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WDYD?: Ole' Skool vs Nu Skool Registry

MrsJJohnson2BMrsJJohnson2B member
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So my mom said that I need to put a small paper in my invitation to tell people where we are registried. I dont want to seem rude and inappropriate. I said well just tell people she siad your not goning to get a gifts. On our wedding website I have a tab for registry of course and I send people there. She believes that I need to put it in the invitation. WDYD? TIA
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Re: WDYD?: Ole' Skool vs Nu Skool Registry

  • trevette1981trevette1981 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd say put it in. Where I'm from, it's normal to put it in there, but the knot says no. It would help the older people who don't know how to use a computer and may not have a child, grand child or great grandchild to help them. I know my grandparents aren't computer savvy.If everyone knew how to use a computer, I'd say leave it out though.Hope that helped.
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  • Mrs.JKforeverMrs.JKforever
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    edited December 2011
    Heres my question to you: 1. Is this something common in your circle? 2. Prior to joining the knot did you find anything wrong with putting your registry info inside of your invites? If the answers to the above questions are (yes, no) then go ahead and include them because your guest ( who are the ones that really matter) will not find you rude or tacky. If you answer (yes, yes) then this is your own personal opinion about registries in the invitations so don't do it continue directing them to your site or doing word of mouth. I have to say I followed The Knots rule of thumb about registry info in the invites and most of my older guest thought we didn't want gifts and assumed we where being stuck up, if was only after the wedding that my Mom had a convo with and older aunt that everything was cleared up and we started receiving checks in the mail and gifts where dropped off at our parents houses. Only the younger guest where hipped to the web site and only a few actually went to it and signed. I have actually never seen a wedding web site where even half of the guest actually went to it and left a comment there as well. GL with whatever you choose.
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  • trlee26trlee26
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    edited December 2011
    I think it depends on what the norm is for your circle. We did not include registry info in our invitations but we did have info on our website. Word of mouth is usually good enough when trying to pass along registry info unless you registered at an unusual place most people can figure it out. I personally go online and check Macy's, Target, and Crate and Barrel. If I don't have luck (which has never been the case..LOL, I ask someone else). The truth is people knew where we were registered and we didn't get a lot of registry items. People either got us something they wanted to give, money/gift cards, and quite a few gave nothing. Oh well.
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  • mahoganieyesmahoganieyes
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    edited December 2011
    I think directing the guest to the website is a good idea, because people will have the choice to either buy something or just give plain ol' cash.


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  • angelajerry813angelajerry813
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    edited December 2011
    MrsJJohnson2B, would you please contact me by email.  I have a few questions I would like to ask you about your DIY.  I see we have nearly the same colors.  I have purchased lots of things but still have a ways to go.  My email is timelessandclassic@yahoo.com I hope to hear from you soon.
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