Not changing your name?

MissSarah786 · September 2009

I haven't changed my name yet because I had over 100 teacher applications out with my maiden name and I get sub jobs through my name by people who know me or know my relatives or teachers I've subbed for before. At this point, I'm considering not changing it at all. Anyone else?

notquiteblushing · September 2009

Probably not changing mine. Or I will continue to use my name professionally. Not sure yet.

ThePinkSuperhero · September 2009

I'm not changing mine- not my last name, anyway. I'm taking FI's last name as my new middle name.

J&K10910 · September 2009

I always planned on making my maiden name into a second middle name (so I'd be Jessica middle maiden married, not hyphenated or anything), and going by Jessica Married socially and legally and all, but by Jessica Maiden for work. But the more I think about it, the more I kind of don't want to change my name at all. I wouldn't care if people called me Jessica Married socially or anything like that, but if I intend to use my maiden name professionally, I don't see the point in changing. PLus I like my last name.

Brie2010 · September 2009

If I didn't violently hate my father's family, I would keep mine. But I do, so I'm not.Sorry, I'm not much help.Isn't yours hyphenated on FB? FWIW, I think it sounds nice hyphenated.

J&K10910 · September 2009

I'm taking FI's last name as my new middle name.This is a new one for me. I like it!

MeaghanandMichael · September 2009

I am almost a year out and I have not officially changed yet. I tried. I sat there for three separate occasions on three separate days for over 2 hours each time (one time 5 hours). Damn SS office.I go by his last name though and have since day though.

wadingmoose · September 2009

I'm not changing mind. I'm kinda partial to my name.

Leah&Christian09 · September 2009

I didn't change mine. I couldn't think of any good reason to, but I could think of some reasons not to.

lauralaur · September 2009

I'll be changing mine. In the professional world, I'm just "Laurie with Mycompany'sname," so really, no issues there. They knew I was getting married when they hired me on so they haven't ordered business cards for me or anything like that yet. I'll probably take my sweetass time getting around to it though. I lived in CT for about seven months before I officially moved here. And even then I only did it because my mom took the day off to keep me company while we went from place to place.

MissSarah786 · September 2009

Pink, I don't even want to do that and I think it's just because I'm lazy. I mean, how much work am I gonna have to do to change it? I sure won't feel any more married than I am right now. I couldn't change it right now if I wanted though, my name is how I get work.

sarabellam · September 2009

Nope, didn't change it. Didn't take my husband's name in any way. Do what feels right for YOU, Sarah. Are you considering not changing it because it would be a hassle? Not changing it because you may not get called for jobs? Not changing it because you don't agree with the archaic system by which women were considered a man's property? Whatever your reasons, they are valid. Don't change it because that is what is expected.::dismounts high horse::

MissSarah786 · September 2009

Yeah, it's hyphenated on FB. And I like DH's name because it would make an alliteration with my first name, which I like. I pretty much lazy and way too worried that I won't get work if teachers don't recognize my name. I have tons of business cards out there and teachers find me to sub for them by looking for my name.

punkyb2b · September 2009

Its a pain in the asss. I took my maiden name as my middle but find myself using it all the time. As in hi im Punky maiden married. People think I hyphenated when I didnt. Its just confusing when it hasnt been changed in every place i have to change it. I cant wait for it to be a few years down the road and more people will know me as my married name. and all the paperwork will be done. I wish I had never changed it pretty much on the daily.

opalsky007 · September 2009

I'm with J&K--keeping my last name as another middle name if I can and taking FI's last name. I'm already published and have a lot of business contacts. While I'm excited to take FI's name, I want to keep the confusion to a minimum when I go looking for a job.

ootmother2 · September 2009

I never changed my name and never regretted it.M made her maiden name her middle name

MissLeahM · September 2009

I'm still sitting on the fence, leaning towards not changing. I just don't want to go through the hassle. But on the other side, my FI comes from a family of girls and he's basically the last one to have his last name. Does that make sense? But then again, I'm not having children so it would die with us as well.. Well except if we adopt.

temerityjane · September 2009

I'm changing mine 'cause then our intials will be PO and KO, like pissed off and knock out.

LaFemme86 · September 2009

I've already had my name changed once 10 years ago (divorce and subsequent adoption) and always thought changing it wouldn't be a big deal sincI'm not so attached to it anyways. But the shallow part of me can't get over that DH has a really common last name and I don't want to be 1 of the 500+ Nikita DHLastNames. My last name now is uncommon, but on top of that, for the few that do have it, it's spelled differently than the norm as well.I think I'll probably never end up changing it, or if I d get around to it, will put my current name as my middle name (I have no middle name).

SoSweet06 · September 2009

I don't want to change mine. I'm considering doing what JK mentioned, mostly because I want to have the same name as any future kids.

Lanyer · September 2009

I was always dead set against changing my name but FI was adopted by dad (FMIL got remarried) at age 8 and was so proud of new name and family. Having his name has a lot of meaning to him and we want to have the same name (too long to hyphenate) so I am changing mine. I say if you are comfortable the way things are now don't change. If you do decide you want to have the same name but need your name for work could husband change his? Just an idea. MissSarah786 I really love your profile pic, beautiful.

mocha beans · September 2009

I'll change mine. I don't really like it, got made fun of mercilessly in school for it, and somehow people easily misspell it. FI has a ridiculously common last name, so no chance of kids making fun of our kids for it.

ZRex · September 2009

I'm going to change mine and drop my last name. I've had a lot of negativity in my life because of my family, and I'm looking at it as a new name, start of new life kind of thing.

longboatbride · September 2009

I did not change my name. It is important to me to keep the name of my father. Also, I am pretty well established in my career and it would have been confusing. Socially, people assume that I changed my name. DH gets a kick out of it, and even introduces me sometimes as Mrs DH. I try not to let it annoy me, but it does. Not when DH does it, but when others assume that I am Mrs DH. Do what works best for you and you are comfortable with.

buttaflai · September 2009

[i]But the shallow part of me can't get over that DH has a really common last name and I don't want to be 1 of the 500+ Nikita DHLastNames.[/i] LaFemme, that was one of my reasons too. H has THE most common last names and my first name is one of THE most common female names in our culture. Combined, I'm one of lots and lots. Another is that I don't want to be Mrs. His-mom's-last-name. Most importantly, I worked through my education and earned my masters with this name - those documents have that name. All of my achievements as a professional and even in my artwork bear this name.

tenofcups4me · September 2009

I didn't change mine. Never considered it. I make my living with name so changing my name would be throwing away years of reputation. Plus I just think it's a sexist tradition that doesn't have a place in today's society. I personally don't understand why some women DO change their names. Having the same last name as DH means absolutely nothing to me. And if we do have a child, s/he'll have a combination of both of our last names, not just his.

FutureMrsDudley55 · September 2009

If I didn't violently hate my father's family, I would keep mine. But I do, so I'm not.I think we have the same family, Brie. I hate my father's family too and can't wait to happy change my last name.

ggmae · September 2009

I took DH's last name, but my maiden name is my 2nd middle name. I just couldn't drop it and I was too attached to my middle name, so now I have 4 names.

saschaduran · September 2009

It took me about 6 months but I legally changed it with ss and license. I still have not gotten around to chnaging it on my credit card or bills yet. So I am always surprised when peoople check my ID and it does not match the card. No one says a word.I will get around to completely changing eventually. I like his last name and I don't want 2 names.

ExpatPumpkin · September 2009

Didn't change mine

noelle24 · September 2009

I don't want to change mine. I'm partial to it, and I don't see how it makes me any less married.

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