Marriage Age Poll

aimerzkd214 · September 2009

My Grandparents were married for almost 40 years until my Grandpa died.My parents have been married for 34 years. It will be 35 next June so my parents, my aunt and uncle and Fi and I will all have anniversary's in the same month. We did not plan it that way, but a kind of cool coincidence.

Golfer'sLady · September 2009

Especially with my grandparents, I think it was the time period culture. I know for a fact both my mother's parents had affairs but to them, you're married and you stay that way. They definitely were crazy about each other but it isn't like what I see a lot today where what causes divorces now would just be turned a blind eye back then.

MeaghanandMichael · September 2009

Yeah I definitely agree that is a very commonly used excuse... similarly, this mentality comes around often with teenage pregnancy, when a bunch of high school girls see their friend knocked up and they think it is a good idea too. So sad.

mmm_080809 · September 2009

Hmm I guess my family's the outlier haha... my parents were 24 and 27 when they were married. They are still happily married and just celebrated their 30th anniversary. DH and I were 24 and 25 when we got married. My parents were older than average at the time because they waited until my mom finished grad school - DH and I got married while I was still in grad school.

Bubbalub · September 2009

My parents were 20 (Mom) and 21 (Dad) when they got married. They met when they were 16. They have been married 38 years now and are still very happy.My mom's parents were married at 18 or 19. Their birthdays are only 2 weeks apart. They are still together.Dad's parents married a little later, I think. His mom died when my dad was in his first year of college. Grandpa never remarried and died when I was 16.I married when I was 23. I was divorced by 25.

katafie929 · September 2009

On my dads side, my grandparents got married young. He was around 21 and i believe she was about 18. They were married for over 50 before he died six years ago. My mom had just turned 22 and my dad was 24. They've been married for 29 years this month.

aimerzkd214 · September 2009

Yea I forgot to say ages, my grandma was 18 and grandpa 20.My mom was 18 and my dad 21.

mimandjon · September 2009

I was 26 and DH was 36 when we got married in November. My parents were married in 1978 at 23 (mom) and 24(dad). They have been together for 31 years now. My material grandparents were married at 22 and 25 I believe and were married for about 35 years when my grandfather passed away. Paternal grandparents were married at 19 and 28 (there was a nine year age difference). They were married for about 40 years when my grandfather passed away. Neither of my grandmothers have dated since they were widowed.

harbor_girl · September 2009

My parents were married at 33 and 35. They've been together for 26 years. FI and I were 25 when we got engaged, and will be 26 when we get married. I guess I'm one of the few people getting married younger than her parents, haha.

lmills730 · September 2009

Grandparents got married at 18/19, both sets. Both grandfathers passed away before I was born, but both were strict catholics and would still be married today if they had not.My parents got married at 22 and 23 and celebrated their 30th last week.FI and I will be 25 and 23 when we get married.

MeaghanandMichael · September 2009

Oh yeah, and we were married a few weeks after our 24th birthday. Out of all our close friends we are the youngest by 2 years. Our friends will be 26 when they marry next July.

Night_Sprite · September 2009

My parents were both 23, my mom was barely 23, my dad was almost 24. They're still together 30+ years later. My maternal grandparents were 18 and 19. They're still together 60+ years later. My paternal grandparents were 19 and 20. He died, but they were together about 45 years.

megk8oz · September 2009

Ok, I actually have GREAT-grandparents numbers too:My mother's grandmother and grandfather were 17 and 27 when they got married. They were together until my great-grandfather died at 87. My Gram is 91 today, and would still be with him if he had not been taken 13 years ago ... it wound up being just shy of 75 years of marriage.My father's parents were married at 18 and 21, stayed together until my grandmother died 2 years ago at age 74, so about 56 years of marriageMy mother's parents were both 19 when they married, they divorced about 4 years later (Pop-Pop was a Marine, and the traveling took a toll on the marriage).My mother and father were 21 when they married, were divorced 5 years later (Actually, their divorce was finalized on my 2nd birthday).On my wedding day, both FI and I will be 25.

KitteeBride2Be · September 2009

My mom was 19 and my father was 25. They were married 10 years and then divorced. They were just too young. They had me 6 years after being married and according to my mom, it was already over at that point.My mom and my stepdad (who are a much better match) have been together for 23 years and counting.No clue about my paternal grandparents. They are both dead. My maternal grandparents were also married young and were together a long time. Not sure exactly, as they are dead also.

lillianchameleon · September 2009

Parents- 30 and 34. Married until my dad died when he was 39. I was almos three when they married.Grandparents- one side 25 and 30, the other side 18 and 21.. both stayed together until grandfather's died. My younger grandmother has since remarried.

megk8oz · September 2009

Forgot to mention that both of my grandparents and parents have re-married since their divorces. The grandparents all have at least 40 years and the parents have all have at least 20 years of marriage under their belts with their spouses. Oh, also in addition to mine, even though there are a few that are older than me, I am the first great-grand/grand/ and child to get married in my fam.

kaesha · September 2009

We're both 29. My parents were 26 and my grandparents were... uhm 20 &33 on one side and I have no idea about the other.FWIW - into the late 1800's the average age for Canadian women to get married was 22 and for men it was 26... so... you know... 18 was still young then too.

