Whoa! $4,000 shower?

Re: Whoa! $4,000 shower?

• baystateapple member

  

  March 2010

  I hate this trend of someone (MOB, MOH, etc.) demanding the bridal party cough up money without asking them  how much they can afford.
  
  

  

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• psichick

  

  March 2010

  i don't think it's right for the MOH to demand that anyone pays a certain amount, but i will say that spending that much on a bridal shower is pretty common around here.

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• angegary member

  

  March 2010

  What ever happened to simple? It amazes me how much people spend on showers!

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• tidetravel member

  

  March 2010

  100 people at the shower?  WTF?

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• banana468 member

  

  March 2010

  I can't believe people like that exist.
  
  A shower that size and cost is nuts.
  
  If someone was upset at me for not spending that kind of money, I'd consider it a blessing in disguise that it was easy to part ways.

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• emilykathleen511

  

  March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_whoa-4000-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4f4384fa-5597-47ea-9687-3fe969b8ca77Post:8ff6caaa-d912-4bcb-ac3d-e728c00363b3">Re: Whoa! $4,000 shower?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I can't believe people like that exist. A shower that size and cost is nuts. If someone was upset at me for not spending that kind of money, I'd consider it a blessing in disguise that it was easy to part ways.
  Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Unless it's for your FSIL. And you don't know the MOH. That sucks.</div>

  
  
  

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• emilykathleen511

  

  March 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_whoa-4000-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4f4384fa-5597-47ea-9687-3fe969b8ca77Post:555c1fa1-1a5b-4b59-adb4-4fcf23fe0c9c">Re: Whoa! $4,000 shower?</a>:
  [QUOTE]i don't think it's right for the MOH to demand that anyone pays a certain amount, but i will say that spending that much on a bridal shower is pretty common around here.
  Posted by psichick[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>WHY? I just can't figure out the reasoning here. There is no way a shower needs to be this much. Ever. No matter how much things cost in your area. There is no way. That is crazy.</div>

  
  
  

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• BlancaNieve member

  

  April 2010

  Etiquette dictates that it is the responsibility of the maid of honor to shoulder the financial burden of the shower. If she wishes to spend more then she can afford, she is obligated to ask the bridal party if they would be willing to help out. If they are not on board, the MOH must downsize her plans to something she can afford. Showers used to be intimate affairs thrown at people’s houses. Money spent for these occasions was meant to go toward the bride, as the tradition actually originated as a way to increase the bride’s dowry in cases where she was marrying against family’s wishes, or did not have a large enough dowry to begin her married life. In this case the MOH has made a significant breach of etiquette and should be informed of such.

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• banana468 member

  

  April 2010

  BlancaNieve, I think you need to brush up on your etiquette.
  
  The MOH is NOT supposed to shoulder the financial burden of a shower unless SHE wants to.
  
  Read up a bit at the top to see what the WP really has to do. 

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