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Order of reception

salyse530salyse530
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We're getting married 11/1/09 and I'm trying to put together the order of things for the reception. I'm thinking we'll be introduced during the cocktail hour (so we can enjoy and mingle). Once that is over and everyone sits down, what happens next, the motzi? Is there a prayer over a glass of wine (can't recall the name)? And, then are toasts usually done, or do people start eating first. Then, when is the horrah (before or after dinner), and is that before or after the couple's first dance? I'm so confused, any help is very very appreciated. TIA
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Re: Order of reception

  • RachiemooRachiemoo member
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    edited December 2011
    there is no rule as to the order, but i'll post what i did if that helps :)we did join in the happy hour after yichud, but we were not introduced until after the happy hour once our guests had been seated.after we were introduced we went straight into our first dance and following that straight into a hora.then everyone sat down and the motzi was said.  we did not do the prayer over the wine.toasts weren't done until later during the night, I believe during dinner but I can't remember exactly.hth!
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  • Danaz1Danaz1 member
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    edited December 2011
    We were introduced into the reception when everyone was seated. We then went straight into the Horah. It was so much fun great way to start the party. We then sat down and did the motzi and started eating. Then our first dance, speeches, parent dances. We did the main course and party. There is no specific way you have to do it. Talk to your band leader or dj they will know. and talk to the Rabbi and coordinator if you have one.
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  • Danaz1Danaz1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I was told my the rabbi that you don't do the kiddush (prayer over the wine) The band leader got upset because we had originally planned on doing it and last minute we took it out.
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  • jewishmilitarybridejewishmilitarybride member
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    edited December 2011
    i'm pretty certain you DON'T do the prayer over wine.
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  • slbriz34slbriz34
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    edited December 2011
    There is no blessing over wine, the blessing (and drinking of the wine) having already been done at the ceremony.  If you do the blessing after the meal, you'll have wine then - but that's towards the end of the night. My tentative timeline is as follows:  (1) introduction and first dance, then hora (possibly followed by mother-son dance, though I'd like to do this later); (2) everyone sits and hamotzi is done; (3) as the first course is served, MOH and BM speech; (4) after dinner, mother-son dance (we aren't doing father-daughter), which will then officially lead to dancing for the evening until cake time. GL.
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  • phkesnerphkesner
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    edited December 2011
    This is what we did: Cocktail hour (we attended it) Introduction First Dance (before you get sweaty from the horah) Hora (salad served during hora) Short Dance Set (3 songs, was great to set the mood)My dad spoke and invited family up for blessingsWe did toasts right after we cut the cake and they served the champagne with cake.  
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  • ShoshieShoshie member
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    edited December 2011
    We did both the hamotzi and the kiddush at the reception. Our order:Entrance Right into first dance -- everyone came up which led to HORAThen everyone sat.We had Hamotzi and KiddushWe ateThen we had some toaststhen we danced the rest of the night (including the father/daughter - mother/son and the krenzel dance)hope that helps :)
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