Opinions- Breast Feeding in Public

BecW2be · September 2009

I breastfed my younger dd, and I very rarely had to do it in public, and if I did I had no problem going to a quiet corner, or even to my car for some privacy and some quiet time for her and for me. I didn't shop at the mall for hours, or any other activity that meant she'd be out and hungry. That was an inconvenience to both of us, so I stayed close to home. I'm not saying that works for everyone, but it worked for me. I'm with TJ in saying that the assholewho sits there, fully exposed, daring you to say something is an AW and needs to stop. I think BFing is a private, natural time for both mom and baby, and both benefit from being able to relax and have a quiet moment to feed. That's not going to happen with your t!t in the air and 50 bazillion teenagers gawking at you in the middle of the mall.

laladypoet · September 2009

The mother has to be able to relax to get a proper "let-down" which is crucial in successful breastfeeding. I know personally I could not relax knowing that I'm in a public bathroom feeding my baby.I personally couldn't relax in the middle of a crowded store without covering myself. I'd rather go somewhere private. and I never said you SHOULD go to the restroom to breast feed. I said a baby breastfeeding in there and an adult eating there trying to "enjoy" a meal (cause babies are such connoisseurs) is NOT the same thing.

vicmo5 · September 2009

Haha! TJ! I didn't think anyone noticed that. But seriously, lalady doesn't deny it. She hates babies.

SarieP · September 2009

I personally couldn't relax in the middle of a crowded store without covering myself. I'd rather go somewhere privateSame here. I'm with the school of Bec on this one (see above).

laladypoet · September 2009

Lalady, you only think that because you hate babies, which I find extremely immature, but whatever.dang. some chick I've never even seen before today finds my dislike of children immature. someone talk me down.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · September 2009

It was said to make a point lala, not to be a literal comparison. I'm pretty sure my boob, however misshapen, will never be covered in ketchup and mistaken for a hamburger.

SarieP · September 2009

I'm pretty sure my boob, however misshapen, will never be covered in ketchup and mistaken for a hamburger. This brought tears to my eyes.

laladypoet · September 2009

well, I was just making a point also. in any case, I wouldn't enjoy bf-ing my kid in a public restroom either, but I also wouldn't enjoy being immodest. there's a middle ground. that's what I'm all for.

eastunder1 · September 2009

How is it immature to hate babies? I don't like babies. Here Iv'e always thought that was you know...a personal opinion I got to form for myself. Little did I know I was actually being childish and immature. Please.

colleen1414 · September 2009

i think breatfeeding in public is necessary. i dont think its a issue between appropriate and disturbing. This is what breasts are intended for. if anyone has a issue with it i feel they are making the act "sexual" and therefore making it a indecent to do in a public setting. Which i think we can all agree breastfeeding is far from sexual.

vicmo5 · September 2009

Immature in the way that lalady carries on about hating them. I'm not saying you have to love or prefer them, but hating babies and children and going out of your way to say it all the time creeps me out. Hating any one group of people based on size, age, color, gender, etc=unacceptable.

temerityjane · September 2009

colleen - By disliking seeing a boob flopping around in public, I am not making it "sexual." That's the standard argument of women who do not have the mental capacity to understand points of view other than their own.You don't like seeing my boob? You must be thinking about my boob in a sexy-sexy way.Maybe I just don't like seeing your kid sucking on your floppy, milk-engorged fat sack.I mean, rude way to put it, to be sure, and I don't think that at all, but seriously, women who use the "sexualizing" it argument are the ones who need to grow up and understand that other people simply do not want to see them feed their children. And it has nothing to do with sex.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · September 2009

I'm with ya lala. I couldn't whip out my boob in front of random people, no matter what the point of doing it was. I hope I'll be the kind of mom Bec seems to have been - staying near home, not taking long shopping trips, etc. But, I know there will come a time when I'll have to figure it out, since even going to the grocery store is a 45 minute drive one way. I believe I will be putting a comfy pillow and blankie in the back of my car for those situations.

lpstl · September 2009

I'm pretty much in agreement with lala, and I don't hate babies. I do hate nature though, so let's blame it on that.

temerityjane · September 2009

I don't even really understand the issue.The women who refuse to cover with a towel or those thingies designed to make a sort of baby-tent are being unreasonable.Women who pitch a fit when a woman is breastfeeding and completely covered are overreacting.No one wants to see fluid leaving anyone else's body in public.

