My FI and I along with my father are funding our wedding next September. My FMIL has made (in my opinion) some passive-aggressive comments about "not being needed in the wedding planning process." The problem is that she lives about 50 miles away and is largely home-bound. I have given my FI a few examples of things that might make her feel more a part of the wedding but they have shot them all down. For example I suggested we dance to the song that FMIL danced to at her wedding to which she replied that she didn't remember what it was. I then suggested that she make the calamari salad that she makes every Christmas (it is a small wedding and other crafty relatives are contributing similarly) however, she felt that she would be over-burdened doing this before the wedding. I am also an only child so I feel that much of the planning should be shared between myself and my parents since I am the bride and this will be the only time they plan a childs wedding.