all met up about 3 weeks ago to get their measurements taken, but one girl was sick and couldn't make it. Turns out she needed to have minor surgery (minor meaning it takes about 2-3 days to recover). She told me she would go on Wednesday of last week and then she changed it to Friday, but she still hasn't been to the seamstress to get her measurements taken. They have their first actual fitting this coming Thursday and she has stopped returning my messages.
Should I take this as a sign that maybe she can't be relied on or am I just having bridal brain and worrying too much about things? I love her to death, but I really need her to take care of this!
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Re: Bridesmaid Problem
Posted by Kris0314[/QUOTE]
Have you called her several times about this? Just give her the seamstress's phone number, let her know how much time the seamstress needs to alter the dress and allow her to take care of it on her own. Or she can find her own seamstress.
They really don't need to all go to the seamstress together, since the seamstress won't be able to work on all of their dresses simultaneously. So it will be okay if one goes at a later date.
Conclusion: It's just bridal brain, so find a way to relax. Take a day off from planning, read a book, take a hot bath or go on a date night .
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For example: If I'm sick for a few days then there are days of dishes and laundry that I still have to do because I'm not doing them when sick.
So check up on her, and call the seamstress to find out when she absolutely needs your friend's measurements. Then take a bath.
She just had surgery, even though it's considered one with a short recovery time, she might be tired or still hurting, or not reacting well to any pain meds she may have been put on. I had all of my wisdom teeth pulled a few years ago, most people will say you can go back to work the next day after that, but I wound up in bed for a week and a 1/2 (Turns out, I respond horribly to Percocet and one of the areas wound up getting infected on top of that). And during that time, I did not want to take phone calls or be stressed about everything else that was going on in my life. I wanted my rest, and to put everything off until I was at full capacity to deal with it.
Also, while getting the alterations done and out of the way early is a nice thought, why do they need to do this now for a wedding that's 6 months away? There are brides that don't even have a BM dress picked out with this much time left, why must she go now? Is there no possibilty whatsoever of her getting pregnant and/or gaining/losing weight in the next 6 months? I mean, I'm not saying get the dress altered the week of the wedding (Altough, most seamstresses can make such things happen), but why do they need to get done so soon?
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