Strip bar opinion- Poll

JSBB2010 · September 2009

O.k. girls what do you think about your fi and strip clubs???I'm not judging femaile strippers, just curious about your opinions. Do you hate it all together?Do you not mind it?Do you not like it, but you stand it because you don't feel threatened?Just tell me what you think girls? I'm wondering what other women all of the country feel about this sticky subject and how my own opinion fits into it.

LadyBird9 · September 2009

Luckily, DH wants nothing to do with strip clubs. I didn't believe him when he told me... but he thinks they are gross and hasn't been to one, and doesn't plan on going to one. He is a keeper! LOL! I don't mind them... as long as there is a large group of people going, and there are no lap dances. If DH went to a strip club alone or with one other guy and had a bunch of lap dances - I would be really upset. But... I don't have to worry about it!

Soon2bMrsNaylor · September 2009

FI's not that big of a fan of strip clubs and neither am I. Nothing against the girls that work there, I've been and they've got moves...LOL. But, I would rather he not go b/c more because if he did it would be w/ a couple people that would undoubtedly push him beyond his (and my) comfort level (sticking money in the g-string, sitting in the front row) and because FI's really non-confrontational he would say okay if they pushed hard enough (he would put his foot down at the lap dance though). For his bachelor party he's said he wants to just go shoot pool and hang out at the bar w/ some friends. Unfortunately his brother and cousins are probably going to give him a hard time and tell him he has to go, blah, blah, blah. Which is too bad b/c he should get to do what he wants. If they go I guess I'll put up with it, but not be thrilled about it.I didn't mean for that to get so long....sorry!

SimplyMistaken · September 2009

I don't mind them at all. That being said, Sean does not like them at all. I have actually said I would go with him but he wants nothing to do with it!

kreeves42 · September 2009

I personally think they can be a lot of fun with a big group of friends. DH doesn't like them though. We've both been, but not together. I wouldn't want him going without me, but if he did for a bachelor party I would grudgingly put up with it.

Marci17154 · September 2009

I have no problem with them, and have been in the past with ex's. As far as I know its not really DF thing so we have not really had much convo about it. I know that they are planning on having strippers at his bparty and I have no problem with it, lap dances included. This doesnt bother me because I know he will be coming home to me. With that being said, I would have a problem with him going alone (large group of friends I am fine with) or spending money that we need.

gabi829 · September 2009

I don't have a problem with them at all. In our area dancers can only go topless and the clubs are pretty nice on the inside. Fi has been for a few bachelor parties but he never gets lap dances. The dancers are there to provide entertainment and that's it; women at regular bars are far more likely to come on to a man than a dancer at a strip club.If any ladies feel concerned, I suggest putting on a show of your own for your FH/DH. You'd be surprised how much men appreciate a silly little strip tease.

*tinkertoy* · September 2009

If he were going with a big group and there was no lap dancing, I guess I wouldn't care but luckily he isn't interested.

hed970s · September 2009

Ehhh, I've been a couple of times with groups of people afterbars and with my ex... I don't mind it. I actually had fun the few times I have been. FI is going the night before his b party (they are going to a college football game) and I don't mind. Yeah, I am sure he will have boobs in his face at some point, but I know a majority of the strippers I have seen aren't really that good looking or have that great of bodies, so I don't really feel threatened by it.

chosen175 · September 2009

Personally, I think strip clubs are degrading. I don't understand how people can take their clothes off for money. Makes me think they have no respect for themselves. FI doesn't care for strip clubs either - he thinks all the strippers are cheap and trashy. He explained one day "I'd probably be exposed to fewer germs if I licked the back of a urinal than I would if I got THAT close to a stripper." lol

suannoch · September 2009

My view might be a little odd. Strippers are fine, but I draw the line at hookers. Yes, I know, a little extreme. Basically the policy is a strict "Look but don't touch". I guess in a way I see it as a compliment. He may look at the ladies, but they don't stack up real well when compared to the whole package he gets with me. I'm not naive; guys are visual, they are going to look. I think it is more unhealthy to suppress something natural. If you're strong and secure in yourself & your relationship, it doesn't mean a thing. What bothers me more is that going to a strip club is expected for a bach party (or bachlorette party for that matter). At least the women are starting to branch out more and do pj parties, spa days, trips, etc. I have no desire to go to the strip clubs, but FI is very into the idea of seeing strippers in Vegas. Wonder what the difference is? I think Ron White said it best "If you've seen one set of t*ts... you want to see the rest of them". And that, I think, sums it up for "most" men. LOL. You can't help but love em anyway.

gabi829 · September 2009

Chosen175: Before you judge dancers for taking off their clothes for money consider that lots of people have to take jobs they might not necessarily like to make ends meet. With the recession, many educated women have entered the adult industry.

chosen175 · September 2009

Yeah, I know that, thanks. I believe this poll was to give opinions and I gave mine. That's fine if you disagree, but I am not going to change my opinion.

gabi829 · September 2009

If you say that you "know" what I have stated to be true, then by simple logic you also acknowledge that your denouncement of them as "cheap" and "trashy" is wrong.I don't think we, as women, should denigrate women who might not have better opportunities.