Pirata13 · September 2009

I am with the majority. I'm ok with it, just cover up.

tidetravel · September 2009

Yes Colleen - because everytime I see public boob-flop and babes sucking teats, my only thought is whether or not babe mouths the nipple like his father and whether or not he's gonna make some girl really happy some day ::eyeroll::

colleen1414 · September 2009

ok fair enough. you dont like it because you dont like seeing other womens breasts. i get it. however i dont think that would be a reason enough to ban nursing in public.

jasmineh7777 · September 2009

I really hate the "that's what they are intended for."Maybe, once upon a time when every woman had the choice of being a nun or a momma. That's not really the case anymore. I choose not to procreate. My boobs are for *making my shirts fit well, maybe *getting me out of speeding tickets..if they were bigger and I didn't look 12..and recreation with my FI. That is all.

Nebb · September 2009

I dont think theres anything wrong with hating babies. Kicking babies when you see them because you hate them so much, maybe. Being open about your hatred for babies, not that bad. People are viewed differently when they openly dislike children, are strongly opinionated against having children, or go against the "norm", because everyone MUST love babieS!!

tidetravel · September 2009

Please quote the poster who said to ban nursing in public, because I sure didn't see it. What I did see is people saying that they understand the need for it, but it makes them uncomfortable if the baby isn't covered.

ThePinkSuperhero · September 2009

I'm fine with public breastfeeding, as long as the mother is trying to be discreet. It makes me uncomfortable, but a littl baby's gotta eat. I've noticed that the older the kid is, the more uncomfortable I feel. There are a lot of BF Moms at our church, and some of them are breast-feeding kids that walk and talk. Looked over this Sunday as I was processing out, and the kid (who has to be at least 1.5) being breast-fed had his hand up, playing with his Mom's necklace and being bratty, hitting her in the face and all.

nda_roxybabe · September 2009

Nebb- I damn near spit my bagel all over the screening at the kicking babies comment haha Now, do anyone of you intend to not breastfeed? I don't think I will...

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · September 2009

In the case of a breast-feeding baby, that's exactly what boobs are intended for at that moment. I don't think anyone said all breasts are for breastfeeding ALL the time. I would be willing to bet that even moms can use them for recreational purposes.

temerityjane · September 2009

Soon-to-br-Mrs.Vogt - Is it recreation if that's where I rest the clicker then I'm watching TV?Oh, also, I can carry a lot of stuff because I have a shelf.I have to say, I do get a lot of use out of my boobs on a daily basis, yet have not ever used them to feed another human.

Golfer'sLady · September 2009

I'm a generally modest not-naked-in-the-locker-room kind of lady so I of course appreciate, and certainly think it is appropriate for a both to cover up a bit when breastfeed (but by all means, do what you have to do).In generally, I'd prefer not to see your boobs. I was in a bar watching Sunday NFL football with DH (when he was FI) and friends and a lady at the next table just whipped them out and started breast feeding. Everyone at other tables was staring, making comments (although I just kept my mouth shut) and she was just so simply offended.Sorry, you have a baby (and your exposed BOOBS) in a bar. Button up your top and get over it.

lpstl · September 2009

nda, The entire concept of BF seriously skeeved me out until about 2 months ago. It was like a light switched and all the sudden it didn't bug me, I imagine this is kind of what it feels like to be assimilated to the borg. Also, I've been meaning to tell you that you were in a really strange dream I had the other night. You had just found out you were pregnant and you, me, sucrets, gg, and a bunch of other posters were looking around for apartments, but they had to be in the same complex. We ended up renting some out in a complex CS owned, but she turned out to be a slum lord.

vicmo5 · September 2009

Roxybabe-If I do it will only be while I'm on maternity leave because there is no sanitary place to pump in my office.

mrstarawalsh · September 2009

Totally appropriate, covered or not. Doesn't bother me. But then again I'm a breastfeeding mom. I've breastfed in public, in some of the weirdest places sometimes. I've always made an effort to cover the boob, and most of the time people didn't even notice I was doing it. Although I never used a blanket or a nursing shawl b/c my son would just rip it off and I'd be exposed even more. I had nursing shirts and whatnot that made nursing discreet. I even played a round of put put once with my son attached to the boob via front carrier (marvelous invention, those things!). My basic attitude about it is: if you don't like it feel free to put a blanket over your own head.

TiDa2009 · September 2009

Now, do anyone of you intend to not breastfeed? I don't think I will...I won't be. I'll definitely pump as breast milk is very good for the baby but I don't want to be the sole souce of nourishment. I think it would make me bitter if I was the one that had to get up in the middle of the night every time. If it's pumped and stored in the fridge, FI could get up, heat it, and feed baby just as well as I could.Also, I've heard it's very painful and my sister has told me stories of scabbing, chafing, biting,even bleeding, and I'm not down with that. I'm sure a breast pump isn't pleasant either, but at least it's predictable.I suppose once I acutally get pregnant, my mind may change like lpstl's, but right now, no.

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