You cant come shopping with us

MsFarmer · July 2010

My Sister-in-Law and Niece are planning to go to a bridal show with me next weekend. My mom is coming in and we are planning to make is a girls day out. My stepdad and brother are going to go play golf with one of my stepbrother’s buddies. His wife and spoiled brat child want to come with us. I am not that close to this person and her kid(age 5) can get on my nerves. My brother slipped and said something in from of her now she wants to go. Not only that she expects my niece to help with the little monster and my niece is getting tired of it.I don’t think my niece should have to help with the kid nor does her stepmom. I do not want them to come with us because I feel like the child will hinder out time. How can I tell her she can’t come. I am thinking about telling her we all ready bought the tickets.

danieliza1127 · July 2010

Whose wife is this? I'm confused.

MattsPenguin · July 2010

Ditto. Regardless, just tell them you've already bought the tickets and tell them to find something else to do.

georgia_bride09 · July 2010

Your stepbrother's buddy's wife? I would just avoid contact; that's weird of her.

Stackeye210 · July 2010

I'm sure you can buy tickets at the door of a bridal show, that's a pretty lame excuse. Just tell her the truth, that you already have your plans set and you were looking forward to enjoying time with your mom and SIL. Maybe you can make some near future plans to do something with her later on.

MsFarmer · July 2010

Stepbrothers friends wife

danieliza1127 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Stepbrothers friends wife
Posted by MsFarmer[/QUOTE]

Oh dude, then that's just weird of her to ask. Just tell him to tell her that it's a family thing only. There's no reason she should even expect to go.

AdeleDazeem · July 2010

That is some wicked large font.

And just tell her no.

MsFarmer · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-come-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bde32033-91c8-4329-8b4a-ed73de552a49Post:3076090a-38db-4010-be13-cca58694a0d0">Re: You cant come shopping with us</a>:
[QUOTE]That is some wicked large font. And just tell her no.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

I am haveing throuble with my eyes today. Sorry about the fonts. thanks I hope this person will take no for an answer. We could just not tell her when we are leaving.

mocha beans · July 2010

Just say no. You want it to be only mom and SIL. More people will be more work to wrangle, blah blah blah.

salt78 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Stepbrothers friends wife
Posted by MsFarmer[/QUOTE]

<div>Well that's far removed. How bizarre of her to invite herself. </div><div>I'd tell her that you already got the tickets.</div>

danieliza1127 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-come-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bde32033-91c8-4329-8b4a-ed73de552a49Post:b551caec-b01d-4c22-8c55-4d787065cd38">Re: You cant come shopping with us</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: We could just not tell her when we are leaving.
Posted by MsFarmer[/QUOTE]

I think it would be mean to go along with her thinking she's going and then just go without her at the last minute. You and/or your step-brother just need to be grown-ups and tell her that it's a family only day and that she can't go.

tldh · July 2010

Tell her it is only for your closest family members.

squirrly · July 2010

I'm sorry, we're just going as a family - no friends are joining us.

MsFarmer · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-come-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bde32033-91c8-4329-8b4a-ed73de552a49Post:f2730061-0fb0-4123-8395-404f7f5f94b9">Re: You cant come shopping with us</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You cant come shopping with us : I think it would be mean to go along with her thinking she's going and then just go without her at the last minute. You and/or your step-brother just need to be grown-ups and tell her that it's a family only day and that she can't go.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

I was just jokeing about not telling her when we were leaving. I can be a bitch at time but not that bad. We are just going to tell her no is family like all you awsome brides have said. Thanks

L-Bride · July 2010

I have the solution. Call her on the phone and tell her she can come shopping, but only if you can go shopping with her second cousin's, nephew's sister-in-law. During the confused silence on the other end say "exactly" and hang up.

karenwjackm · July 2010

Is she going to be there from out of town or something? Or does she have somewhere else she can be. I'd only let her join if she is in town with the buddy from out of town and has no where else to go while they go golfing. Of course even then, she can find a mall at which to hang out with her child.

tldh · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Is she going to be there from out of town or something? Or does she have somewhere else she can be. I'd only let her join if she is in town with the buddy from out of town and has no where else to go while they go golfing. Of course even then, she can find a mall at which to hang out with her child.
Posted by karenwjackm[/QUOTE]

If it were me...not even in this situation. The bride shouldn't be her babysitter. She's a grown woman who can surely find something to entertain herself.

noodle_oo · July 2010

This one is easy: just tell her it is a family only event. (as other posters said)

melliott09 · July 2010

That's strange and rude to invite herself like that! Especially not even being family!

I would just tell her that tickets were already bought and that it's a FAMILY affair!

Have fun!

brookelynpaisley · July 2010

Even though it's not caps, I read it in my head as shouting. I'm clueless as to what the hell you're asking.

MsFarmer · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Even though it's not caps, I read it in my head as shouting. I'm clueless as to what the hell you're asking.
Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

<font face="Calibri" size="5" color="#000000"> "How can I tell her she can’t come. I am thinking about telling her we all ready bought the tickets. "
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Just wanting some feedback on ways to tell someone are not invited to go the the bridal show with us.

pokepoke27 · July 2010

So far I've gotten seriously 20 people saying they want to go dress shopping with me. I'm just going to be honest with them. "I'm just bringing my mom and BP dress shopping with me - if I bring everyone then they're not going to have room in the store!! Ha ha ha." And it's true - could you imagine if I showed up to David's Bridal with 20 people? They'd look at us like we're insane. But I am going to say something like "I'll totally show you what dresses I liked!". That way those people that won't be going don't feel excluded. Maybe you could say something like that to her? In my case the 20 people are genuine, but there is no harm in exagerating the number of people that want to go : p.

Wmb0124 · July 2010

When I went to bridal shows and dress shopping, no one knew but my mom, dad, sister and fiance. No one invited themselves and no one showed up out of the blue. Although it was just my mom and sister with me when I picked out my dress, I wouldn't have had it any other way.

What I'm saying is, only take those who's opinions matter. If you don't care what stepbrother's friend's wife has to say, tell her she can stay home, watch TV and live vicariously through the girls on Say Yes to the Dress. She had her chance to go to bridal shows. Now it's your turn.

aggiebug · July 2010

are kids even allowed at the bridal show? a lot of times they are not so that coudl be a good excuse.

mstroud23 · July 2010

I bought my dress shortly after getting engaged and my mom, sister, one BM, and my best cousin came with me. These are the same ppl help me make of the decisions. And you should tell this strange lady that this isn't an open affair. You are going to scope out things for your wedding not bond with some strange woman.

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