Night_Sprite · September 2009

I forgot us. We'll be married at just 24 and 24, almost 25.

notquiteblushing · September 2009

We'll both be 30 when we get married. My sister was 30 when she got married. My parents were both 23. They're been married 35+ years now. My dad's parents I think were 20ish. My mom's parents a little older.

flamingo.love · September 2009

My Mom was 28 and my Father was 38. They divorced after 13 years. My Mom remarried last year after being with my step-father for seven years, my Father has been married to my step-mother for four years.I do not know how long my Mother's parents were married. I know that my grandmother Clara passed in a tragic car accident and that my grandfather never dated again and passed almost 20 years later.My Father's parents were married at 20 and 22. My grandmother told me this evening that she married him because she was getting "old" and she had already turned down another man because he was a red-head and she didn't want red-headed children.

vgmartinez · September 2009

Dad was 21, Mom 17 and they have been married for 36 years. I'm pretty sure my grandparents were in their earlier twenties. FI is 31, I'm 24.

mandysmear · September 2009

my parents got married when they were 37. they started dating at the age of 20 though and had my sister when they were 22 and then me when they were 27. my mom had my brother at 17 with the man she thought she'd spend her life with.i don't know about my grandparents. i do know that my dad's parents divorced when he was about 8 years old.

lillianchameleon · September 2009

Oh yeah.. our numbers too. I will be 22 and he will be 24.

vanessahurd · September 2009

There's a really interesting book about this very topic called "Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, and Lose at Both" by journalist Laura Sessions Stepp.It's all about how women since the 70s have been raised to believe that career is far more important than "settling down" and if you marry young you're cheating yourself of a great career, and, in effect, a great life. Ironic, though, that the goal of most is to find someone that they connect with deeply and want to be with for the rest of their life. I think if you are lucky enough to find this person and are mature enough to recognize it, no matter how old or young you are, you go for it girl!

Ciaram22 · September 2009

My mom and dad were married at 20(m) 18(d). They were married less than 3 years.My grandma and biological grandpa were married at 26 and 27 they were married less than 10 years. My grandfather and grandma same as before were married in 1970 they both were 34 and have been married since.DH mom and dad were married at 20 and 21 divorced when DH was 15.His grandparents got married when he was 21 and she was 17 and were married happily until he died 2 years ago.My great grandparents were married she was 25 and he was 21 they were together until he died in the late 70's

BubbleJ · September 2009

My parents got together on my dads 18th birthday and were married 6 years later. They have been married 27 years.My nana and grandad were married when she was 18 and he was 32. They were married for around 8-9 years and nana left him because he slept with her best friend. (gotta love the family scandal!)My dads parents I don't know about but they divorced when my dad was about 12. I believe its more to do with personality then age tho.

xnikki118x · September 2009

My grandma was barely 18 and my grandpa was 23 or so when they got married in June of 1964. [My grandma had my mom that October.] They're still together. I know my dad's parents were also young and both still lived with their respective parents when they eloped, but I don't know exactly how old they were. They married sometime in the '50s and were together until my grandpa died in 1995.My mom was 23 and my dad 27 when they got married in May of 1988. They're still together, too.FI's parents married in 1984 when his mom was 23 and his dad was 27 or so, and they're still together as well. I want to throw a 25th anniversary party for them this November.

saschaduran · September 2009

My mom was 18 and my dad was 21. They were married 3 years before they had me. They stayed married 7 years.My grandma was 30 and my grandpa was 29 when they married. I love that my grandma was so different for her era. She went to college and then got her masters degree and became a teacher, then got married. I found out in my teens that my grandpa had been married before but his wife left him while he was away at war.

TheFutureMrsM-LoungingBeachside · September 2009

My parents were 22 when they got married- 2 weeks after my dad graduated college. They have been married 34 years. I don't think the degree/career thing has anything to do with it though- they both have postgrad degrees (although they did wait to have kids until they were 30 which apparently was pretty unheard of then and now is the norm). They have gotten through the past 34 years with hard work and meeting each other halfway, trying new activities, and a couple rounds of marriage counseling. It taught me that a marriage doesn't succeed through luck, it succeeds through work. Maternal grandparents were youngish- 21 and 25 I believe? Married 40 years until he passed and she never remarried. Paternal grandparents married a little later (late 20s) but were together for nearly 60 years before he passed also. She hasn't remarried yet. FI and I will both be 25 when we get married.

fangsiting · September 2009

My mom was 20 & my was 23. They've been married for 36 years. I've never seen them fight. But my mom gave up a lot for my dad (she dropped out of college, worked dead-end jobs to make money to put him through grad school--he has 4 masters degrees because he kept going back to school while my mom never even got to finish college). My mom is also a very shy, timid, & submissive woman. She's sweet & I love her, but she'll do anything my dad (or anyone else) wants. I think she's happy with her life but I know that she wanted more for my sister and me. I broke up with my college boyfriend after getting an ultimatum from him--we get married before your senior year or we break up. He was a couple years older & really just wanted to have sex. I was 20 then and had no interest in getting married then. When I told my mom about our break-up she was shocked and said she would wring his neck if he tried to marry me (and they loved him, so it wasn't about that). So because of my mom getting married young, I've always put education and career before relationships & marriage. Not sure about my grandparents. My mom's mom finished college before getting married and my grandfather was maybe a decade older, so early 20s for grandmother & early 30s for my grandfather? They were together 50+ years before my grandfather died. My dad's parents I'm sure were young--early 20s. Neither went to college and they met when my grandpa got back from WWII. They were also together more than 50 years. I'll be 31 by the time we get married & FI will be 30.

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