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Orthodox Chuppah - worried about shoulders

NovBridie09NovBridie09 member
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Hi girls,Really hope you can help...We are having two ceremonies, as H2B is Orthodox & I am Liberal. Our first ceremony is Orthodox (just with family) and I found a beautiful gold gown to wear. I searched for ages to find something that matches the colour, to cover my shoulders & finally bought a chiffon sheer gold bolero to wear over it, thinking that was enough. But I tried it all on yesterday and I'm starting to worry that because it's sheer, it may not be ok for an Orthodox ceremony? Do you think a sheer bolero is inappropriate? Thanks!
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  • BenandDinaBenandDina
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    edited December 2011
    I think it depends on the congregation (e.g. Modern Orthodox vs. Satmar; the former might be okay with it, the latter not so much).  I would suggest asking your Rabbi or your FI's family, as they might be able to steer you in a clearer direction.  We had a Conservative ceremony, and I wore a strapless dress and had just my veil as my shoulder covering, but my Orthodox Stepbro and his wife were not pleased with that.
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  • RachiemooRachiemoo member
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    edited December 2011
    ask your rabbi.
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  • NovBridie09NovBridie09 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Dina, There is only one orthodox shul in Ireland, so I'm not sure if they would describe it as modern or not... probably not!  I don't know the Rabbi at all, which is why I was asking for opinions before I ask him, so I appreciate your help! I spoke to the Cantor's wife who is a family friend and she thinks that it is probably ok, but I'm still concerend....
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  • arcmtgarcmtg
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    edited December 2011
    that really differs based on the community, so you should probably ask the rabbi.
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  • BenandDinaBenandDina
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    edited December 2011
    Hi there...you know what might help?  Ask the members of FI's family who are Orthodox (and show them the bolero or a picture of a bolero) - they might be able to clarify it for you.  It sounds perfectly appropriate and beautiful, so hopefully, they'll agree that it would work.
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  • Danaz1Danaz1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I had an orthodox cermony and I wore a bolero that went to my elbow. It was not sheer but the rabbi would have been fine if it had been. I took it off right after the ceremony and didn't wear it at the reception at all.
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  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    If it's the one in Dublin, it is considered fairly liberal for an Orthodox shul, so you're probably fine.  However, it's worth checking with the rabbi.
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