Soon2bMrsNaylor · September 2009

Let's agree to disagree....it's really not that big of a deal and we're all entitled to our own opinions. Keep the drama off this board please

beachybride10 · September 2009

I'll give my opinion here... I think that since I'm so relaxed about them that FI has no desire to go. He doesn't like them to begin with, but I think since he has my blessing to go to one, it really makes him not want to go.

Do I prefer they not go, sure, will I make a fuss if they go, no. Going in a group is okay, look don't touch. What matters is that he loves me and that he's coming home to me. Plus, FI hasn't been to one since we started dating because he thinks its disrespectful to me.

JSBB2010 · September 2009

Thanks girls. I wasn't looking to start drama with everyone, but I appreciate your answers. I personally have been a few times with my fi over the years and it's not been a big deal. I think it was because we were with another couple that are good friends and it was all in fun. Of course, my fi's buddies want him to go for the bparty and I'm o.k. with that, I'm just a little hesitant because I don't want any last minute issues before the wedding. Such as: one of my friends husband went to one for his bparty and came home with strippers names written all over his legs, arms and face in permanent marker!!! That kind of thing would really tick me off. I was just concerned and wanted to know what you ladies thought. In the end he can do what he wants because we don't have that kind of relationship where I would ever "tell" him what to do, but I just want things to go smoothly. Ya know?Thanks!!!

FutureMrs.McC · September 2009

I don't mind them. I've been a few times with FI over the years. It's sleezy but at the same time we always have fun. Now if FI started going for lunch on Wednesdays then we would have a problem. However, I do NOT approve of strippers in the home/hotel room. Those women are pretty much prostitutes.

CNN in 2010 · September 2009

Chiming in a little late but..... I don't mind if fi goes to strip clubs. When his buddies are in town or they're doing guys night they'll go to the strip club and I don't care. I've gone with fi to strip clubs before and we've gotten a couples lap dance, it was fun and we got a kick out of it. Fi actually prefers if I go to strip clubs with him when they go because we all sit at a table and drink and have fun. If fi was the type of persont that was addicted to strip clubs and was there every week that would bother me but he goes twice a year if that with his buddies. I know that he finds many women attractive just like I find other guys attractive and we look but I know at the end of the night he's coming home to me clean clear of guilt, to love me up. and to tell me I'm the sexiest female he's ever seen :O)

MzelleRicaine · September 2009

Oh Cristina, major LOLs at the Greek Soprano's idea!!!It always makes me angry when I hear stories like the strippers' names in permanent marker, because I think that kind of stuff is really mean-spirited. Like it's funny for 5 minutes and then there's a good amount of SUCK, for hours or even days or weeks or longer when you're trying to do things like rub permanent marker off someone's skin.*m*

Soon2BMrs.Diaz · September 2009

Fi is not a strip club man. I wouldn't mind if he went for a b-party. I would be the one more likely to go to one. I have been before with an ex and it was nothing but drama. He was the jealous one. Let me say I was getting hit on. 1.) by a stripper (must say she was beautiful) and 2) by a man who a girl was dancing for him and the whole time staring at me. Ex was not happy. Chairs starting flying. To much drama for me but if he wanted to go for a b-party I am fine with that.

nubiannqween · September 2009

I don't care for it...and thank god, my FI doesn't care for it either!!

lynlovesjoe · September 2009

I used to comment to my fi that we should go to a strip club together, but when a couple coworkers suggested that he go with them after work, I started crying and begged him not to go. So, I really surprised myself.I don't want those girls around my man just because I would be devastated if he was more attracted to them than to me. It would be like I gave him the chance to choose another woman.I don't have a problem with strippers or men who go to strip joints, it's just that when you are committed to someone, I don't see why you should be there. Go home to your girl who is supposed to be everything you need.For his bachelor party, he is going camping and if one of his stupid friends gets a stripper there, I am sure my man would do the right thing and run away into the woods. haha. And for my party, we will be taking a pole dancing class so that WE can do the stripping for our men, not some stranger.

Mrs.G_09 · September 2009

Up until about a week ago I would have told you that strip clubs were nasty and disgusting and I hated DH going to them, but then I actually went to one with DH last Friday it actually wasn't all that horrible. Not that I would go on a regular basis or anything, but maybe every once in a long while. I still don't really know why DH even goes there, why pay some chick money when you have someone at home for free? Anyway, I don't feel threatened by them anymore, I was prettier than half the chicks there. This is not to say I like DH going there, but I'm not going to forbid him from going. If he wants to do something, he'll do it.

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