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Re: Bachelorette costs?

  • edited December 2011
    i think this whole bachelorette party idea has been blown way out of proportion these days. isnt the whole point of having one to spend time with your girl friends? why does it need to be a whole weekend long extravaganza? i mean thats great if you can afford it but most ppl cant. brides are forgetting that what matters the most is being with your girl friends and having a good time. you dont need to spend hundreds of dollars to have a good time! nor should anyone expect their friends to shell out an unreasonable amount of money- especially bridesmaids who are already spending money on things for the wedding. brides be reasonable!!
  • LMGreene85LMGreene85 member
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    edited December 2011
    I do appreciate all the advice...I didnt ask for anyone to agree me with me. That reply was in response to the pp who asked me why I posted here to begin with. To get advice, which I got, and appreciate. 
  • LarissaAnnLarissaAnn member
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    edited December 2011
    FYI, there are other options. My cousin's bach party is in Atlantic City. I hate AC, but she's my cousin, so I'm going. BUT, the bridesmaids were smart! They sent an evite, with tiered options for responses... You could RSVP no. You could RSVP yes just for dinner at the Borgata. You could RSVP yes for dinner plus drinks after. You could RSVP yes for dinner, drinks, AND the hotel stay, probably including gambling and spa. So everyone can choose their itinerary/budget. I'm doing dinner & drinks, and then coming home. I'm not into gambling or spas. So... perfect! And less expensive.
  • mrsdevilguymrsdevilguy member
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    edited December 2011
    to make a long story short as I found out being in a wedding recently they can be made to be QUITE expensive... personally I think $300 is a bit much. That being said and as many pp said everyone's financial situation is different me and FI have a mortgage and are paying for our own wedding. (the wedding I was in they're both only children and I'm sure were helped out generously by their parents) Had I known to be in her wedding it was going to cost $800-1000 when all was said and done I would've declined.
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  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    erika <3 that's a pretty shitty_spa and dinner ngiht out for $300.  are you going through the drive-thru at micky'd's? you should be getting complaints.  you cannot EXPECT anyone to pay a dime.  you should be worrying about making sure you throw your friend a wonderful time with all her friends, that is what matters, not what you do.  i am assuming this is for a friend since you don't plan your own bparty (i didn't get through all the posts yet). no one cares what you spent.  you need to worry about what the bride's friends can spend.  if it's $100 tops, then you find an inexpensive dinner or cook at home and then go out.  i have spent way more than $500 on a night out, that was my choice.  i have also been able to throw a bparty for about $35 a person.  yah you heard it, and you know what, the people who loved the bride were there and that is what mattered. 
  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    wait can someone tell me if she is planning her own bparty?  because if so you are a total tool bag. 
  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    I hate when people play the attacked card. So annoying.Larissa asked you why you posted because it makes sense...our advice isn't going to do much for you. Because even if we all agreed with you...does it really matter if your girls are saying no, they can't afford that/don't want to pay that?
  • LarissaAnnLarissaAnn member
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    edited December 2011
    Alliecarrie, She's planning her own. Because SIX MONTHS BEFORE her wedding, she's decided that her girls aren't "stepping up" to do it.
  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    *snort*  classy.  if a friend ever tried that with me i'd smack her.
  • SLC0787SLC0787 member
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    edited December 2011
    I personally think $300 is a lot to spend for just one day. Your BM's are definitely spending a lot of money between the dress, shoes, jewelry, hair, make-up, bridal shower, etc. I have a BM that isn't coming to mine, and I'm not mad about it because she has 3 kids and money is tight. It's completely understandable. If you really need to have the spa day for yourself... that's fine but don't expect everyone to be able to afford it and come to that but maybe they'll do the dinner and drinks because that's more affordable. I'm going to AC for 1 night and my friends are spending less than $100. We're doing a cheap dinner, we have a free admission to the club, all of them are getting cheap hotels outside of AC and splitting the cost of the room and they can budget what they can afford for alcohol. I definitely wouldnt make a big deal about it. Everyone has different financial situations. You didn't have to pay the $500 on other bachelorette parties, but I'm guessing you were able to afford it so you were able to.
  • edited December 2011
    perhaps the spa package includes some sort of happy ending
  • alliecarrie41alliecarrie41 member
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    edited December 2011
    haha well if she made that clear in the invite, i am sure the other girls would be happy to spend $300.  a steal!
