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What about the step-mom? PLEASE HELP!

anovaxoanovaxo
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in Florida-South Florida
I'm making tank tops for me - my bm's - MOB & MOG...now I'm really close to FI's step-mom & she's been great with us throughout the wedding planning. Should I get her a tank top too? But wouldn't it look weird saying "step mom of the groom" or should I just leave it for my mom & his real mom?p.s.BRIDESMAID OF MINE THAT IS A LURKER YOU JUST RUINED ONE OF YOUR SURPRISES! lol :)
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Re: What about the step-mom? PLEASE HELP!

  • SaraandBenjaminSaraandBenjamin
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    edited December 2011
    I think this depends on his family dynaimc. Me personally...I'm going to include my step-mom and step-dad as if they were a mom and dad....so my step-mom's tank top will say "mother of the bride". You certainly don't want to offend his mom, but at the same time don't want to offend step-mom. This stuff is so hard!
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  • anovaxoanovaxo
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    edited December 2011
    I hate this so much UGH! :-/ thanks for your reply ::sighs::
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  • SaraandBenjaminSaraandBenjamin
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    edited December 2011
    I feel you! In a Jewish ceremony both the mother and father walk the bride down the aisle....I can't leave anyone out so I'm having 4 parents walk me down the aisle. Mom, Dad, Step-mom and Step-dad. I personally am happy with this decision, but FI's mom found out about this last night and wasn't too thrilled. You have to do what's right for your families....for me it's including everyone in everything. I just want to make everyone happy!!!! AHHH!!!What if you make a little joke about of it and did "Mother of the Groom 1" and "Mother of the Groom 2"? I don't think if they would take that the wrong way.
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  • MDA1081MDA1081 member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI's step mother has been around since he was very little. She's like his mother. We get her gifts on mother's day and everything, so in my case, she would be offended if I didn't make her a shirt. I'd put something like "2nd Mother to the Groom" I guess... ? HTH.
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  • Anagloria83Anagloria83
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    edited December 2011
    This is an interesting thread I'll be following.  FI also has a step mom and I've wondered how to go about certain things that include his real mom.
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  • anovaxoanovaxo
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    edited December 2011
    what about "Mother of the Groom tooo"? lol
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  • SaraandBenjaminSaraandBenjamin
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    edited December 2011
    Love it!Would they both be OK with it?
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  • anovaxoanovaxo
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    edited December 2011
    Step mom yea she'll love it and she'll be happy to be included but not sure about real mom? this sucks...I'll run it by FI.
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  • Anagloria83Anagloria83
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    edited December 2011
    I like what Sara is says, that it has to feel right for you and your family.  How would is real mom feel?  How would he feel?  His siblings?  I guess it also depends how long stepmom has been around, right?
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  • MDA1081MDA1081 member
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    edited December 2011
    Also, if mom and step mom get along! Luckly, my FI's mom and step mom are great friends.
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  • YHFoxtrotYHFoxtrot
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    edited December 2011
    lol at the p.s.Not sure what I would do in this situation...
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  • millenia98millenia98
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    edited December 2011
    I would include stepmom, definitely. Make her a tank with Mom on it.
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  • clovonneptclovonnept member
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    edited December 2011
    lol my FI has a step-mom...she's lucky she's getting a corsage. She's one of 'those' kind of step-moms..... When she married his father, FI was the Best Man and her daughter was the MOH. 5 minutes before FI's speech, she told his dad that he couldn't make his speech, and that her daughter would be the only one speaking. No reason, no explanation, he was cut, just like that. I barely want to address the invitation to her let alone have her our wedding, but what can ya do....
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