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XP: Someone asking for my registry that I didn't invite

I don't know what to do here and need some advice. There's a girl who I worked with before, and whose family used to be good friends with my family, but my grandmother and her mother had a little falling out and have not spoken since. Anyway this girl invited me to her wedding, which was... 5 years ago, and to her baby shower like 6 months ago even though I hadn't talked to her at all in almost 2 years. She was never like a good friend of mine, and she's not on my invite list. Today she sends me a text message saying "Just wanted to say hello and see how you're doing? I heard you're getting married and was wondering if you had a registry?" This makes me feel akward. I told my mom and my mom says "You should send her an invitation!" I don't even have her address, and to ask for her address now... that doesn't seem right (and I don't know anyone else who would have her current address). What would you do?
BabyFruit Ticker

Re: XP: Someone asking for my registry that I didn't invite

  • We received some gifts off our registry from people who were not invited to the wedding. 

    People know that sometimes we can't invite every person we want to invite, but some of them still want to send cards or gifts.  You should not feel obligated to send invitations to people just because they sent (or are sending) you a gift.
  • Agreed.
    Planning Bio

    Our wedding date is November 12, 2011

    110 invited 86 accepted! 20 can't make it 4 haven't responded yet
    RSVP Date October 12th, 2011

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_xp-someone-asking-registry-didnt-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:e05536af-bb26-4498-84dd-511f994afdf5Post:6e056317-0fcb-4e22-a6c5-23b46dfff48b">Re: XP: Someone asking for my registry that I didn't invite</a>:
    [QUOTE]We received some gifts off our registry from people who were not invited to the wedding.  People know that sometimes we can't invite every person we want to invite, but some of them still want to send cards or gifts.  You should not feel obligated to send invitations to people just because they sent (or are sending) you a gift.
    Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

    This.
  • Some people simply want to give you a wedding present and that doesn't make an invitation necessary.
  • That's what I thought, but with my mother telling me to invite her I wasn't sure. Makes sense though.... thanks!
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_xp-someone-asking-registry-didnt-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e05536af-bb26-4498-84dd-511f994afdf5Post:6e056317-0fcb-4e22-a6c5-23b46dfff48b">Re: XP: Someone asking for my registry that I didn't invite</a>:
    [QUOTE]We received some gifts off our registry from people who were not invited to the wedding.  People know that sometimes we can't invite every person we want to invite, but some of them still want to send cards or gifts.  You should not feel obligated to send invitations to people just because they sent (or are sending) you a gift.
    Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

    <div>I agree.  I have sent gifts when I was not invited to weddings.</div>
  • some people just want to send you a gift. ive had plenty of people ask me.
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