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My baby hates school!

 There is a huge problem. My youngest just started 2nd grade and I wont say she's spoiled but my fiance spoils her ROTTEN! She always gets her way with him. So heres the problem all the other kids loved school. My daughter and his son started jr high, my other daughter and his other son just started high school and they LOVE it! and have lots of friends, but her she always comes home crying, never wants to do her homework and its a struggle every night.It isnt like she's not smart, shes very smart last year all 4's its just that she's in a whole new class. She is on the chubby side and sensitive and if something doesn't go her way. DRAMA! DRAMA! DRAMA! and the kids don't want to be her friend. My question is how can I get my daughter to be more social and less annoying(sorry but she is) and stop making it be a struggle. I mean she is still in the room with my FI doing her homework crying. HELP!

Re: My baby hates school!

  • milana1023milana1023 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I wish I had some advice! I was a chubby kid but I internalized it all (also not good) hugs to you though. I'm sure the knottie moms will come in with great advice.
  • edited December 2011
    My son is in the 4th grade this yr. He had a slow start with homework and I'm not the yelling, spanking mom. Here is what we do....As soon as he comes home, he has to begin his homework (non negotiable), but b/c I know his attention is not that of a teen, I tell him to do 15 min. of homework and he gets a 15 min break. It works out and he completes his work with no problem.Also, to handle the drama, try "turtles". Turtles allows the child to express what and how they feel by answering open-ended questions. The focus remains on the child, not the issue, and it helps them learn the art of compromise. We have done it in our house since my son was in k-5, and it works. Granted, b/c we don't spank, we are creative with discipline, and I'm not yelling nor losing my self control over a child.Hope this helps.
  • edited December 2011
    I agree! I don't spank unless I have to! However my son is in the 4th grade aswell and he hates reading. So what I do is go online to fcatexplorer.com and challenge him to read that way. I have one rule in my home and that is no video games Mon-Thurs...So if he finishes his homework and reads for an hour and his chores are done he can play the xbox,wii or something.As far as her being chubby. I've been chubby all my life  My mom just instilled in me at a early age that because I was chubby I was no different than the other kids. And there was no need for me to feel bad about my weight. She probably sensitive because she's a little insecure. Make sure she's not being bullied or made fun of. Try putting her in cheerleading or a dance class to help her develope some social skills. Sorry so long I can relate! GL
  • edited December 2011
    I see this so many times in my classroom. Help her find her talent/strength (it doesn't have to be academics) which will help her focus on positiveness.  The more sociable children have talents that they are quick to key in on such as cheerleading, dance etc and it helps improve their self-esteem and give them a sense of belonging.  Then create situations for her in which is is kind of forced, which is a word I don't like to use in a situation like this, to interact with other children such as play dates, or going to the movie with a classmate or two.  Allow those to be rewards for completing homework.  At that age, some go through those phases but ensure her that regardless of being chubby she is special and that she is loved. 
  • ladylumladylum member
    500 Comments Fourth Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    I have the male version of your child. He throws tantrums at school if he doesn't get his way. I went to the school 5 times last year and I told her I was NOT going through that again. I found out last year though he was getting bullied (took care of that REAL quick!) and this was causing him to have issues at school. His problem this year is he has no focus and he likes to talk (too sociable sometimes). My FI and I make him do his homework as soon as he gets home. Last year it took him an hour, this year it's taking him 15-20 mins! When he is done, he has to read a book that he likes and we have started him out at 15 mins. I would definitely make sure your daughter is not being bullied. Kids start early and you want to nip that in the bud quickly! Good luck!
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