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How many people to invite?

laurenc192laurenc192 member
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I need help and I thought some wedding veterans as well as some soon-to-be brides may have the answer. My venue comfortably seats 115 people for a dinner but no more than that. I'm finding it hard to stick to this tiny number, but I love my venue so it'll have to work. Based on how many replied "no" on your RSVPs, how many people you expected vs how many showed, how many people do you think should be on my invite list? Is it safe to invite more than this and assume some people won't be able to make it? Or should I stick to only inviting 115?
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  • becs11048becs11048
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    What do you do if you invite more than the venue can hold and they all come? No one's RSVP response is normal, there are SO many factors involved. How many of your guests would have to travel more than two states to come to the wedding? We planned for all 320+ to come and have ended up at 177 because people can't travel and because it is during the school year and so college kids and school aged children/families aren't making the trek I would not advise inviting more than the venue can hold  
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  • liz&fredliz&fred member
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    You could do an 'A' list and a 'B' list for invites. First send out to your 'A' list (no more than 115 people in case everyone showed up); these should be the people that you would prefer to have come. When you start receiving declines back, send out invites from you 'B' list. We knew we could seat only 110 people but technically overinvited. (We knew for sure some people who would decline; and which people woudn't bring a guest even though we invited a guest for them.) We ended up inviting about 150 people total.
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  • Kati0105Kati0105
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    We're inviting around 210-220 and expect that only 150 will show.  However I would be scared to invite 220 if our venue only held 150. 
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  • laurenc192laurenc192 member
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    Thanks for the advice ladies. I didn't realize how much of a problem this would be when we booked the venue unfortunately. I think an A and B list is how I'll have to do it.
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  • TnJBonnellTnJBonnell
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    It is scary. I can only hold 100 people in my venue and I'm freaking out! Your still a year away, everyone you can think of says yes now, but when it comes close to that date people will start changing their minds, especially people that are out of town. My whole guest list are people from out of town. At first I was freaking out b/c everyone said they were coming, as it gets closer people are saying no or are uncertain, b/c of the economy, school, work, etc.So, I have kinda relaxed a little more about it. Only invite the people that mean the most to you and that have been there for you. Dont invite 5th cousin twice removed ex girlfriends sister in other words. LoL. Def do an A and B list. (Just dont let B list people see it)And on the invitations, put the specific persons name you want there. This way they know its only them.Another tip, Single friends who want to bring a significant other only get an "and guest" if they've been in the relationship for a year or more (or live with the person).Go to this link: http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-guests/articles/how-to-make-your-wedding-guest-list.aspx?page=3It truly helped me out alot! There are great tip to narrow it down!Or type in the search engine on theknot.comGuest List: How to Make Your Wedding Guest ListGoodLuck!
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