Name Change: Creative Idea. Thoughts?

stellina09 · September 2009

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georgia_bride09 · September 2009

That sounds like more trouble than it's worth, to be honest. If you feel like you're being stripped of your identity, then you should think long and hard before changing your last name.

Barakins · September 2009

That's an interesting idea, and I personally like it! How does your FI feel about it?

betrothed123 · September 2009

In my county it wasn't an option to change my first name when I got married. This may not be the case everywhere, but they gave us a list of options. Those were our only choices. In order to change your first name you might need to go through a legal name change process.

[Deleted User] · September 2009

Not saying this would be a reason not to go through with it, but if I had a friend that changed their first name, it would weird me out a bit. I would have a hard time calling them by the new name.

lyndausvi · September 2009

Yes I think it's strange to change your first name in order to match your hertiage. Plus I think you need a court order to do that. It's not hard, but it's harder than changing your last name. I would just not change your last name. I added DH's to mine. It's not fond of it, but it's my name and he knew he didn't have a say.

Brie2010 · September 2009

It is considerably harder to change your first name for reasons like this than it is to change your last name to your new husband's. You would probably have to get a lawyer and go to court for it.Also, I think it's kind of a weird idea. It's your name, and it's not your fiance's to change. Since you don't want to hyphenate, I'd tell him to suck it, keep my name, have him keep his, and hyphenate our kids' names.

EmmaBride2B · September 2009

If you feel that strongly about it then don't change it. I think people will continue to call you Julie anyways, like you said. Or, if you absolutely want to take his last name you could make your maiden your middle/second middle name.

tidetravel · September 2009

Changing your last name should not change how you "identify" yourself. If you don't want the name to get lost for good, drop your middle name entirely and change your middle name to your maiden name.Changing your first name just sounds stupid to me. If your parents wanted to name you the italian version, they would have done so. Doing that would cause me more of an identity crisis than anything.

Golfer'sLady · September 2009

I think it's fine if that is what you want to do but be prepared for people to still call you Julie. It is hard for an adult to switch it up and expect it to stick without a side eye.Also, I'd review the name change policies in your state. More than likely it will be a legal name change where you'll have to go to court to change it.

TheSaltyPeanut · September 2009

I don't like the idea... but how about using your last name now as part of your middle name? I know there are some knotties that have done that.

georgia_bride09 · September 2009

FWIW, I didn't love my old last name, but I didn't want to lose it, so I'm now a four-namer. First Middle Maiden Last on my SS card. My driver's license is First Middle Maiden Initial Last-- it was too long for everything to fit.

Pirata13 · September 2009

I am making my last name my middle name, as I am also very attached to it. So I will be Pirata MyLast HisLast.

stellina09 · September 2009

Thanks for the feedback! I was afraid I was bordering on a crazy idea. I didnt even think of the possibility of needing a lawyer. Sounds like it is much more trouble than it may be worth.

salt78 · September 2009

[i]I feel like I am being stripped of my identity.[/i] That's sad. Why don't you just make your last name your middle name?

bigvoice3 · September 2009

I mean, despite what everyone is saying...its your name. If this is what you want to do- do it. If you are up for the cost and time it would take to legally change your first name....do it. Its different, but that doesn't make it bad. Do what makes you happy. Its your identity and your story. Tell it the way you want to.

BrittBritt22 · September 2009

Wouldn't the Italian version of your name be Giuliana not Julianna?

stillundecided4 · September 2009

A few of my co-workers made their last name their middle name. They did this because of their career so people would still know them as "Jane Doe" for their career and in real life her legal name was "Jane Doe Smith". Would that work? (BTW, I work in TV news so these people are on tv and known to viewers a certain way so they really couldn't/shouldn't change their last name on air)

lyndausvi · September 2009

I also think it would be confusing. I went from Lynda Smith to Lynda Smith Brown. Whether you look for Lynda Smith, Lynda Brown or Lynda Smith Brown everyone knows who you are talking about. If you went from Julie Smith to Juliana Brown. People would be like WHO??? There is nothing to tie you to your old name.

stellina09 · September 2009

Wouldn't the Italian version of your name be Giuliana not Julianna?Yep! Julie's not really my name - I just picked an easy example.

stillundecided4 · September 2009

I didn't see above post about middle name--- fail.

kristinanddan · September 2009

Why not just use your last as your new middle?This isn't always an option. Here in NY, I would have to go to court to do a name change like that. The only options here are:the surname of the other spouse;any former surname of either spouse;a name combining into a single surname all or a segment of the premarriage surname or any former surname of each spouse;a combination name separated by a hyphen, provided that each part of such combination surname is the premarriage surname, or any former surname, of each of the spouses.

ashmy211 · September 2009

My aunt did what scoetto did and changed her middle name to her maiden name. That was my first idea when I read your post!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2009

My fiance feels strongly about me taking his last nameDoes he have reasons that he's given you? Is that the deciding factor? I know you said you want to have the same last name as your children and not hyphenate (I don't blame you, my last name would be a nightmare to hyphenate), but is that the real reason?Honestly, I really like my name. It's unusual and it's very, very Scottish (my Dad is half Scottish). I don't want to loose it because it IS part of my identity, so I'm keeping it. I haven't decided if my future children will have my fiance's last name or if we'll combine them, but I do want they to have the same last name as each other. (We have friends who have one child with his last name, one with her last name. Which is cool, I just wouldn't do it.)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2009

You could also give your children Italian first names. There are so many Irish-Italian marriages that no one would think it odd. (I went to a Catholic high school.)

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