I was thinking that I might get a rise out of you ladies when I tell you about this interesting conversation I had with my doctor. My doctor is African American and just all around pretty cool. I have just recently started going to him and we are getting to know each other a lil better.I mentioned I am getting married next July and he asks if I am marrying the gentlemen that usually aaccompanies me to my appointment. I say Yes and he smiles and seems very excited until... He asks where are you getting married. my answer: Negril, Jamaica. His response: Are you serious? (with his eyebrows raised and mouth frowned) How can you do that to your parents? I asked do what to my parents and I dont understand his response. Well Ladies, He proceeds to tell me that I am booshie and selfish. And how I need to research the history of weddings because young people nowadays seem to think that weddings are all about them. He then explains to me that alot of people contributed to my upbringing and by choosing to have my ceremony in Jamaica, I have now deprived them of witnessing this monumental moment in my life. Therefore, alienating myself from those who love and care about me. He says that the marriage ceremony is not about the couple, but its about the people who love and care about them that attend the ceremony to offer their love, support, and come bearing gifts. I wanted to know what you ladies think about this point of view.