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RSVP help!

Need a little help making this tactful. A girlfriend of mine from college sent me an email asking me if she could bring her kids to the wedding - she has FIVE! I was honestly surprised by the question as the invite was only addressed to her and her husband but I tried to send a tactful reply and said space is really limited, etc etc, and I thought the issue was done. Tonight I get an email that says to just put them down for FIVE people (because the baby doesn't need a chair!). I hate to sound rude here, but even at half price - it would cost me over $300 for her and her kids to attend our wedding, and I specifically didn't put them on the invite. What do i do? Do I email her back and point out that I said there wasn't room or do I just suck it up? I hate to say it but I'm not a kid person - we're having a nighttime wedding (7pm!) and the last thing I want are screaming babies. I'm so stressed with one month to go and now this! Help!

Re: RSVP help!

  • edited December 2011
    I would just nicely word it and say it's an adult only wedding and leave it at that. If she says that she can't come without the kids you might offer to help her find a sitter for the night.GL!Amy
  • edited December 2011
    wow, she's being really rude. i agree with pp. tell her that there's absolutely no space to accomodate the children and rec a babysitter or two.
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  • edited December 2011
    This is a slight variation of what I have on our wedding website. Hopefully she'll get the message. Don't cave! Just know that your friend might decide not to come at all. "As much as we would like to invite all the children of our families and friends, unfortunately it is only possible to accommodate children of immediate family and those within the wedding party. We apologize if there is any inconvenience. If you need help finding childcare in Austin for the night of the event, please let us know and we will do our best to help you find someone."
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    edited December 2011
    ditto what other ppl said.  Just nicely reply and say sorry there isn't room and it's adult only.
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