I'm still in unbelief that my mother did this. I have two cousins (17 & 19 years old) who wanted to be bridesmaids & have thrown temper tantrum because they're not bridesmaids. they've been making comments like "You're only have 2 bridesmaids? why isn't there a family member in your bridal party". Anyways, when their parents(my uncle and his wife) asked about my decision to not include them. I gave them the polite answer saying that being a bridesmaid is expensive and I didn't want to put the burden on them. Well my uncle called my mom, complained to her and got my mother to agree to buy the bridesmaid dresses for my cousins. When mother called and told me, I was honest w/ my mom, I told her that 1. I don't want a big birdal party, 2. I'm not close to my cousins and 3.The cousins are spoiled, immature and I don't want to deal w/ that on my wedding day. My mother said she understood and that she wants me to be happy. Well on monday, she sent me an email, telling me not to be upset but she has purchased 2 bridesmaids dresses and had shipped them directly to my cousins. My mother insists that I need to do this to keep family peace. But the thing is I have tried to include my cousins, I told them they can be guestbook/gift table attendants, but apparently those roles are beneath them. The wedding is in 3 weeks! I feel so betrayed by my mother, I haven't talked to her since monday. I've already compromised by letting one of my cousins be a flower girl even though I wanted my niece to be the only flower girl. I love my mother and I know she meant well but I'm the bride, she can't add bridesmaids 3 weeks before the wedding. Help!