  • LarissaAnnLarissaAnn member
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  • Slento15Slento15 member
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    edited December 2011
    Weren't you also the girl who was going to cancel dress shopping w/your future mother and sister-in law (who were working hard to accommodate you) one day because you were having a fight with your fi?  Or am I wrong?  If so, this post is not at all surprising.  
  • dianenjnjdianenjnj member
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    edited December 2011
    whoa, what a greedy wretch!  check out her registries  she's six months out and just about everything has been purchased!for some people, it's never enough.
  • LarissaAnnLarissaAnn member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, well, her shower is apparently this month. Weird.
  • edited December 2011
    Truthfully I think 300 is alot to ask people to spend especially now a days with people losing their jobs and stuff. The last bach party I went to I shelled out about 150 which include dinner/drinks at Lips, a limo ride there and home, and drinks at a lounge after. I am all for doing things that you enjoy. As people have stated I would HATE if my girls did anything stripper related. However, is it necessary to have the spa day? If people in your bridal party are all for it.. then do as you please. Either way people will complain whether its $30 or 300. I would just try to be considerate of peoples financial situations.
  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't read all the responses.I think the amount I'm willing to spend depends A LOT on who it is.  For a good friend and a fun idea I'd spend more than for a distant friend and a crappy/over priced idea.Sometimes it's how you approach people. It's easy to come off as demanding even when you don't mean to.  People like to feel like they have a say in how their money is being spent, not just told "The party cost this much."I know for my b-party my MOH was planning it and later in the game I found out that there was a lot of disagreement on cost. I told her to please cancel the dinner and just order pizzas to keep the price down. I also asked her to not get the party bus (we had a hotel room too), so she downgraded to a limo and only the girls who wanted to be in it were. The rest of the girls met us in AC.  I had a BLAST and there was no set cost.  Some of the girls I'm sure spent plenty on limo, hotel, drinks, etc.  Others probably spent a fraction of that cost by driving themselves or not staying in the hotel or not drinking much at the bar.
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  • edited December 2011
    Really late on this, but $300 is way too much to spend on someone's bparty IMO. I wouldn't spend that much unless it were an entire weekend.That being said...no one cares about your wedding as much as you do, and the sooner you realize that, the happier everyone will be. You can't expect people do shell out that kind of cash especially in this economy. I think it's selfish.
  • edited December 2011
    Ok, late here...but to the post above I do believe that is the same girl (dress shopping/fight with fi) Anywho $300 is IMO a TON of money for a one day/night thing and just like Einat and I think UpperEast said it will turn out to be wayyyy more than that...My bach party was awesome and I really don't think it cost each BM more than $150, maybe the MOH a bit more but nowhere near $300 We got ONE regular room at the Tropicana for 2 nights (split by 4 gals) and we all squished into the 2 beds like 14 year olds We had ONE nice dinner (split by 7 girls) and then everyone brought one bottle of liquor and we drank in the room before we went out anywhere (via the $2 jitney or stayed in the casino) and as long as we were guests in the hotel we got free admission to the clubs there Not to mention we bought food (sandwiches, fruit, etc.) to eat during the day instead of eating out for breakfast, lunch. I wasn't 'supposed' to pay for anything but did buy a couple rounds at the pool and lunch one day which cost me like $100 Bach parties should NEVER be thrown by the bride and if the BP just wanted to do home done manicures while watching SATC via magnums of wine I'd have been ecstatic
  • mim29mim29 member
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    So, I am being asked to shell out $200 for cost of groceries for the weekend, transportation for taking us into uptown, our pre-fix meal Saturday night, alcohol, decorations etc). Now I know this sounds like a lot of things but, the house is already owned by her family (there is no rental cost here). Many bridesmaids will be there for 3-4 days/nights. Because of my job I am only able to be there for 1.5 days and 1 night. I am also paying to fly out, (an almost $200 flight) and split a rental car fee. I have paid for a lot for this destination wedding because her entire family/friends are from New England. They had a huge party that we were required to attend, I had to pay to fly to her bridal shower in NE, and now am paying more to flydrive to Cape Cod + the 200.... I feel like we (the out of towners) have gone out of our way and spent quite a bit of money on this girl. Is it rude to ask the MoH if she can reduce our/my cost since we aren't going to be there as long? Had I known she was going to ask this last minute I wouldn't have bought my flight. I also however, am the groom's sister........ This may have been answered but I don't have the patience to go through every single post/response to posts. Thanks! 
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