marriage necessary if in love?

veronabrit · September 2009

[url]http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2009/09/if-youre-in-love-is-getting-ma.html[/url] what do you think?

Kati0105 · September 2009

I think if you are Charlize Theron and Stuart Townsend and are really just mutual beards, then no marriage is not necessary.

salt78 · September 2009

I don't think marriage is necessary at all.

alixzafiris · September 2009

Depends on the person I guess. I would want to be but I can understand why some people are okay being in a committed relationship. PS I love her

TiDa2009 · September 2009

I don't think marriage is necessary for anyone, but it's nice and it's something I (and many other, obvisouly) want to share with someone. Love does exist without marriage, though.

abbalish · September 2009

I definitely don't think it's "necessary." I think if my H were with a woman who didn't care about getting married, he'd have been perfectly happy with the committed relationship without the legality of marriage.With so many people not allowed to legally married, I don't think there's any way marriage is a necessary step for people who are in love.That said, I wanted to be married. Why exactly, I am not sure, but it was important to me.

Trifury2007 · September 2009

I don't think marriage is necessary at all but do know it makes certain things easier. I would have been fine without.

Audrey_03 · September 2009

I agree with her... marriage isn't *required*. You can have a committed relationship without a piece of paper from the government. I would have been 100% fine being w/ FI and not ever getting married.

wadingmoose · September 2009

Well, yeah.I agree. I never wanted to get married again. But FI wanted some way to show that our relationship was more than just BF/GF. So we got engaged. Things kinda spiraled out of control and now we're getting married.But in the end, we would both be happy not getting married. It's just easier with insurance, home ownership, etc to be married. And this'll shut my Mom up. About the wedding anyway.At the point we decided to get engaged, we'd made the commitment to be together for the long haul. His Mom already calls me her daughter in law, he calls me his wife, all that the wedding accomplishes is a piece of paper to make it official. And cake, of course.

sarah0725 · September 2009

Of course it's not necessary for love, but I sure want to get married. Why are they mutual beards? I don't believe I have heard this gossip.

kikibaby · September 2009

You absolutely don't NEED to get married. I really didn't want to, but my FI wanted to so... now I'm ok with it, but I would have been totally ok never getting married.

MeaghanandMichael · September 2009

I think if you are Charlize Theron and Stuart Townsend and are really just mutual beards, then no marriage is not necessary.ha! really? tell me more.and no, I definitely do not think it is necessary in general BUT I understand the mentality some women have that they would not be happy without the formal commitment that marriage delineates

wadingmoose · September 2009

PS FI is the one who should be on this board. He's got himself a wedding countdown on his computer. To the minute...

Leah&Christian09 · September 2009

I was quite happy in love living with my H for a couple of years. Eventually, we decided I needed his health insurance and the tax break. Seriously. Those were major reasons we decided to get married.

suedoe · September 2009

Cake! Did someone say cake?!!

salt78 · September 2009

[i]PS FI is the one who should be on this board. He's got himself a wedding countdown on his computer. To the minute...[/i] Awww! That's really cute.

lillianchameleon · September 2009

I don't think its necessary, unless your religious beliefs interfere. I talked with my FI before about just living together and not being married (even though it would infuriate both our parents) and he didn't like the idea because he wants to officially be able to call him and I (and possibly kids later) a family.

ring_pop · September 2009

We decided to get married when we realized that we had come to the point where it really didn't matter to us either way. That being said, I'm all for taking advantage of all the perks of having your union recognized by law.

TiDa2009 · September 2009

he wants to officially be able to call him and I (and possibly kids later) a familyHe wouldn't have considered you a family without a marriage certificate?

Kati0105 · September 2009

Why are they mutual beards? I don't believe I have heard this gossip.Everyone I know who works in PR/Production out here insists this is "commonly known" in the industry. She even had a "very close friend" a couple years ago who mutual friends would refer to as her girlfriend. I obviously have no personal knowledge of it, nor would I care either way. I do think that some couples who never marry do it as an act of rebellion or to be anti-traditional or whatnot. Charlize and Stuart have always stated (like Brad and Angelina) that they will marry when EVERYONE can get married but I personally think that if I was in a same sex relationship I'd be annoyed at all the opposite sex couples who were able to get legally married but chose not to take advantage.

J&K10910 · September 2009

I'm not really religious, but I can see marriage being necessary if you're religious to the point where you won't cohabitate or have sex or children unless you're married. Other than that, no. It's got its perks, like tax things and life insurance and so on, but definitely not required.

Travis&Cari · September 2009

Marriage is not a necessity. FI and I have been together over 7 years and I was shocked when he proposed marriage. Just because Charlize isn't married after 9 years doesn't mean they won't decide to get married or even have some kind of celebration later on either.

lillianchameleon · September 2009

He wouldn't have considered you a family without a marriage certificate?For him, probably not. He's pretty darn conservative. I bring up not changing my name sometimes and he just flips out. Him and I are very different, but I think our differences compliment each other.

[Deleted User] · September 2009

I personally think that if I was in a same sex relationship I'd be annoyed at all the opposite sex couples who were able to get legally married but chose not to take advantage.That's an interesting point. Never thought of it that way, but it's probably similar to how couples who can not have children feel when they see people who have 20 kids that they don't take care of.

Moneypenny424 · September 2009

I definitely don't think marriage is necessary. It should be an individual decision made by each couple. I can understand others' reasons for not getting married. Having said that, I wanted to be married and Mr. Penny is traditional with respect to marriage, so here we are

Sydney.O.Rutledge · September 2009

I think it's necessary for me (religion is one reason), but it's certainly not necessary for others if they are not feeling it.I would feel happier about getting married if gays could marry, too, but it's not stopping me from getting married, either.

SwedishChick2011 · September 2009

I don't think marriage is necessary for love, but I definitely wanted to get married. I wanted my union with DH to be recognized by both God and the law, if that makes any sense. Also, I think getting married shows a deeper commitment. Although people get divorced all the time (I've been divorced once), and then some people who don't get married stay together forever. Go figure.

mandysmear · September 2009

I don't think marriage is necessary at all. I personally did want to get married. It mattered to me for some reason that I cannot explain.My parents did not get married until I was 9. They were just as committed and in love as any of my friends' who's parents were married. I did care then because I was 9 and kids would be like, "why don't you and your mom have the same last name?" Then I'd answer and they'd be like, "why aren't they married?!" I went to a catholic school too, so some of the really religious parents and teachers were a little judgey about it. Now being an adult, I don't see anything wrong with people not getting married. It just sucked when I was 9 and all my friends had parents that were married.

pumpkinpumpkin · September 2009

No, marriage is only necessary is you're not in love.

skhynes · September 2009

Um, did anyone see the link to this is that article?? http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2006/07/engagement-chicken-recipeThe comments at the bottom are priceless.

Kati0105 · September 2009

Now being an adult, I don't see anything wrong with people not getting married. It just sucked when I was 9 and all my friends had parents that were married.That is actually one of the only things I would have a big issue with if FI didn't want to get married. Why put your kids through any more frustration in grade school?Moneypenny not sure you're still around but you look gorgeous in your new sig pic!

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