Bridesmaids???

ansley.easterlin · September 2009

I am having my sister be my maid of honor, but she lives in Boston and probably will only be around for the week of the wedding. I would like to ask a friend to be the Matron on Honor, but she and I were never really BEST friends and have only just reconnected within the past 5 months or so from not seeing each other for 4 years. But she is super organized and detail oriented and I know she would be INCREDIBLY helpful in putting a wedding together by May 1 (We don't have anything set in stone yet... at all.)Would that be too weird to ask her to be that involved? We are friends, always have been (never any fights), we have just never been BEST friends....

Brie2010 · September 2009

Plan your own damn wedding and don't make your friends do it. If you want someone "super organized and detail oriented" to plan your wedding, hire a wedding planner.

J&K10910 · September 2009

First of all, planning your wedding is the responsibility of you and your FI, and your parents if they're paying. Not your MOH. Why can't you just ask her to be a bridesmaid?

Leah&Christian09 · September 2009

It would be weird to invite someone to be in your WP just b/c you think they will help you plan your wedding. They won't.

Brie2010 · September 2009

Andplusalso change your Knot login so it's not your e-mail address. You'll get spammed.

Kati0105 · September 2009

What Brie said. Also, if your user name is your real name/ email address you should change it for privacy reasons.

[Deleted User] · September 2009

Is your main reason for asking her b/c she is organized and will help with the wedding? That's what it sounds like and I would say that is definitely the wrong reason to ask someone to be your matron of honor.

gkb0910 · September 2009

You should ask the people who are closest to you to stand up with you, not the people you think will be the most help to you. If you need help, ask your FI. If you want to run ideas by your friend, ask if she minds, and then talk to her. If you're not that close, don't make her a MOH just to have her work for you. Her "job" would be to buy the dress and be there for your wedding, not plan everything. Also, if your user name is your full name, I would change that. Even if it isn't, I'd change it from your email address or you'll get a lot of spam. You actually can't change it, so you'll have to create a new account.

mocha beans · September 2009

Bridesmaids don't help plan the wedding, that's your and FI's job. They are supposed to show up, support you in the marriage, and have a good time. What exactly are you thinking she'd help you plan?

jackie8582 · September 2009

Feel her out and see how she feel about it. She might be thrilled to be that involved! I have a friend who's MOH lives out of state and is throwing her bach party in that state (my firend is getting married there). Since most of her friends (including myself) can't travel for the party, I threw her a small one here a few weeks ago, and I am not even standing up in the wedding. It was a great time and my friend was super greatful to have a night out with all of us.

cdeshane · September 2009

Uhhh Ohhhh

cris10c · September 2009

I wouldn't ask her to be MOH just because she is organized and could be helpful to you. If you feel like she is the person you want standing up with you on your wedding day them you should pick her. Also, just because she is your MOH doesn't mean she will want to help. She could be just as helpful as a BM but it will be up to her to decide. If you really only want her around because she will be helpful, ask if you can hire her to be your coordinator.

sucrets4 · September 2009

Ditto brie.

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squirrly · September 2009

Yes, it would be too weird, as it's YOUR wedding. If anyone volunteers to help, that's great. But bridesmaids aren't free labor or free wedding planners. They're friends/family. Treat them as such and plan your own wedding.

sarabellam · September 2009

My bridesmaids were total slackers; they didn't help me make the invitations, or plan a shower, or throw a bachelorette party, or any of their other duties. They didn't even offer to hold my dress when I peed! Somebody call me a whambulance!Hire a wedding planner, or plan your own party.

fangsiting · September 2009

Damn. I should have gone through the phone book and found a wedding planner, called her up & asked her to be my MOH. I already picked my wedding party--do you think its too late to add someone new? I wouldn't want to hurt the wedding planner, uh, I mean my new BFF's feelings.

FutureMrsDudley55 · September 2009

Cute facebook photo! You do pageants? That's pretty interesting, have you ever won?

duckie1905 · September 2009

Really? Plan your own wedding and pick your WP party because they are the people closest to you-not the people that will do the work for you. Your wedding=your responsibility. You are marrying someone aren't you? He gets to help too. Other than that, you are on your own unless you hire a planner.

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