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Reception Issue...vent

gina emleegina emlee member
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FI and I decided a while back that we were not going to have alcohol at the dinner reception after our wedding.  The reason is the FI's family are a part of the LDS church and do not drink and we did not want to offend them.  Well I got a call from my Mom this morning at 8:30 arguing with me about not having alcohol at the reception.  She doesn't understand why it's a big deal and thinks that they are "pushing" their religion on the others who might want a drink.  Now my Mom barely drink in the first place, one sip would be enough for her but other than that this is a decision that FI and I made.  I don't understand why people can't forego drinking for 2 and a half hours.  There would probably only be 3 or 4 people that would drink so what's the big deal.  They are free to do whatever they want before or after dinner.  This is the last thing that I want to worry about less than 4 weeks before my wedding.Vent over, Thanks for listening.
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  • soccer155soccer155 member
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    Why do parents always insist on butting in? Its your wedding and you should do what makes you happy. As long as you and your FI are in agreement than dont worry about everyone else. It's your wedding! :-)
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  • slevesquemutslevesquemut
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    I really think in the end, it will not be a big deal.  Just remember that this is your wedding and it's about what you want.
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  • Future.Mrs.H.Future.Mrs.H.
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    In my case I will do it backwards, I will have alcohol and whomever choose not to drink they don't have to.But...this is not what I would do or what you mom would do...it is what you gus decided, period.If people feel the need to drink and they are gonna be upset if they go to a party where alcohol is not gonna be served, they can buy their own beer and keep it in the car. Their problem, not yours. And your mom can say wherver she wants, but then again it is not her wedding.
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  • nubiannqweennubiannqween
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    I agree with pp, as long as you and your FI are happy with your plans, you can't worry about everyone else and their two cents. You can't please every one...unfortunetly, that is how it is. Good luck!
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    My thought is that all those LDS relatives go to restaurants that serve alcohol so being around it shouldn't be a big problem. why must the entire reception be catered to them?  If they don't drink, great!  If others would like it would be really nice for them to have the opportunity.
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  • ukjenn231ukjenn231 member
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    I know how you feel. My grand parents are super old fashioned and will NOT even go to a restaurant that serves alcohol (Cracker Barrel is the only place I have ever been with them). FI's grandparents don't drink either. However, most everyone else drinks a little and FI wanted to have alcohol and didn't care to offend his grandparents. I, on the other hand, felt bad about disappointing my poor old grandparents. But then my grandma for some reason told my mom the other day that she would not be coming to my AHR because my dad was putting on the shindig which meant there would probably be alcohol. So, the problem resolved itself. If it hadn't, though, FI and I would probably have argued about it quite a bit.
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